To sell the concert tickets

[FaithlessOne]

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DD (age 12) has done a really stupid thing. She's part of a Minecraft forum and server. Donations to the server are accepted but not compulsory but you get more privileges with donating.

Anyway, I found out tonight that yesterday she donated over £70 of her own money on behalf of other users of the forum. I'm fuming. Yes, it's her money but it's too much and she doesn't know these people..

So, WIBU to sell the concert tickets she begged me for (I bought them last month for £120) to re-coup the money and teach her a lesson?

No e of my friends parents , mine nor friends now would lettheir young kids spend a large amount of money willynilly!
This isn't a little bit of pocket, this is a huge amount.

Op your sanctions sound fair

Op, sorry for my comment and I only mentioned it because the money issue was brought up.
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Hi OP. Interesting thread.

I think it's a shame you've been flamed a bit. I would be furious, too. However- and I mean this kindly- she was trying to Do A Nice Thing. She's 12.

I think a minecraft ban for a few days- short- to allow her to think through and really understand why you feel upset. Not just 'because it's a lot of money' but maybe use that time to have some genuine conversations about the cost of living, wages, etc. Single parenthood and what it means. She's old enough to get it.

I definitely wouldn't take her bank card off her- that doesn't teach her anything. Allow her to make this mistake, and guide her more carefully in future, and show her how to recover from these mistakes.

Slightly on a tangent OP but we have GoHenry accounts for our kids.
Parents have an app so can control and see spending and place restrictions as fit.
So our 10 year old can only spend her money in physical shops and withdraw from a cash machine up to a set (by us) limit. Our 15/16 year olds can use it online with no limits etc.
You do have to pay a couple of quid a month for the service but the piece of mind is priceless.
So, for example, if my DD spent her money on Minecraft stuff then I'd get a notification straight away on my phone that she'd spent £x and could pick up straight away what she was doing.
www.gohenry.co.uk/how-it-works/?promotion=PS0300F&gclid=Cj0KEQiAr8W2BRD2qbCOv8_H7qEBEiQA1ErTBuX8TDqeEoV3KD5_kNPpU4Gz-c1HC49X73VbCpGl09oaAiKB8P8HAQ

Sorry, not read all the replies so sorry if this has already been asked but can't see it.
I have a 12 year old. If he had spent £70 of his own money, I'd be of the opinion "it's his own daft fault" and then when he wanted the new ps4 game or whatever I'd be like "sorry, you spent all your money."
What I'm wondering though, is how on earth your 12 year old is able to donate online anyway?
Does she have her own bank account? If so, why is it connected to stuff like this?

I feel for you both but as you have said I think selling tickets is OTT. However the concert can still be used as a lesson. When she wants t-shirts/whistles/sweets etc kindly point out this is what she has her own money for which she choose to spend on Minecraft. That is a better consequence IMO