To be furious with church crèche?

[Jolene1011]

I'm a long time reader first time poster so please be gentle.
So a friend invited me to visit a new church with her today and me my husband and toddler (16 months) went along with her.
They have a crèche for kids 1-14 split into smaller age groups which we put our daughter in. There were several other happy seeming babies in there but when we came back I noticed straight away she had something in her mouth. Asked crèche ladies who said it was breadsticks and raisins. When got back to the car noticed she still had same mouthful in her mouth and didn't seem to be chewing it. I pried her mouth open to find a blue, plastic "frozen" ring in her mouth!
I showed my husband and he was gobsmacked I couldn't believe they could be that negligent and that they had lied to me when I asked what it was.
We were already down the street in the car on the way to reconnect with the friend who had took us there to have lunch when this happened and I was so angry I knew if I went back into the church I would probably come to regret my words later on.

Have left a voicemail with their head office and waiting to hear back from someone there about the crèche. I thought I was well in my rights to be appalled by this until I told my friend what we had found in her mouth and she seemed totally unsurprised or bothered. This friend is my child's godmother and usually very caring about anything like this. Am I overreacting???

I mean this kindly, but rather than kicking up a stink, I would take this as a sign not to leave your baby in a crèche. I know people will disagree, but I don't think a crèche is really suitable for babies at all. I might manage to leave 3yo DD in one now, but not 2yo DS as he is not yet capable of communicating effectively with people outside his family and needs to be watched like a hawk because he will stick anything in his mouth.

Paul

Fink laughing my arse off at mixing up the pope with local bishop!

He wasn't, it was the local bishop, who is quite frequently to be found in the cathedral.

that's brilliant

Seriously, nobody will volunteer to run creches any more with all the ridiculous complaints they have to face.

I'd keep quiet as your DC stole a frozen ring!!!!!

Paul

Oh, OP. How ridiculous. Slagging off and being furious with people who give up their time for nothing to look after your child so you can do as you please? Rather ironic that this happened at a church too - as a churchgoer, aren't you meant to be a bit... I don't know. Nicer?

yabu you didn't notice til you got in the car your reaction is ott

Were you asked to give permission for your child to have breadsticks and raisins, or did you provide them yourself?
Parents visiting our creche for the first time would be asked to fill in a form with medical information which they think we might need to know, including allergies, and they have to give written permission for children to be given a drink and biscuit (which is all we offer). Some parents send the child's own snack in a bag and a cup with their favourite drink, others give permission for water only. I think I am as worried that your child had her mouth full of breadsticks and raisins as I am that she had the ring in her mouth.
I don't think it will help to be furious, but a discussion about how things could be improved might be helpful.

Well I was proud of it Thomas!

Yes I agree that feeding unknown wee ones could be risky and it might well be helpful to raise that point.

Otherwise, I'd just leave it there.

I can't believe you picked her up, took her to the car and strapped her in, and didn't notice that the 'food' in her mouth didn't appear to be being eaten...