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to fall for a very old friend?

531 replies

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 27/02/2016 00:08

So I can't talk to my IRL friends about this as we are a close knit group and I'm worried about it going wrong. But I am in a bit of a pickle.

I recently met up with a man I have been friends with for years but for one reason or another, haven't seen for the last couple of years. We have been out for dinner and/or drinks about 5 times in the last couple of weeks, sometimes alone, sometimes with friends.

The time before last we were mistaken for a couple by a drunk old boy trying to make conversation. Neither of us corrected him - keen to escape - but I kind of glowed when he referred to me as 'your lady', to my friend. When we left I was suddenly overwhelmed with an urge to kiss him goodbye. (I bottled it and kissed his cheek. Unusual for us as we are both very reserved and a bit awkward.)

We ran into each other last night and had a drink. I had bailed on a very big fancy party, and he was surprised but pleased to see me. I went home at the end of the night and kept waking up in the night trying to make sense of it all.

We are around the same age, he is a little older, and both single. He is painfully shy (I think he has only had one serious girlfriend) and I have a (frankly undeserved) reputation as being a bit of a slapper. We share interests, can sit and talk all night, text almost every day. I don't want to jump him - he would run for the hills - but I can't shake the quiet realisation that I may be falling in love with my kind, shy, gentle friend.

Where do I go from here?

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LindyHemming · 04/03/2016 07:03

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PirateSmile · 04/03/2016 07:04

Brilliant!

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ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 04/03/2016 07:13

Euphemia - predictive text has its uses!! And to be fair I proof read it a gazillion times to get it 'right', my sober texts aren't normally that comprehensive... Wine

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iyamehooru · 04/03/2016 07:17

This is ace, it's like reading a book, we are all waiting for the next chapter X

ConkersDontScareSpiders · 04/03/2016 07:40

Smile good work op!

Goingtobeawesome · 04/03/2016 07:45

I'm so happy for you. I really hope it works out.

Not being with the right person is awful and this is the right person for you.

Waltermittythesequel · 04/03/2016 07:49

But...but is it a go?

Ask him to be more specific please! Grin

LittleMissUpset · 04/03/2016 08:01

What a lovely thread :)

I am blatantly place marking but it sounds like he feels the same. I've had people I liked but I am shy and rubbish at reading the signals. Well done for sending the text, I bet it felt like forever until he replied.

You need another date so you can fill us in

SmallBearMumma · 04/03/2016 08:12

GrinGrinGrinGrin

I am ridiculously excited for you!!

diggerdigsdogs · 04/03/2016 08:14

Oh what a lovely Fred!

Flowers
MairzyDoats · 04/03/2016 08:20

Awwwww! I am late for bloody school just so I could find out what happened! Yay!!

Grapejuicerocks · 04/03/2016 08:22

I had to go to sleep last night without knowing you'd texted.

What a nice surprise this morning. Well done, well done you. Like you said, that courage would have disappeared this morning with the arrival of the hangover.

When are you seeing him next? How exciting. How long do we have to wait till the next chapter? Please arrange it for tonight. I've never been very good at reading over a long period of time. I never start a book unless I know I've got time to read it all quickly. Tonight please. Tonight! Invite him to yours. Can you cook?

Ludoole · 04/03/2016 08:24

GrinGrin
Yay!! Well done!!

londonrach · 04/03/2016 08:25

😍😍😍very exciting😍😍😍

GiddyOnZackHunt · 04/03/2016 08:25

Jolly well played!

Squeeeeeeeeee.
Grin

Diddlydokey · 04/03/2016 08:44

Love this Grin

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StillDrSethHazlittMD · 04/03/2016 08:52

This is so lovely. Wish it would happen to me!

HeffalumpHistory · 04/03/2016 08:59

Absolutely beaming reading this this morning Grin
Well done!! WinkStarFlowers

MagpieCursedTea · 04/03/2016 09:05

Woohoo! Off into the sunset you go (don't forget to keep updating us though...)

ifyoulikepinacolada · 04/03/2016 09:07

De-lurking to say SQUEEEEEEE!!!!! Well done you :)

ISeeIt · 04/03/2016 09:33

💃😍👍 yessss

PommelandCantle · 04/03/2016 10:03

I went to bed last night with a hopeful grin because you had texted him and I am soooooo happy for you right now. You must be buzzing. Joining the legions of peeps waiting for more news. Have a great day.

Realfootyfan · 04/03/2016 10:04

This thread has made lots of people very happy. Rooting for you both. Grin

Noneedtoworry · 04/03/2016 10:06

See, sunshine after rain :) I'm so delighted we egged you on to text. Hope you get your happy ever after