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Playdate DCs haven't been picked up. Should I drop them off?

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Recordmirror · 21/02/2016 20:33

So a mum from my DCs school asked me to have her two DCs today as her two are the same age/in the same class as my two youngest.
The DCs have been here a couple of times before but usually I arrange this with their dad and he picks them up.
But he is away on business and so their mum asked me to take them today as a favour whilst she is in work.

I've had them since 9 this morning. She was supposed to pick them up at 6:30. I called her at 7 and 7:30 and 8 and 8:15 but she's not replying. I have text her a number of times and nothing.

My DCs should be in bed. Her eldest isn't bothered but her youngest is getting upset saying that she should be in bed. I haven't told them that their mum should have picked them up by now.

Should I go round to theirs? I don't want to worry the DCs if their mum isn't there when we get there. But I would like to know where she is. So would I be unreasonable to go round there?

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Christinayangstwistedsista · 21/02/2016 21:00

She's not been working till this time on a sunday

Notimefortossers · 21/02/2016 21:00

Those poor kids. Mine are the same age and would be freaking out in the same situation. Agree with others about getting them to bed. Really hope the Mum is OK, but at the same time if she is OK then she's bang out of order!

Cressandra · 21/02/2016 21:00

Spare duvet on the floor or sofa cushions are other bed options.

QOD · 21/02/2016 21:00

Wow that is a bit worrying

expatinscotland · 21/02/2016 21:00

That's very concerning.

LadyIsabellaWrotham · 21/02/2016 21:01

Bear in mind that if her phone's lost / out of power then it may have taken her only copy of your phone number with it. Here's hoping for something not too desperate.

sootica · 21/02/2016 21:01

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HackerFucker22 · 21/02/2016 21:02

Not many offices open at the weekend let alone until this time.

Hope she is being cheeky (for the kids sake)

eddielizzard · 21/02/2016 21:02

i would put them all to bed if you can.

can you ring the dad?

HopefulHamster · 21/02/2016 21:02

Hopefully it's a stuck in traffic and phone out of battery situation.

ZanyMobster · 21/02/2016 21:03

It's a difficult one, my friend did this to me but i guessed she had lost track of time rather than worrying about her so I got her DS ready for bed thinking it will settle him but it made him really distressed as he had never stayed away from home and thought it meant he would have to sleep over. My friend was moving house and it was taking longer but she just didn't bother to let me know till I called her when he was inconsolable.

I would definitely call the non emergency police number for advice once it gets a bit later.

louisejxxx · 21/02/2016 21:03

I really hope she turns up or you hear from her soon. How are the kiddies holding up?

LadyIsabellaWrotham · 21/02/2016 21:03

I did once have a mum pick her kids up an hour later than arranged because she'd fallen asleep! But under much less drastic circumstances.

DrRanjsRightEyebrow · 21/02/2016 21:03

It's 9pm. If I was a mum to kids that age and was that late to pick them up if be worried sick about them being scared and I'd be finding a way to make contact, even if it's via the police.
Please op, call 101...

NorbertDentressangle · 21/02/2016 21:03

Let her DC borrow some PJs and tuck them up on an air bed/spare bed/wherever telling them their Mum's running late. Poor things must be shattered and you don't want to worry them.

Any mutual friends you can phone?

In the meantime ask a friend or family member to check the house.

if there's no sign of anyone there then I think I would phone 101 for advice too.

Hope all is OK.

ScarlettDarling · 21/02/2016 21:04

Those poor dc, they'll know that something is up.

I'd put them on the sofa under a duvet with something not too loud on the TV so they can nod off if they need to.

Personally I'd be ringing the non emergency police number by now to ask for advice. Very concerning, hope you hear from her soon.

CalleighDoodle · 21/02/2016 21:04

Yes id definitely put them to bed. How worrying.

Waltermittythesequel · 21/02/2016 21:04

If she's taking the piss I would be fuming and I wouldn't hold back with her.

But, this is worrying. Any joy with her dh? ?

EweAreHere · 21/02/2016 21:04

I really hope nothing bad has happened to her, although that would likely mean she's just swanned off and left them with you.

And if she has just swanned off, talk to the head of your school tomorrow. That should definitely be flagged up as a possible child safeguarding issue.

Chippednailvarnish · 21/02/2016 21:04

Yep, 101.

Youarentkiddingme · 21/02/2016 21:04

Id make it exiting for children - a last minute sleep over and get them settled to bed.

Do you have uniform spare they could wear tomorrow?

I'd continue to attempt contact but if she is not at home when your friend goes round either contact 101 and report missing (because she is missing from where she should have been to collect her DCs) or the out of hours emergency social services number for same reason.

Hope you get it sorted - how worrying for all involved. Flowers

Foffyouwanker · 21/02/2016 21:05

Very worrying. I would get the kids to sleep for now, save them worrying.
Any news from friend going round there? Or do you know where she works?

Evabeaversprotege · 21/02/2016 21:05

Can you put them in pjs & let them sleep a while?

I wouldn't be ringing social services.

RedSoloCup · 21/02/2016 21:05

Hope you sort this soon OP I would be very worried :-(

OverScentedFanjo · 21/02/2016 21:06

Put the children in bed. Then try and find out where the mother is.

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