Playdate DCs haven't been picked up. Should I drop them off?

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So a mum from my DCs school asked me to have her two DCs today as her two are the same age/in the same class as my two youngest.
The DCs have been here a couple of times before but usually I arrange this with their dad and he picks them up.
But he is away on business and so their mum asked me to take them today as a favour whilst she is in work.

I've had them since 9 this morning. She was supposed to pick them up at 6:30. I called her at 7 and 7:30 and 8 and 8:15 but she's not replying. I have text her a number of times and nothing.

My DCs should be in bed. Her eldest isn't bothered but her youngest is getting upset saying that she should be in bed. I haven't told them that their mum should have picked them up by now.

Should I go round to theirs? I don't want to worry the DCs if their mum isn't there when we get there. But I would like to know where she is. So would I be unreasonable to go round there?

Am also sat awake worrying. to you o.p must be so hard on you and the poor dc

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I hope the kids are staying asleep and mum appears soon. Well done OP.

Schickens I think that's terrible advice! The op can't just hand over the kids to a perfect stranger to her in these circumstances. The children are in bed, the police are dealing with it. It will all come out in the wash soon I am sure.

op try and get some rest, be prepared to take a day off tomorrow though... You must be shattered. You seem like a lovely person.

Really hope she turns up safe and sound x

It might seem daft but I'm going to have trouble sleeping tonight. The idea that these poor wee souls' mother is missing is breaking my heart.

Have the police sent someone round op? Or said anything about the children?

Hope it all works out ok

I know someone that this happened to recently, she didn't know that the mother struggled with addiction. The Mum had gone on a binge and just rocked up with a feeble excuse in the morning, it took this incident for children's services to get involved and for the mum to get some help. It's wasn't a disaster at all, the mum was just in a bad place. I hope it all pans out ok, you are doing an amazing job tonight.

School will pass on contact details to police not to op. School won't give out emergency contacts.

Ss will get involved eg emergency foster care if dad not back but if op happy to keep dc that might be considered .
Police will try contact dad etc. Op does not need to do that. Let police do it.

If there's no news by the morning, in OP's shoes, I'd take kids to school and get the headteacher to help locate parents or other family members. But hopefully it won't come to that.

Hope the mum turns up safe and sound and there has just been a massive misunderstanding

Cnorthern that's a very possible scenario. I'm sure there is a explanation.

There is probably an innocent explanation for this, such as the one Northernlurker suggested a few messages back. For every bad outcome there will be numerous similar situations with good ones. It's definitely worrying when anything like this happens but the possibility of a tragic or otherwise 'not good' ending has to be minor.

for you OP and an unmumsnetty x

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Hope all is well and the mum turns up safe

How terrible. Really hope everything turns out ok OP

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I feel the same Paul- I'm usually snoring by now! Mum is 5hours late, unless she has been locked in the office, I can only think something much worse has happened to this poor woman. It makes no sense, even if you had to walk miles to pick up your kids because of a flat tyre, she would have got them by now

Yes me too PaulAnka, I feel silly admitting it but putting off going to sleep so I can keep checking this thread!

You're doing great OP

No need for that at all NN.

LaLa has explained her error and apologised. Perhaps take your own advice and read the thread.

Quite glad that she left them with you, OP
Feel for the little ones. Hope mum is ok too

Do you now nilby? I'm not suggesting OP hand them over to a 'perfect stranger' but to a known family member if she can find one via the reviled but occasionally useful medium of Facebook which is the only medium the OP has unless the police can find a next of kin. Obviously not tonight but perhaps tomorrow.

NotMyNN - it might be helpful if you followed your own advice and RTFT. Then you'd know that LaLa missed the post about the OP calling 101 and was just trying to be helpful.