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to fall for a very old friend?

531 replies

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 27/02/2016 00:08

So I can't talk to my IRL friends about this as we are a close knit group and I'm worried about it going wrong. But I am in a bit of a pickle.

I recently met up with a man I have been friends with for years but for one reason or another, haven't seen for the last couple of years. We have been out for dinner and/or drinks about 5 times in the last couple of weeks, sometimes alone, sometimes with friends.

The time before last we were mistaken for a couple by a drunk old boy trying to make conversation. Neither of us corrected him - keen to escape - but I kind of glowed when he referred to me as 'your lady', to my friend. When we left I was suddenly overwhelmed with an urge to kiss him goodbye. (I bottled it and kissed his cheek. Unusual for us as we are both very reserved and a bit awkward.)

We ran into each other last night and had a drink. I had bailed on a very big fancy party, and he was surprised but pleased to see me. I went home at the end of the night and kept waking up in the night trying to make sense of it all.

We are around the same age, he is a little older, and both single. He is painfully shy (I think he has only had one serious girlfriend) and I have a (frankly undeserved) reputation as being a bit of a slapper. We share interests, can sit and talk all night, text almost every day. I don't want to jump him - he would run for the hills - but I can't shake the quiet realisation that I may be falling in love with my kind, shy, gentle friend.

Where do I go from here?

OP posts:
ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 03/03/2016 21:03

Diddley..... Nope!!

OP posts:
EllsTeeth · 03/03/2016 21:10

Eh wha?

MillionToOneChances · 03/03/2016 21:12

Blatantly place marking. I doubt the cold would put him off!

HELENSCRESCENT · 03/03/2016 21:17

Good luck :)

Trills · 03/03/2016 21:22

A cold might be offputting for someone on a FIRST date if they've not seen you much before.

Not so much someone who has known you for years.

cattychatty · 03/03/2016 21:37

Ahh no more updates in dying here!!

stumblymonkey · 03/03/2016 21:39

Eeeep: have only just discovered this thread and have devoured the whole thing like a new novel and now......cliffhanger!

Placemarking....no cold feet now OP!

GiddyOnZackHunt · 03/03/2016 21:47

On the plus side wine might dry up the snotty nose.

Clobbered · 03/03/2016 21:55

Blatant place mark. No news is good news?

Annecyinyourpantsy · 03/03/2016 21:56

Op just found this thread I hope it's all going well!!

FuckYouJamieOliver · 03/03/2016 21:58

Go with your heart , if it happens you'll never regret it
Life is too short
Permission to abandon MN if you have more important things to see to Grin

MillionToOneChances · 03/03/2016 22:05

Permission to abandon MN if you have more important things to see to

Only if she updates ASAP after!

mincepieprivateeye · 03/03/2016 22:08

I've been following this thread and I so hope for a happy ending. I've had a really crap day and it would be lovely to hear the OP is finding happiness Smile

GiddyOnZackHunt · 03/03/2016 22:10

Yy million! I will expect to come home from the school run to vicarious bliss. Or sympathy Lemsip and tissues. But hopefully bliss.

Craftycakey15 · 03/03/2016 22:21

Lovely story. Hope the date goes well!

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 03/03/2016 22:24

lions

He went to the loo so I blew my nose....and got glared at at the other side of the restaurant!!! Oops :)

OP posts:
ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 03/03/2016 22:26

Oops meant to post that 2 hours ago 😆
Have rolled on to a pub.. .
Am sitting with my hand stretched Right Across The Fucking Table wondering why it's so hard to just touch someone jeez I'm a useless fucker.

OP posts:
GiddyOnZackHunt · 03/03/2016 22:28

Do it. Go on.
Big smile and open the conversation...

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 03/03/2016 22:29

[LOO UPDATE]

Just got joined at table at the pub by a random guy who vaguely knows us both and seems immune to my TOTAL SHADE I am throwing at him SERIOUSLY MATE I WAS ALMOST HOLDING HIS HAND GO AWAY.

OP posts:
GiddyOnZackHunt · 03/03/2016 22:30

Bugger. Sneeze in bloke's beer

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 03/03/2016 22:31

Undone a button on the very sheer shirt for sheer indecency because gin.

OP posts:
Grapejuicerocks · 03/03/2016 22:35

Come on op.

GiddyOnZackHunt · 03/03/2016 22:36

Do not accidentally pull random bloke :)

candykane25 · 03/03/2016 22:36

Please do the my heels are too high please can you hold my hand to help me balance on the walk home.
Then trip and fall into his arms.
With moonlight shining into your face.

Grapejuicerocks · 03/03/2016 22:36

Do it, do it, DO IT...