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to fall for a very old friend?

531 replies

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 27/02/2016 00:08

So I can't talk to my IRL friends about this as we are a close knit group and I'm worried about it going wrong. But I am in a bit of a pickle.

I recently met up with a man I have been friends with for years but for one reason or another, haven't seen for the last couple of years. We have been out for dinner and/or drinks about 5 times in the last couple of weeks, sometimes alone, sometimes with friends.

The time before last we were mistaken for a couple by a drunk old boy trying to make conversation. Neither of us corrected him - keen to escape - but I kind of glowed when he referred to me as 'your lady', to my friend. When we left I was suddenly overwhelmed with an urge to kiss him goodbye. (I bottled it and kissed his cheek. Unusual for us as we are both very reserved and a bit awkward.)

We ran into each other last night and had a drink. I had bailed on a very big fancy party, and he was surprised but pleased to see me. I went home at the end of the night and kept waking up in the night trying to make sense of it all.

We are around the same age, he is a little older, and both single. He is painfully shy (I think he has only had one serious girlfriend) and I have a (frankly undeserved) reputation as being a bit of a slapper. We share interests, can sit and talk all night, text almost every day. I don't want to jump him - he would run for the hills - but I can't shake the quiet realisation that I may be falling in love with my kind, shy, gentle friend.

Where do I go from here?

OP posts:
IsGonzoABird · 04/03/2016 01:25

Whaddidysay???

MillionToOneChances · 04/03/2016 01:28

That looks like a happy face....

MillionToOneChances · 04/03/2016 01:29

And refresh...

stealtheatingtunnocks · 04/03/2016 01:32

you're in a taxi en route to a ravishing, aren't you?

tenterhooks

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 04/03/2016 01:43

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ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 04/03/2016 01:44

stealth

PROPER LOLLED. No but I am grinning like a fucking stupid grin emoji innit

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stealtheatingtunnocks · 04/03/2016 01:46

Well, I'm not quite in bed yet, and, am sharing your stupid fucking grin.

Gaaaawwwwwrrrrrnmoisaaaaaahrrrrrn. Well, Go on, my Rain.

MillionToOneChances · 04/03/2016 01:47

He is definitely keen! To a paranoid reader, your text could read as you not being sure you want to be more than friends so he's just being a bit cautious too. Keep us in the loop (pleeeeease!!).

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 04/03/2016 01:48

SQUEEEEE!!

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MillionToOneChances · 04/03/2016 01:49

SQUEEEE indeed fuck I need to start dating again

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 04/03/2016 01:52

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stealtheatingtunnocks · 04/03/2016 01:55

Way better than "oh, is it raining? I hadn't noticed"

Fab.

BUY MORE CHIFFON SHIRTS

MillionToOneChances · 04/03/2016 02:00

Squeeeeeee!!

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 04/03/2016 02:00

stealth Literally when I went to the loo I was like OH MY GOD I MIGHT AS WELL BE NOT EVEN WEARING A SHIRT. Thank goodness for Rigby and Peller Grin

OP posts:
MillionToOneChances · 04/03/2016 02:01

Oh god, can't squeee on MN. Not more than once, anyway Grin

Strokethefurrywall · 04/03/2016 02:01

Fucking love this thread!!! 👏🏼👊🏼🙌🏼

Qwebec · 04/03/2016 02:01

oooh congrats!

ohtheholidays · 04/03/2016 02:18

Whoohooo that is a brillaint update God for you OP Grin

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 04/03/2016 03:18

Somehow finding sleeping a bit challenging tonight Grin

Have to say mumsnetters i would never have sent that text if it wasn't for half a dozen instant 'text him now' replies... Grin

Will keep you updated. And thankyou all for -vicarious- gentle support and encouragement.

xxx

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NoncommittalToSparkleMotion · 04/03/2016 03:43

Just read this!

What a great thread, OP.

All the best and enjoy! Star

IsItTimeForGinYet · 04/03/2016 06:15

Hoorah!!!!!!! Hope you got some sleep and cannot wait to hear about the next instalment. You will keep us updated on the next instalment, won't you?!

Spottyladybird · 04/03/2016 06:16

Wow! Keep us posted. He sounds like a keeper.

bikingintherain · 04/03/2016 06:32

Have just read the whole thread, well done! I'm so excited for you!

Iambubbles86 · 04/03/2016 06:55

Ooohhhh THIS.....IS......AWESOME!!!!

Am currently doing my jiggly happy dance on your behalf and the cat now thinks I've lost the plot.

Hushabyelullaby · 04/03/2016 07:00

Ooh what a great response Smile please keep us updated, can't wait for the next instalment