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Playdate DCs haven't been picked up. Should I drop them off?

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Recordmirror · 21/02/2016 20:33

So a mum from my DCs school asked me to have her two DCs today as her two are the same age/in the same class as my two youngest.
The DCs have been here a couple of times before but usually I arrange this with their dad and he picks them up.
But he is away on business and so their mum asked me to take them today as a favour whilst she is in work.

I've had them since 9 this morning. She was supposed to pick them up at 6:30. I called her at 7 and 7:30 and 8 and 8:15 but she's not replying. I have text her a number of times and nothing.

My DCs should be in bed. Her eldest isn't bothered but her youngest is getting upset saying that she should be in bed. I haven't told them that their mum should have picked them up by now.

Should I go round to theirs? I don't want to worry the DCs if their mum isn't there when we get there. But I would like to know where she is. So would I be unreasonable to go round there?

OP posts:
GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 21/02/2016 23:10

Being locked in at work is possible. I guess coupled with mobile dying could be a benign explanation.

Hope there was a not to terrible reason for this Flowers

TheFutureMrsB · 21/02/2016 23:10

Fingers crossed here too, you've done the right thing op Flowers

PegsPigs · 21/02/2016 23:10

Hope you get some sleep OP. It's really brilliant how you're there for those poor kids no matter what the reason turns out to be. They're unsettled and you've done your best to reassure them. Flowers

Harverina · 21/02/2016 23:10

Lala the op has phoned the police!!

willconcern · 21/02/2016 23:10

How worrying. You're doing a grand job. I hope you get some good news soon

Flowers
ChickensRideWest · 21/02/2016 23:10

Perhaps people on Facebook may be able to help you give names of the Mum or Dad's family members, sisters/brothers/parents who can take the children whilst the police are searching for the mum?

weeblueberry · 21/02/2016 23:11

If you've got the dads Facebook could you message any of his friends and say you're looking to get in touch with his wife as a matter of extreme urgency? If one has the same last name they're likely a family member and might help. Facebook pings you a message now to say someone is trying to send you a message so you could potentially still get someone at this time of night?

missbishi · 21/02/2016 23:11

LaLaLaaa I'm confused too, at people who comment before they rtft...

calzone · 21/02/2016 23:11

There must be something wrong because no one would do this intentionally.

You are a lovely person OP.

torthecatlady · 21/02/2016 23:11

This is so worrying! I'm glad you were able to get all the kids to bed in the end. No need to cause then any more worry. If no one gets in touch, should you take the children to school for her? My only worry is what if no one turns up to pick them up. I'm not sure what to do in this situation. I hope you hear from someone soon. ThanksThanks

LaLaLaaaa · 21/02/2016 23:11

So sorry OP I missed the part where you phoned 101.

You've done everything you can. I hope she's ok

weeblueberry · 21/02/2016 23:11

Cross post Chickens!!

turkeylovessprout · 21/02/2016 23:12

Dad might be in a completely different time zone if he's abroad. He could be fast asleep, but you would have thought he'd leave his phone on when away from the family.

TheFormidableMrsC · 21/02/2016 23:12

LaLaLaaaa, the OP has called the police and is waiting to hear back from them.

Mar19901 · 21/02/2016 23:13

Hope all is ok with the mother u are doing so well glad the children are sleeping thinking of u ThanksThanks

AnthonyPandy · 21/02/2016 23:13

Do you know which timezone the dad is in? You might get calls at his waking up time.

MagratsFlyawayHair · 21/02/2016 23:13

He may well have his phone on but no signal and as we don't know what he does I guess there are lots of reasons he might not have his phone with him while at work.

oneowlgirl · 21/02/2016 23:13

Goodness Op, this is scary. Well done for looking after the children & fingers crossed it all works out ok.

LaLaLaaaa · 21/02/2016 23:13

Miss calm your pants - I missed the 101 reference! I did read the full thread hence I saw people saying she'd called the police and checked her post again as I realised I'd missed it. Comment was meant kindly.

louisejxxx · 21/02/2016 23:14

I really hope the dc's mum is okay....what an awful situation.

Ohfourfoxache · 21/02/2016 23:14

You're doing fabulously op Thanks

clam · 21/02/2016 23:14

Lala, you do know that you can highlight the OP's posts (and your own) to help keep up with updates?

This revolutionised my MN experience! Smile

skinoncustard · 21/02/2016 23:14

LaLaLaaaa
Name suits you !

Northernlurker · 21/02/2016 23:14

I think the most likely thing is that mum and dad are separated (which is why OP has mostly dealt with dad). Mum has left message for dad to pick up kids as a change of plan. He hasn't got the message because on a delayed flight. He hasn't been in touch because he doesn't know he needs to be iyswim. Mum hasn't been in touch because she's told dad to do the pick up.

Cock up is always the most likely explanation.

pasbeaucoupdegendarme · 21/02/2016 23:15

Goodness, how worrying. Well done, op, sounds like you're doing brilliantly.

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