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Playdate DCs haven't been picked up. Should I drop them off?

1023 replies

Recordmirror · 21/02/2016 20:33

So a mum from my DCs school asked me to have her two DCs today as her two are the same age/in the same class as my two youngest.
The DCs have been here a couple of times before but usually I arrange this with their dad and he picks them up.
But he is away on business and so their mum asked me to take them today as a favour whilst she is in work.

I've had them since 9 this morning. She was supposed to pick them up at 6:30. I called her at 7 and 7:30 and 8 and 8:15 but she's not replying. I have text her a number of times and nothing.

My DCs should be in bed. Her eldest isn't bothered but her youngest is getting upset saying that she should be in bed. I haven't told them that their mum should have picked them up by now.

Should I go round to theirs? I don't want to worry the DCs if their mum isn't there when we get there. But I would like to know where she is. So would I be unreasonable to go round there?

OP posts:
MrsH1989 · 21/02/2016 20:54

I would be a bit concerned considering it is a school night. I would be getting children ready for bed whilst getting OH or a friend etc to drive round to check on mum.

Choughed · 21/02/2016 20:54

*advice Blush

PennyHasNoSurname · 21/02/2016 20:54

Yes I remember the last thread too.

Again, though, my first thought would be annoyed. Then id get worried. Hope she turns up soon.

FellOutOfBedTwice · 21/02/2016 20:54

I would tell them their mum has been delayed and put them to bed to save their anxiety.

AwfulBeryl · 21/02/2016 20:54

Hope you get some news soon.

Original poster
Recordmirror · 21/02/2016 20:55

The DCs are 7 and 4.
She works in an office I think.

OP posts:
Cressandra · 21/02/2016 20:55

If you"ve left messages everywhere you can, I think I'd be looking to get them to bed first then get back to tracking her down.

If she does turn up, they can transfer home fairly easily from bed.

Gotheftosleep · 21/02/2016 20:56

Agree try and settle the kids down. Are you still on half term or back tomorrow?

99percentchocolate · 21/02/2016 20:56

Fingers firmly crossed for piss taking too. I think that if you haven't heard anything by 9:30 then you should maybe put them to bed with yours (top and tail if you don't have spare beds?) and lend uniform in the morning and take to school as normal. Tge school should be able to help.

gobbynorthernbird · 21/02/2016 20:56

Do you have a contact number for the dad? Or would a mutual friend have it?

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 21/02/2016 20:57

Hopefully she is Royally taking the piss as apose to the the alternative.
I'd be thinking about calling the police, tbh.
I think it's fair to say. Youve tried everything else

Lockheart · 21/02/2016 20:58

Hmm that is definitely concerning. As others have said I would carry on as normal as possible with the kids; get your DCs to bed and lend hers some spare pyjamas, make them a bed up or get them to double up if necessary. Tell them their mummy's just running late and will be back later.

I also second trying to find out where she works and ringing, and I hope that the DCs dad can get in touch with you soon.

Fingers crossed she's just been held up at work / in god-awful traffic and her battery's dead and it's nothing more serious. I hope one of the parents gets in touch with you soon!

justkeepongoing · 21/02/2016 20:58

Very worrying, poor children and you.

gleekster · 21/02/2016 20:58

I would be worried sick about the mother and would probably call the 101 police number to see what they advise.

PeppermintPatty1 · 21/02/2016 20:58

Those poor children will start fretting. Have you got any idea where she works? I think you can only try to settle the children and reassure them that she's running late as others have said. What a worry.

BastardGoDarkly · 21/02/2016 20:58

I'd be thinking about the police too, if your friend finds no one at her house.

Pigeonpost · 21/02/2016 20:58

I'd stick the kids in pj's and get them to bed. I would assume something has come up and she can't phone. Surely no-one would just be slack enough to not bother to pick their kids up. Seems unlikely that she would just be at home with her feet up. Maybe she wasn't actually at work but had some sort of medical thing arranged which has ran over?

mcdog · 21/02/2016 20:59

Very tricky situation. I really hope their mum is ok :(

pinkcan · 21/02/2016 20:59

Hmm I'd definitely put your dc to bed or the youngest will be knackered. I'd put her dc on the sofa with duvet watching film with as few lights on as they are comfortable with. They might fall asleep and she can carry them to her car. Unless she has a very good reason and apologises profusely then I'd be minimising contact with her.

Batavias · 21/02/2016 20:59

Could you check the kids bags for an alternative phone number

Also could you ask if they have nearby grandparents or aunties, if they know the rough whereabouts but aren't sure of house numbers you could use streetview.

Esspee · 21/02/2016 20:59

Please let us know what happens. The children are safe with you, I hope their mum is OK.

BastardGoDarkly · 21/02/2016 20:59

Is the phone ringing op? Or is it dead?

teeththief · 21/02/2016 20:59

Does the 7 year old not now where she works? There can't be many offices open this late on a Sunday night so I'd assume she managed to finish work on time and has either gone out or something has happened

Seriouslyffs · 21/02/2016 20:59

yy to settling the children. Tell them mums delayed and get them into pjs.

helensburgh · 21/02/2016 20:59

Hope you hear from her soon.

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