Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

AIBU to ask what you do Mother's Day?

139 replies

Onthedowns · 21/02/2016 18:27

It's fast approaching and I am already getting stressed! Currently 34 weeks with dc2 so probably not helping! We see a lot of both mother and mil . DH has informed me that sil has suggested spending the day at mil's this year, but I just don't want to! My mum is away and being heavily pregnant I want to spend some time with my dd before baby arrives. Last year I had both mothers at my house for lunch and normally we see one in morning and one in afternoon but now I would like a little time with my immediate family? DH doesn't see it! He suggested going for breakfast then spending after st mil still don't want to! I would do other way round ! He doesn't really appreciate I am a mother too!

OP posts:
pictish · 23/02/2016 15:07

Then I say that you wave him off to his mum's leaving dd home with you. That's fair.

CaffeineBomb · 23/02/2016 15:10

That sounds like my sort of Mother's Day Serendipity

CaffeineBomb · 23/02/2016 15:11

I agree with Pictish, you keep dd with you. DH will have to lump it

thebestfurchinchilla · 23/02/2016 15:14

It is a bit weird that he wants to spend the day with his mum when he has his own wife/partner and child now. The plan above about a morning with his mum then helping DD spoil you sounds fair. The thing is that until DC are old enough they need dad or someone to help them.

manicinsomniac · 23/02/2016 15:27

Nothing 'mothery'.

I had no idea mother's day was a 'thing' most people did anything beyond breakfast in bed and maybe church for.

I have an 8 hour rehearsal with 65 children on mother's day. Nobody has complained so far about needing the whole day for family. I wonder if they're all silently cursing me Sad .

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeG0es · 23/02/2016 15:40

We just do exactly what we have always done since childhood, give a card to our Mums and if we happen to visit them that weekend we take flowers. We don't visit or get together specifically for Mother's Day. Same for me, the DCs give cards and maybe some chocolates and then the day carried on as usual. it's really just another Sunday for us. So all the mothers are treated equally and I do think that is right.

elliejjtiny · 23/02/2016 16:08

The dc at school/preschool will make a card at school/preschool. DH takes the dc shopping for a present for me (usually they pick a bath bomb each). We each get a token gift for our mums. Sometimes DH will cook lunch. This year DH is working so MIL and I have decided to go out for lunch together (with the dc and fil too).

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 23/02/2016 16:40

Why not suggest he spends the morning with his Mum, taking DD with him, whilst you enjoy a lie in and some peace and quiet. When he gets back you could go out for lunch (if you wish) and spend the rest of the day with your DH and DD.

This - sounds - bliss. But he also needs to bring you breakfast in bed before he leaves so you can check DD is presentable

We won't be doing anything out of the ordinary. I'll remind DH to send his mother some interflora flowers, and will do the same for mine. Mil will remind DH to buy me flowers [pointing out that I am a mother too] and he will have a mild panic attack and take the DD's to the supermarket every year and come back with an overpriced "bouquet" when I'd prefer a truck load of daffs he really doesn't get this

Hallmark holiday - certainly not something to be rowing about. In my view if it's the only day of the year that your DH/your children are nice to you you have bigger things to worry about.

TheWoodenSpoonOfMischief · 23/02/2016 18:20

It's a normal day here too though the dcs will excitedly give me cards and flowers.
Dh will usually make breakfast like he does every weekend and we might have some nice dessert after dinner. Sometimes I've visited my mum but she lives 1.5 hrs away.
Dh might pop over to see his mum with some flowers.
I do like to mark occasions but not extravagantly.

sstewart2016 · 23/02/2016 19:29

But you've had 30 odd weeks to have time as a family unit. Why can't you just let them both go. It's not grandmthers day but it is mothers day and he wants to see his mother?

Molehillfromamountain · 23/02/2016 19:59

I'll be 39+4 on Mother's Day this year, MIL lives about 40 miles away and I don't want to chance the journey so we'll visit the week before and I'll spend the actual day at home with DD1. Could you do something like that?

Original poster
Onthedowns · 23/02/2016 20:22

sstewart2016, tou have missed the point then? She is my dd and I would like to spend time with her! Coupled with being incredibly sick and hospitalised during this pregnancy I don't see the 30 odd weeks to spend with her is rubbish, her whole life will be changing shortly and her mummy will be shared so I make no apology About wanting to spend my Mother's Day with her. once again I haven't said he couldn't see his mother!!!!

OP posts:
sstewart2016 · 25/02/2016 16:00

Then just say you want your daughter at home? I really do not understand. Communicate with your partner not MN. I've been hospitalized during my pregnancy and if I had a little one at home i'd be waving them off for a couple hours of peace! She is only 4 after all.

Chocolatteaddict1 · 25/02/2016 16:09

Jeeeeze op didn't you realise you are supposed to be completly selfless, expect fuck all of Dh (cos you ain't his mam) and spend every minuite worshipping mil in mothersday Wink Grin

Honestly do what you want. If you don't want to spend all afternoon there plan something nice for you and dd to do.

My Dh will see his mam in the morning and drop of the presents I've bought her and then come back and worship me see what I fancy doing Grin

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread