I'm being U aren't I? Talk me down. DP not home or answering his phone.

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He went out last night to a friends which is 1.5 hours drive away.

They were obviously up until the early hours and now he's not answering his phone.

Presumably he's asleep. He didn't tell me he has any intention of taking today 'off' so I'm a bit pissed off. I've had the kids all week as its half term, they are bouncing off the walls and I've exhausted softplay and parks this week, I was looking forward to some help.

Fuck knows when he'like be back.

OTOH he never goes out let alone does this. I go out more often than him (still rarely though) and I ALWAYS tell him if I'm staying out (well, I've done it once) and I'm back in the morning.

I should just let it go this once shouldn't I? But I'm struggling to feel fair about this.

I have to take the kids out again (they are climbing the walls) and I really don't want to. I have to get food from Tesco and I'm going to have to drag them with me.

Sounds like you need a break, which I can empathise with greatly although YABU. Tomorrow you should leave the kids with DH and get out somewhere child free.

arsehole is mild when you witness two reception children shouting F off to each other in the playground - they are 4. My face was :0

OP you have my sympathy. My children are now adults but I had many years as a single parent having to entertain 2 DC, who would whinge they were bored and fight constantly and it drove me mad. Now some on here would say I had it worse because I had no partner to give me a break but tbh I don't think I did because I knew there was no one to give me a break. My expectations were different to yours. You've spent all week entertaining DC and were looking forward to a break from about dinnertime today because that was when you expected him home. Then it didn't happen and the DC were constantly fighting and whinging which made it worse. I don't blame you for having a moan on here, I'd have done the same thing in your position. It's nobody's fault as such, just a lack of communication but it doesn't alter the fact that you've had a shit day.

Unfortunately there are some on here who obviously don't have shit days and have no need to have a moan Anyway, I hope you're feeling better now and have managed to have a bit of peace and quiet.

Wrt to children and language there are some around where I live who would know 'arsehole' and worse at four.

Oh...and

I'm not a single parent but DH is often away for a few nights for work. He was away for 2 nights last week, which coincided with my period (I tend to get peri-menstrual stress rather than pre-) - it was very hard to cope with 2 warring small boys for those 2 nights!

So yes, maybe hormones are playing their part as well?

Am I the only one wondering why you want to have another child when you clearly aren't enjoying being a parent for any length of time to the ones you already have?

Ouch, bunbaker, little harsh!

Oh ffs, Bunbaker, the OP was having a stressful day and venting. Isn't that one of the things that MN is for?

Anyway, enjoy the view from your high horse.

Bun baker, you are far from the only one.

I think you've had a really hard time here OP. You both have full time jobs and you're the main earner, yet you're the one who had to take the whole week off to look after the kids for half term - why isn't he doing half? And then after that week he fucks off for the whole of Friday night and Saturday without any discussion or consideration for you. I'd be pissed off as well, it's not ok, it's selfish and rude and the text he sent was fucking rude too. 'Did you seriously think after you used all your annual leave to look after the kids all week that I'd be around on Saturday to do half the parenting with you or give you a break?' Er, yes?

Something not right here.
When he gets home sit him down and find out whats going on in his head.

What do you mean by that cs54? He's already home btw.