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Playdate DCs haven't been picked up. Should I drop them off?

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Recordmirror · 21/02/2016 20:33

So a mum from my DCs school asked me to have her two DCs today as her two are the same age/in the same class as my two youngest.
The DCs have been here a couple of times before but usually I arrange this with their dad and he picks them up.
But he is away on business and so their mum asked me to take them today as a favour whilst she is in work.

I've had them since 9 this morning. She was supposed to pick them up at 6:30. I called her at 7 and 7:30 and 8 and 8:15 but she's not replying. I have text her a number of times and nothing.

My DCs should be in bed. Her eldest isn't bothered but her youngest is getting upset saying that she should be in bed. I haven't told them that their mum should have picked them up by now.

Should I go round to theirs? I don't want to worry the DCs if their mum isn't there when we get there. But I would like to know where she is. So would I be unreasonable to go round there?

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LogicalThinking · 21/02/2016 21:13

If she uses her car to get to work it might be worth checking the traffic in your area to see if she could be stuck somewhere.

guineapig1 · 21/02/2016 21:13

If friend going round to their home has no joy and there are no grandparents/aunts/uncles locally you can contact just settle kids for tonight telling them mummy has been delayed. Once they are sorted I'd call 191 for advice. I understand your concern. There is a world of difference between losing track of time for an hour or so mid-afternoon or being delayed in traffic/going to an event with an unpredictable timing but the lack of phone contact amid the fact that it is 9pm on a Sunday night is a bit worrying. Hope all is sorted soon.

tangerinesarenottheonlyfruit · 21/02/2016 21:14

I agree also, get them to bed without worrying them.

I hope all is OK Flowers

yorkshapudding · 21/02/2016 21:14

I know you can't be sure, but the fact that the younger child was getting distressed and worrying that they should be in bed suggests to me that they're fairly used to routine and predictably. If she was the type to palm them off on all and sundry while she swans off to the pub or wherever then the DC's might be a bit more blasé about the situation. If your fiend doesn't find any sign of her at the house and you haven't heard anything by 10pm I'd be calling the police for advice.

duckyneedsaclean · 21/02/2016 21:14

Oh blimey. Any luck op?

ChemicalReaction · 21/02/2016 21:15

This sounds worrying and I too thought if the thread last year. Do you have enough uniform for school tomorrow? I would be tempted to put them to bed in your dc s room tbh. Then if your friend reports the parents are home try to get them to drop off some clothes? If the parents are out on the piss they will be in no fit state to look after them tonight or in the morning. You can then raise a safeguarding concern with the school in the morning but at least you know the kids are safe and looked after.

Carlywurly · 21/02/2016 21:15

I'd call the non emergency line for advice now tbh. She might need urgent help.

AllChangeLife · 21/02/2016 21:15

Hope you hear soon... have you got their father's number? On a school contact sheet somewhere?

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Recordmirror · 21/02/2016 21:16

The 4 year old is still upset. The eldest is quite happy to be here with his friend and doesn't seem bothered.
The DCs don't seem to know where she works.

My friend has just called and said the lights are off in the house. She knocked the door and no one answered.

I have just messaged a few other parents and asked if they know how to get in touch with her or the dad.

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sandmo · 21/02/2016 21:16

Get them to bed! Once settled called non emergency police.

Lottie2611 · 21/02/2016 21:16

That is worrying. BlushId try make the kiddies sleep and keep trying on facebook to look for her family members. Good luck

louisejxxx · 21/02/2016 21:17

I'm hoping radio silence from op means the situation has been resolved?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 21/02/2016 21:17

How worrying! Echoing everyone else's advice, put her kids to bed, try not to panic them. Hope everything turns out ok.

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Recordmirror · 21/02/2016 21:17

The DCs are all back in school tomorrow but I don't have uniform to fit either of them really.

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sandmo · 21/02/2016 21:17

Bet she's upset at this time, explain its a sleepover and get her to sleep

Gileswithachainsaw · 21/02/2016 21:17

I'd check her profile, see if there was an event she is attending or a " can't wait to see you Sunday " style comment

EweAreHere · 21/02/2016 21:17

She's 3 hours late on a Sunday night, and her husband is out of town. Call the police and ask them for advice.

ChickensRideWest · 21/02/2016 21:18

Put them to bed and call 101 now. I would also do a public Facebook post asking if anyone has heard from either mum or dad.

Good luck OP.

Beth2511 · 21/02/2016 21:18

I would perhaps make up a little white lie to the kids about mummy being delayed and then get them to bed or snuggled with a film, worst thing all round would be 4 very upset vhildren as it will impact your own.

I really hope nothing is wrong but I would be spitting fire if there was no good reason!!

Jibberjabberjooo · 21/02/2016 21:18

I think I would start calling the police now op.

Waltermittythesequel · 21/02/2016 21:18

I'd put them to bed.

4 year old must be shattered

mcdog · 21/02/2016 21:18

You def need to call the police now.

louisejxxx · 21/02/2016 21:18

Oops, cross posted. Time for the police I think - if the children are distressed this is obviously not a normal occurrence for them.

NakedMum33and3rd · 21/02/2016 21:18

Hi OP I would def be calling the non emergency police now.
Well done for keeping nice and calm. I hope the four year old settles soon. Maybe ask the older child what the four year olds normal bedtime routine is and try to follow it.
I hope you get some good news soon.

myname2016 · 21/02/2016 21:18

If the situation is ongoing tomorrow I don't think school would be happening would it?

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