to want some peace and quiet on the ward?

[vodkaredbull]

It's 3:30am and I'm losing my mind.

I was admitted to antenatal yesterday morning for induction. So far fuck all is happening and I'm exhausted. In a stupid amount of pain and all I want to do is sleep.

But of course that's not going to happen is it? I'm in a bay with two other beds. Across from me is the snorer but really I could probably block her out. The problem is the other patient who is surgically attached to her fucking iPhone. It's the middle of the night and she's ringing all of her friends for a chat. Who does that when people are trying to sleep?! I don't give a fuck if she's missing a party to be induced. I want to enjoy the totally useless paracetamol they've deigned to give me and try to get a little rest.

The midwife isn't helping much either. She's rather old fashioned and I'm surprised she hasn't locked us in. I tried to go for a walk to escape iPhone girl and she escorted me back to bed.

AIBU to expect a little peace and quiet in here? Seriously losing it right now.

[ThomasRichard]

There was a snorer on my postnatal ward. She kept me awake all night and woke DS up every time she did a particularly loud one. At one point I hissed at her to shut up; unfortunately the woman in the next bed thought I was talking to my newborn baby It got so bad that I wheeled DS into the kitchen and tried to go to sleep on the floor there but the midwife on duty made me go back again!

[AliceScarlett]

X- post, can you go home for a while?

[ThomasRichard]

Second time round was better though. I popped DD in bed next to me and we both slept all night. The midwives didn't have the heart to wake me/us up to do observations.

[bumbleymummy]

Oh no :( sorry to hear that. What are their plans for you? Maybe you could go for a walk around? Up and down stairs if you can manage it?

[Want2bSupermum]

You are tired from lack of sleep which won't be helping. Get your OH to speak up and see if they can sort out some quiet space so you can nap. After a snooze get up and start walking around. Ask for a birthing ball too.

[jgjgjgjgjg]

Strongly suggest that you consider going home OP if nothing has changed cervix and contraction wise.

You are exhausted and in no state to tackle the challenge of vaginal childbirth, or the major surgery of caesarean birth.

Your adrenaline levels will be sky high with alI the stress of 'phone woman' and in labour adrenaline depresses the production of oxytocin, which is the hormone responsible for keeping contractions going in labour.

Ignore anyone who tells you that you "can't leave" - medical care operates on the basis of informed consent in this country and you have the absolute right to leave any time you like unless and until a judge orders otherwise.

Tell them that you'll come back to try induction again when you are rested - if you so choose of course. The chances are that once you are relaxed and rested and feeling secure you will go into labour naturally anyway.

[2ManySweets]

Time for you to kick up a fuss to either

A) go home -with another pessary in you
B) get an "em"cs

Unless there is an evident clinical risk to your life or that of baby then they're likely keeping you in to cover their back God forbid something go "off plan".

I have an underlying heart condition and when my first pessary goes in I'll be campaigning after 6h to go home if nothing's happened on the basis the stress of an overnight stay is less likely to advance the labour.

Obviously I'll need to get a second opinion from the consultant but it's the plan to do my level best to get the OK from a DOCTOR, not to harangue the midwife as she can't make such a discharge decision.

You need to speak to a dr and pronto before they all fuck off for the evening. I'm annoyed on your behalf OP, the world is full of inconsiderate dicks and you don't need this shit anymore

[BlueBlueBelles]

God I feel for you. I had three lots of gel, 24 hour break, and other three lots of gel. Before they gave up and sectioned me. I started induction on Monday evening, got a section Friday evening - after I had ketones and couldn't stop throwing up. Was horrific.

Really hope your labour starts soon. And I hope noisy neighbour has a Karma in a horribly painful labour or something mean.

[2ManySweets]

basically what jgjgjg said

[RaspberryOverload]

I'd agree to kicking up a real big stink now.

Highly likely the stress of th last 30 hours has had a big effect.

The reason for the induction will have an impact on your options, but I think if I were in your position, I'd be calling for a doctor and laying it out that I withdrew consent for any more induction and insist on a CS.

[Whatdoidohelp]

Do you know what iPhone girl is in for? Hopefully karma will give her a screaming baby so she doesn't get any sleep. I have no compassion for noisy fuckers. Have some common courtesy.

[vodkaredbull]

IPhone girl is being induced and waiting to go to delivery but there's been an incident (?) over there and several people are critical. I have no idea what that means but it's a little unsettling. She's currently eating KFC.

As for me the senior midwife came to see me. I explained how I'm feeling and she's not happy to give yet another prostin tonight. She wants me to sleep, wait for a doctor and revisit the idea in the morning. I asked what my other options are and she's happy to discuss a section tomorrow.

That's terrifying in itself but the baby is getting a bit distressed so surely it's the best option.

[LastOneDancing]

Have a read about sections tonight OP - what to expect in surgery, things you can ask for to feel more in control etc. The NCT has a link to a c-section 'birth plan' with some things to consider.

Honestly, a little bit of preparation goes a long way if it's not something you have thought about before and can make it a lot less scary. I wish I'd prepped for a section just in case!

[LastOneDancing]

<a class="break-all" href="https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=www.nct.org.uk/sites/default/files/BirthPlan-PlannedCaesarean.pdf&ved=0ahUKEwjb5cCr_uPKAhUJHxoKHcOlBXUQFgghMAE&usg=AFQjCNHEn2V52zB8CgNVFU8-FR6h6RMDtA" rel="nofollow noindex" target="_blank">NCT link here

[bumbleymummy]

Well hopefully you can get a bit of rest tonight with your earplugs! I think LastOne's suggestion is a good one. You may find that after some rest things will progress but good to know what to expect with a c section just in case!

[vodkaredbull]

Thank you for the link! I just want her here safely now. It's been a rough couple of days!

Hopefully I'll be able to give some positive news next time!

[BlueBlueBelles]

An incident in delivery with several people critical? Eek.

Is there another ward room you can swap to, away from iPhone girl?

[saffronwblue]

Good luck op. It is really tough to spend some of the most precious and vulnerable few days of your life in intimate proximity with people who are noisy and selfish and eat disgusting KFC . Can you put earphones in and listen to a relaxation or mindfulness site just to take you away from it all for a bit?

[vodkaredbull]

IPhone girl is moving to delivery now

It's just me and the snorer and I can block her out. Waiting for a final CTG tonight then looking forward to some rest. Thank you all for the much appreciated support!

[bumbleymummy]

Hurray! :) hopefully lots of peaceful zzzzzzzs coming your way.

[BlueBlueBelles]

Oh fantastic! Fingers crossed for sleep tonight and baby tomorrow!

[saggyboobs1]

Good luck vodka, hope the baby is here by morning!

[liberatedwine]

Oh gosh, you poor thing, being induced with my 3rd child was the first time I wished I could afford private healthcare

Wishing you well and hoping your baby is in your arms soon

Sleep well!

[What2]

How exciting OP.