I'm being U aren't I? Talk me down. DP not home or answering his phone.

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He went out last night to a friends which is 1.5 hours drive away.

They were obviously up until the early hours and now he's not answering his phone.

Presumably he's asleep. He didn't tell me he has any intention of taking today 'off' so I'm a bit pissed off. I've had the kids all week as its half term, they are bouncing off the walls and I've exhausted softplay and parks this week, I was looking forward to some help.

Fuck knows when he'like be back.

OTOH he never goes out let alone does this. I go out more often than him (still rarely though) and I ALWAYS tell him if I'm staying out (well, I've done it once) and I'm back in the morning.

I should just let it go this once shouldn't I? But I'm struggling to feel fair about this.

I have to take the kids out again (they are climbing the walls) and I really don't want to. I have to get food from Tesco and I'm going to have to drag them with me.

OP, you've hardly had your kids all day, you've been on here

Def have some wine tonight!

I never started a text asking 'where the fuck are you'!

My original text said I hope he had a good night!

The next one just said that I didn't realise he was taking the day off and I wish he'd let me know before hand.

Ok well maybe come off the thread then, stop winding yourself up into a ludicrous fury, this is a first world problem! Put another DVD on or let them get every toy in the house out and dh can clear it all up tomorrow.

I repeat you are far from the only person trying to entertain kids on this rainy afternoon.

Are you sure you want a fourth child, serious question?!

Starting to see why your friends were all busy ....

If you can't entertain three and find them a nuisance, why would you be trying for a fourth?

no needsa I've had them every day this week and I was desperately looking forward to sharing the parenting chore today.

That's what I'm guilty of.

she's having a bad day - we've all been there (well I have) cut some slack

for OP

YABU

And I never understand it when post replies like 'make him have the kids all day tomorrow' do people really run their marriages like that?

If I go out for the night and part of the next day dh would never tell me that I needed to have the kids the next day to make it fair surely people just ask for a break when they need one or want to go out?

I see it here all the time, if a husband goes out then the OP is always told she should do the same the next day.

You don't need to sit in soft play, children don't need entertaining every day. Put a DVD on or something.

Fourth child?!

I wasn't planning on twins but I guess you don't get me much of a choice on that.

Sorry OP, I missed your updates while I was replying

I know, I've been there. DH is rarely around even now. It's knackering. But it doesn't sound like he does this often, so if you can grin and bare it, might reap dividends.

Thank you Ginslinger.

That's all it is. I've had a good week with the kids but I find it hard. I was looking forward to an afternoon sharing the burden.

DS is being difficult and aggressive today and since it's nearing the end of a long week off with them on finding it particularly tough.

I remember last year, when I got really really pissed (very rare for me, promise) and threw up for most of the next day, DH never said a word, just sorted the kids and dogs and shopping etc and kept bringing me glasses of water in bed. Meant a lot that did.

YANBU - cut the poor woman some slack. We've all been there. Going out drinking all night doesn't automatically write off the day after fgs - we're not kids anymore. Soft play hell - I feel your pain.

Yes I have a crystal ball

Good luck OP, hope tomorrow is better. Just write today off as a bad one.

needastrongone he's got on better and he's hanging out at his friend totally child free. And I'm not going to give him earache for it. Mainly because if I do that's just more anger for me and I don't want an argument, I just want help with the load.

I don't think YABU.

It's disappointing when you are hoping for something & it doesn't happen.

Thinking that they will be back for lunch for example but they were drinking until the early hrs so can't even start to drive until later than the time you were hoping they would return.

It's bloody inconsiderate.

OP I too have just about survived half term with a 5yo and 5 month old, l get what you're saying! And dh took yesterday off

I am sick though as are both dc so it felt like a looong 4 days.

Dh asked about work drinks a few weeks ago and l said any Friday bar school hols. I never know what sort of night I'm going to have with teething dd2.

Yanbu to be at the end of your teether.

Teether?! I've got teething on the brain. End of your tether

Thank you DangerMouse

Yanbu.
Text him a tesco list so he can sort that on the way home.
And he does bathtime/bedtime tonight and takes them out all day tomorrow. Or you go out all day. Not so much because of last night but because you've been running around after them all week.

Hmm I'm guilty of this too OP; getting something into your head and then when other people don't follow the plan you'd set out you get pissed off. I think you're taking it out on the kids a bit because DP isn't there. But I'm sure you'll make it up tonight!

Am I the only one reading this who thinks "How the fuck does a four year old know the word 'arsehole'?" ?!

Believe me I'm not taking it out on the kids.

That's a huge, huge assumption.

LoTea his much older brother.