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Playdate DCs haven't been picked up. Should I drop them off?

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Recordmirror · 21/02/2016 20:33

So a mum from my DCs school asked me to have her two DCs today as her two are the same age/in the same class as my two youngest.
The DCs have been here a couple of times before but usually I arrange this with their dad and he picks them up.
But he is away on business and so their mum asked me to take them today as a favour whilst she is in work.

I've had them since 9 this morning. She was supposed to pick them up at 6:30. I called her at 7 and 7:30 and 8 and 8:15 but she's not replying. I have text her a number of times and nothing.

My DCs should be in bed. Her eldest isn't bothered but her youngest is getting upset saying that she should be in bed. I haven't told them that their mum should have picked them up by now.

Should I go round to theirs? I don't want to worry the DCs if their mum isn't there when we get there. But I would like to know where she is. So would I be unreasonable to go round there?

OP posts:
Lovelydiscusfish · 21/02/2016 23:15

Bless you OP - you're a superstar! Really hope everything turns out ok in the end. Stay strong! Sending you lots of good will thoughts,

GloGirl · 21/02/2016 23:15

NotMyNN what a powerful story, I'm so glad you are in a different place.

Good luck OP

coconutpie · 21/02/2016 23:16

OP Flowers This is so scary, I hope the mum is ok Sad

Evabeaversprotege · 21/02/2016 23:16

Clam, how do you highlight posts? I know the feature exists but have never worked it out.

baggyleggings · 21/02/2016 23:16

Going to bed now with everything crossed for you and those poor kids, OP. I think trying to find grandparents/family members through FB sounds like a good idea. Good luck. Flowers

Rezolution123 · 21/02/2016 23:16

Well done Recordmirror for staying so calm. I don't know what you can do tomorrow morning though if this is not sorted. Will you take all four DCs to school? What about the pickup in the afternoon? Sorry to sound over-involved but this situation has really made me feel uneasy.
Hope you get some positive news soon.

Kreeshsheesh · 21/02/2016 23:16

Poor everyone concerned. I'm really hoping that the situation turns out well and the reason behind the delay is one of those things that nobody has thought of yet.

Ambroxide · 21/02/2016 23:16

Well done, OP. It sounds awful for everyone. Really hope it all turns out as OK as it can.

lifesalongsong · 21/02/2016 23:17

If the DH is working abroad he may well be in a different time zone and be asleep with his phone turned off or at work with no access to facebook.

Good idea to ask for info from facebook friends

I'd guess the police will be checking the workplace first and if she's not there looking at accident records. If the mum's house is in darkenss it suggests she didn't make it home.

madmotherof2 · 21/02/2016 23:17

What a worrying situation Sad

LaLaLaaaa · 21/02/2016 23:17

Skinoncustard I'm sitting in the dark holding a sleeping baby, blind with tiredness as he's been poorly for a week. Phone backlight is dimmed and my eyes are sore.

Hence I was looking for the word 'police' in the posts and missed reference to '101' the first time.

No need to be rude. I never said OP was wrong, I just said I was confused,

turkeylovessprout · 21/02/2016 23:17

Surely the police would have been to the house though by now and informed OP? That was a while ago.

Justanotherusername1 · 21/02/2016 23:17

Hope you get some news soon op.

Harverina · 21/02/2016 23:18

Good point that we don't know what the dad does - my dh often can't get access to his phone while he is out on site as it gets locked up before he goes into the building.

I would also be tempted to check Facebook for family members - aunts/uncles/grandparents may be on Facebook and want to know what is happening.

If the situation still isn't resolved in the morning then school could pass on next of kin/emergency contact details.

Phalenopsisgirl · 21/02/2016 23:18

Of topic a bit but how do you do the highlighting posts from op thing?

turkeylovessprout · 21/02/2016 23:19

Don't worry LaLa, it's late, think everyone is tense and tired. Can't imagine what poor OP is.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 21/02/2016 23:20

Oh God, this is awful. Praying for a happy outcome.

TheAngelofNitshillRoad · 21/02/2016 23:20

Lala Flowers

My baby was poorly all last week. I feel your pain.

JeanGenie23 · 21/02/2016 23:20

It's hard to think after all this time that the explanation could still be a simple one. Actually I wouldn't be massively surprised if you hear from children's services tomorrow OP.

TheFormidableMrsC · 21/02/2016 23:21

The mother told OP she would be collecting at 6.30. Surely if that changed, or she had made arrangements with somebody else, she would have informed OP? It is established that husband is overseas on business thus he couldn't do the pick up.

I can't go to bed, will be awake all night worrying about this

Eva50 · 21/02/2016 23:21

What a worry OP. I hope the police are in touch soon.

LaLaLaaaa · 21/02/2016 23:21

Turkey - thanks.

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 21/02/2016 23:21

Bloody hell I do hope the mum is ok

clam · 21/02/2016 23:22

I'm Blush to say I can't remember how to highlight and am now posting from phone, not laptop, so can't check main site.
Have a nose in 'my account' or something??

Johnny5isAlive · 21/02/2016 23:22

I'd imagine the only update we'll get tonight is good news. Ie, worst case scenario it'll be all hands to the deck, or waiting for family to be contacted. Can't give away too much on the internet in those circumstances

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