To ask guests to contribute to my wedding?

[DontForgetTheLightAlesLawrence]

Please give your honest thoughts on what you would think to receiving this in a wedding invitation.

Along with saying yes or no to coming, and whether you have any special dietary requirements, it has a bit saying that all drinks on the day/evening will be free, with a small contribution request, on the return of the invitation. Childrend drinks are free so no contribution required: non alcohol drinking adults £5, alcohol drinking adults £10.

Oh it can! You haven't heard the rest of our wedding plans! Naffer and tackier than a Katie price wedding hands down.

Wow that's a lot! Where's the wedding? Does that include accomodation?!

ooo we'll look out for your bride on an AIBU thread here then tass.

I guess the tokens could be an honesty box type set up? Fuck knows, will have a think on it later. Will see what Ryan of RyanAirBride thinks we should do.

oh, just read last post (I like it when the OP is highlighted)
so, you have to stay til the end of the night and you might get your change - or you might get some of the leftover drinks instead.

I see what you mean on a lot of it, Twinkle, but surely the point about a "free bar" is this: you can't control it easily, if at all

Doesn't this fly in the face of the advice about only planning what you can afford? After all you can choose outfits, food, cars and so on with a sensible eye on the budget, but then potentially see it blown apart by a bar bill from hell

Maybe I move in the wrong circles, but while practically every wedding I've known has provided the usual welcome drink, toast fizz and wine with the meal, I honestly don't know many who could even begin to consider a free bar

Wouldn't an honesty box / contribution box for drinks would be more straight forward.
(I'm just not getting the tokens thing)

We didn't have a pay bar and I've never been to a wedding with one.

People seem to think that they're entitled to a large wedding of their dreams and its up to their friends and family to subsidise this.

Congrats to the pp who compared a comment on social behaviour with criminality. Way to miss the point.

We had a free bar at our wedding. We had brought our own wine and champagne and offered ever, select spirits and mixers and juice. However, we had certain limits so the bar staff had to ask if we had gone over a certain amount/number of bottles

As it turned out most people stuck to the wine and champagne and we didn't reach a limit we were uncomfortable with It's not generally acceptable to get ratarsed at a wedding is it?

What is a PP? Is that me?

God no. You will have those who won't contribute and those who think it means they can drink the bar dry for a tenner. Have a pay bar like everyone else and move on with your lives.

If you're doing a wedding on a budget you don't have to have a bar. You buy the wine in bulk and have enough for people who want to keep drinking to do so.

moonshine yea you are right. Will have to have a think on it.

BYOB could be quite fun and tie in to your barn style wedding well.

Personally I have never been to a wedding where everything was paid. My own wedding we had a cash bar for the evening reception, who knew it was such a social faux pas

£1 a drink you run the risk of people drinking more than they usually would but I can see why you are trying to do that to save your friends some cash.

If it was me I would either sort a cash bar or make a kitch fun thing of boyb.

I'm guessing the pp was me. You stand by calling people who have a pay bar at their wedding "the lowest of the low"?

Not paying for all the guests drinks isn't a budget wedding I wouldn't say. Imo paying for all their drinks makes for a lovely extravagant wedding. I think there's some confusion here on who is saving money. (Aside from us saving money from not paying for ALL drinks but that wasn't something we were ever going to be able to afford)
We only looked at these type of options to make the drinks prices on the night cheaper. For us and for the guests. I think I'll scrape the tokens and just stick to the £1 a drink set up. We can get a float with change easier than we can get the tokens anyway I guess.

bi think your wedding sounds fanfuckingtastic now youve ditched the tenner lunacy

just do byob, much easier. whats the rest of the stuff youll be doing?

I know this will be poo pooed and poke holes into as everything else seems to be 😂😂 but the thing that put us off BYOB is that there aren't any shops near the venue at all. My family and the groom will be doing airport runs to pick people up, and bring them to the campsite (across the road from the venue) and it was just easier (we thought) for us to get the cheap booze in and people just help pay towards it. Otherwise it'll have to be a detour to Tesco on the way to the campsite which isn't too inconvenient, but neither is paying a small amount for each drink you have really. Imo anyway.

I can see how our initial suggestion appeared grabby but the intentions behind everything haven't been. We were just trying to make it easier and save everyone moment really!

^ *money

Not doing anything special, it's a summer fete theme! Bouncy castles, garden games, hay bales, Braii/hog roast, crispy Kreme stand, we were considering an entertainer for the kids, we have a friend who is a really good magician!

That sounds a laugh OP. I'd quite like some cider to go with the barn and hay bales theme it's quite Hardy-esque. (Not inviting self).

That's fine you can invite yourself twinkle

Purple 'Lowest of the low' with regard to wedding ettiquete not war crimes ok?