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to fall for a very old friend?

531 replies

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 27/02/2016 00:08

So I can't talk to my IRL friends about this as we are a close knit group and I'm worried about it going wrong. But I am in a bit of a pickle.

I recently met up with a man I have been friends with for years but for one reason or another, haven't seen for the last couple of years. We have been out for dinner and/or drinks about 5 times in the last couple of weeks, sometimes alone, sometimes with friends.

The time before last we were mistaken for a couple by a drunk old boy trying to make conversation. Neither of us corrected him - keen to escape - but I kind of glowed when he referred to me as 'your lady', to my friend. When we left I was suddenly overwhelmed with an urge to kiss him goodbye. (I bottled it and kissed his cheek. Unusual for us as we are both very reserved and a bit awkward.)

We ran into each other last night and had a drink. I had bailed on a very big fancy party, and he was surprised but pleased to see me. I went home at the end of the night and kept waking up in the night trying to make sense of it all.

We are around the same age, he is a little older, and both single. He is painfully shy (I think he has only had one serious girlfriend) and I have a (frankly undeserved) reputation as being a bit of a slapper. We share interests, can sit and talk all night, text almost every day. I don't want to jump him - he would run for the hills - but I can't shake the quiet realisation that I may be falling in love with my kind, shy, gentle friend.

Where do I go from here?

OP posts:
JeremyZackHunt · 03/03/2016 18:19

Ywbu not to keep us updated from the loo!
I hope it goes well :)

Waltermittythesequel · 03/03/2016 18:26

You HAVE to update from the loo!

oldlaundbooth · 03/03/2016 18:34

This thread is awesome. Just read the whole thing, it's better than a book!

OP, what are you going to wear tonight?

Evabeaversprotege · 03/03/2016 18:34

I hope you're excited! Have a fab night!

oldlaundbooth · 03/03/2016 18:35

You are also morally obligated to send frequent updates from the loo but not so frequent that he thinks you are incontinent

becksblue · 03/03/2016 18:56

Fun thread. Also place marking, sorry!

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 03/03/2016 18:59

waltermitty Clean hair, Rigby and Peller and an awful lot of concealer...

OP posts:
ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 03/03/2016 19:02

Stopped at pub on the way to neck a shot of vodka Smile Now going to be 10 mins late for dinner but at least the mutant butterflies have gone to sleep!!

OP posts:
Waltermittythesequel · 03/03/2016 19:02

Sounds perfect Grin

babyjane1 · 03/03/2016 19:03

Keep sneaking a look at my phone, think my dh thinks I'm having an affair, is it really sad that I'm beyond excited!!! Good luck Sista!!!

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 03/03/2016 19:04

PS not the pub. Gorgeous local Italian. Blush

OP posts:
oldlaundbooth · 03/03/2016 19:22

Love Italians Grin

God I'm so cheesy I need to stop.

Enjoy OP!!

CoraPirbright · 03/03/2016 19:28

We're all rooting for you OP!

ClashCityRocker · 03/03/2016 19:31

Joining the place marking Grin

Crazycake · 03/03/2016 19:45

Just read the whole thread! My now Dh was almost the one that got away, ten years on I'm so glad I bit the bullet (and ignored my nerves). We've been inseparable and so in love ever since. Good luck Wink

trixymalixy · 03/03/2016 19:50

Good luck!

HelloCanYouHearMe · 03/03/2016 20:10

I've just started reading this thread and I have tummy butterflies for you OP!!!

Why am I nervous?!!!!

I have everything crossed for you

EllsTeeth · 03/03/2016 20:29

Oh I am SO excited for you!! Another one here who married an old friend. Remembering the first night we got together, aaaaaah :-) GO FOR IT OP!!!!! Snog his face off over your pasta Grin

sillyoldfool · 03/03/2016 20:30

So excited for you!

GiddyOnZackHunt · 03/03/2016 20:32

Ooh I do have a slightly more concrete reason to look for a hat than this thread.... :)

Diddlydokey · 03/03/2016 20:47

Well... I can only presume that the op is busy snogging

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 03/03/2016 20:50

[LOO BREAK]

All lovely, very very nervous so feel I'm being a bit of an awkward twat but I'm a bottle of wine down and sure he can hear my heart thumping in my chest. Jesus shitting hell though we are both so shy...!!

Also husky voice from cold would be sexier without surreptitious snotface Confused

GTG else he might think I'm having a poo or doing drugs, neither of which are the impression I want to give here...

OP posts:
Diddlydokey · 03/03/2016 20:52

Go on ye girl you!

EllsTeeth · 03/03/2016 20:53

Aaawwww Smile Maybe slow down on the wine though - you want to REMEMBER your first kiss SmileSmile

ShesGotLionsInHerHeart · 03/03/2016 20:55

Go back to the table and say 'let's forget dessert and head back to my
place.'

Blow your nose first though.