to think, frankly id rather be in my own that be with or live with a man ever again?

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Recently posted a thread about my dh basically being a lazy git who is quite happy for me to cook, clean, pick up after him and do everything with our 8 month old (all whilst i do full time uni and a job) whilst he does nothing. And i see many other mumsnetters posting about similar situations...where the wife/partner gets called a moan or a nag...yet the man does absolutely nothing.

I didnt marry the man im stuck with today. He used to be good company, there used to be a pretty equal division of labour so to speak: this was nefore children. Now hes just...changed.

Aibu to think that if i do leave my dh, that i genuinely have no desire to be with a man again. The idea of living with a man again....god. id just rather be by myself. Has anyone else experienced this? Im only 25 but i think i would be so much happier without having to bother with men ever again!!!

I suspect that most men would look to live with another woman again at some point. Easier for them.

If I ever manage to get rid of the current woman, it would only be sex that would induce me to take on another. I would definitely not get married again, and make sure I was always in a position to throw her out if she turned out anything like the current one, who has caused my home to be a anxiety-inducing shit-hole for the last 20 years.

Same. I'd quite happily live the rest of my life with no man. I'd be happy now with my 6year old. I'd love my own bed. No toxic farts, snoring, extra washing......

YANBU. If anything happened to DH, I could not be bothered living with someone else.

Theo, you could live alone but still be in a sexual relationship with a woman, or several women if you want. Nothing wrong with that so long as everyone is happy about it.

In the fullness of time, you might even meet one of us from this thread who wanted a sexual relationship with you but wouldn't want to share living arrangements.

I'd also be very happy on my own, not that my DH is a dick head around the house, he does loads, but I am just very, very happy with my own company - don't even want DC around . I hate the endless compromising that family life involves - which usually means that no one is really happy.

Hell no. YANBU.
I don't even want a friend with benefits.

Funny I was just talking about this with friends yesterday. I live with my two children and love the peace and how it stays tidy(ish). I was saying I don't have the time, energy, money or inclination to find/live with another man. I have this horror of seeing "big shoes" in my hallway! That might be a flashback to the permanent mess my ex left in his wake. My mum has been on her own for nearly 30 years. She's busy, happy and independent with a lovely group of friends. I'd be perfectly happy to go down the same route

I'd like to have a non resident partner. I was so* stressed and unhappy living with my exH. I don't think I can live with a bloke again. He'd need to be exceptional.

been single 10 years. would not change it for the world

YANBU. My DH is a lovely man, pulls his weight without having to be nagged and is great with our kids, but if something ever happened to him or the relationship I cannot be bothered with trying to find another one. I'll just get loads of cats and live in a cottage surrounded by nettles instead.

I will never live with a man again thank god. For a start I don't want them getting their hands on my money, I don't want to share a bed with a sweaty hairy body and I am not giving enough to cook and make cups of tea for someone else all day long.

I am quite prepared to sort myself and the kids and the cat but a man, no thanks.

This thread rings very true and makes me annoyed and sad (and glad to be bisexual ). If anything, I'm the slattern in my current relationship.

After I broke up with the last man I was with I remember speaking to my Mother and saying I thought most men were selfish,arrogant,conceited, smelly hedonistic arseholes and quite frankly I am not interested enough to bother looking to see if I happen upon on that proves me wrong :)

The kids are with my ex today. Was going to do very sensible things around the house but have infact:

spent an inordinate amount of time on MN

eaten kitkats, pringles and lasagne

had the music up loud and been dancing around my kitchen laughing at how embarrased my kids would be if they could see me

will now do a small amount of housework, drink far too much tea and eat an inappropriate evening meal

Bliss.................... I think you can guess my answer !

Yanbu I love my dh but he drives me up the wall. If anything happened to him there is no way I would seek out another man. It's just too much hassle. I'd much prefer being by myself.

Divorced exDH years ago. I live with DDs aged 21 & 20 we get on well, we're not under each other's feet we all have our own lives. Theyre at Uni & also work, this house runs like clockwork its always calm and tidy. I have a very good social life, can indulge my hobbies, no man in my home to take into account re. his moods, extra stuff around the house, extra workload, he likes to watch tv in bed but I hate it prefer reading, etc. I worked yesterday & have done sweet f.a. today. DDs are out, DD2 cooked dinner before she went, and Ive lounged on sofa all day catching up with a couple of tv series, and reading. I have ice cream . I've been with OH since 2010 we don't live together, see each other twice a week, and that suits me. I won't ever live with a man again

I can't imagine ever living with another man. (or any other adult for that matter) I'm quite happy with my life now.

Im only mid 20's and already feel like this, I resent sharing my space and compromising most likely to my detriment.
Although I do enjoy mens company and have an occasional sleep over but that's my limit, I wonder sometimes if that makes me selfish.

They get a if they leave a single thing behind deliberately as I see it like a dog pissing on a lamp post.

Current guy is perfect lives long distance so isn't around all the time and hasn't left a single thing on his visits as well as just generally lovely.

YANBU, OP. I am a 39 year old single parent. My ex moved out almost three years ago, and I can say hand on heart that I have no desire to live with another man ever again. I was miserable for years with my ex - now I love it being just me and the kids, and I would never want to risk upsetting that by moving someone else in. I don't miss regular sex much tbh, but I have friends I can call upon if that becomes an issue .

I've noticed that friends and family all said 'Good for you' when I split with exP and I told them I felt this way. But after a year or so people began asking if I had joined any dating sites or had met anyone nice... I'm definitely viewed almost with suspicion because I don't want another relationship! A few friends who have had marriages break down recently have all signed up to Plenty of Fish, Tinder etc. within weeks - long before they've even had chance to get over the break up (and definitely before their kids have dealt with it all). I don't get it, it's like they feel a life without a man is not a full and satisfying life.

Mistress that sounds so nice, that's what I'm aiming for. Split with dh but the seas haven't settled yet, children still at primary. Main things that get to me we own the house jointly so he has a key & lets himself in & this is whee he does his parenting. I've been desperate to move somewhere tiny I can afford but reading your post - I really want the kids to feel they can stay with me until they're ready to leave & not sure that'd happen in a tiny house, perhaps I'll hold out for this one. It'll always be half his though

I might be the only one, but I'd live with another man if anything happened to my DP. I do love my own company but I also love having someone to share my life with. Then again I might feel that way because I'm in a happy relationship!

I'm in a happy relationship, Osirus, but if anything happened to my H, I really CBA'd. I have no desire to do the blended families thing, either.