To ask guests to contribute to my wedding?

[DontForgetTheLightAlesLawrence]

Please give your honest thoughts on what you would think to receiving this in a wedding invitation.

Along with saying yes or no to coming, and whether you have any special dietary requirements, it has a bit saying that all drinks on the day/evening will be free, with a small contribution request, on the return of the invitation. Childrend drinks are free so no contribution required: non alcohol drinking adults £5, alcohol drinking adults £10.

If the landowner has purchased the license I guess they have all the paperwork, 'think 21' posters you have to have up etc.
Or, I'm sure the mobile bar would have that all taken care of for you. You'll know you're within all the laws etc.

I would rather have a cash bar.

There's nothing to clear up.

Ask HQ to check if you are concerned.

No, sorry!
I didn't get the name change, I think I understand now,

The OP was posting on behalf of a friend, (the bride to be(
Brian is on a FB group with them
Ryanairbride is the bride to be.

Just a thought & sorry if I've missed prior comments on this; who is actually providing & serving at the bar? Presumably they are doing this on a commercial basis involving vat, wages & profit.

How will they know what balance to charge you (?) when they cash-up? It all sounds complicated!

If you want to provide free drinks, one option is to issue a couple of raffle tickets per person, valid up to a particular time (& for use on one till if that helps). Then take each each ticket sale by value & that total will be the hosts' cost at the end.
(Keep a few spare tickets up your sleeve, obvs!)

Thanks wicksend

Then after the tickets have gone, revert to a cash bar.

Ok :)

I'm not arsing around with HQ I'm asking a straight question as I'm confused. Why were you Ryanair bride before when you were updating everyone on your wedding? A few posts ago?

Brian - 1 person

OP - 2 person

RyanAirBride - 3rd person.

RAB signed up to Mumsnet to thank you all for your help with this, having previously got a friend with a MN account (OP) to post on her behalf.

I posted when I realised that OP was busy, to try and clear some points up.

No sockpuppeting, or anything untoward.

Did you miss BrianCoxReborn's post?

It's not the same person deregistered. One is the OP who posted the question on the bride's behalf earlier, the other is the bride who registered to reply. Perfectly clear to me.

Oh XPost!

www.gov.uk/government/collections/alcohol-licensing-temporary-events-notices

Temporary events notice. Costs £21 to apply. Lets you sell alcohol for a one-off event. We do it regularly for school PTA.

You aren't funding my wedding you are paying a reduced rate for your own drinks? Whether I pay for the alcohol direct or I pay for the alcohol through a bar hire, what's the difference? The guest is the one paying for their drinks in both scenarios, and personally I'd rather pay the £1! 😂

Deregistered do you mean me? What possible reason would I post under two seperate anonymous accounts?? Apologies maybe I'm missing something?

Oh do you mean the 1234 bit? When I was trying to register my email address the site kept saying my password was invalid? So I kept trying it with different numbers because I thought it was because I had the same numbers in my password!

God this is confusing, how do you knew when someone is talking to you or just making a general comment?

Thank you momb, I think that is what the venue already provide.

Friends of mine had an informal wedding in a barn type venue where they just asked people to contribute drinks instead of presents. It worked really well, people were very generous and they had stuff left over for a hell of a Christmas party at the end of the year. Why not try something like that, Ryanair? It's an awful lot simpler than having a mix of bring your own and payments.

RyanAirBride

People tend to highlight the name of the person they are talking to. There are tips at the bottom of the text box to show you how.

Otherwise it can be a bit of a free for all, but there is a flow and etiquette which just comes with time.....have a look in Chat (or go to Active Convos) and have a mooch around the place.

the token idea I don't really understand, why tokens? Why not just go to the bar, pick a drink and pay a pound? Like a regular bar but cheaper?

Some said about not faffing around with a £1? A pound is easier to get out and pay than paying £7.20 or whatever your drink order comes to surely?

@brian

Do you have to know and type the full name out?

To highlight a name you type (without the space)

Brian

Brian

No, full names not necessary. Sometime it's easier to use initials, like yourself, could be RAB