To wish I had slept around a bit

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That's is really
Married 10 years, DH is my one and only sex wise and I am his.
Met quite young and did some heavy petting with others boys but never the full deed.
I love DH but can't help thinking I have never really had great mind blowing sex and now never will.
Anyone else feel this way

The potential one night stand was besides we met

Sorry before we met

Tinkly both people in them relationship are responsible for their sex life however it doesn't seem like OP has spoken to him about it - why have you said he needs to up his game? Is OP not responsible for her sex life?

Do you have kids?

I do love him and still fancy him like mad which is why I think it is so frustrating.
I would never cheat in a million years and I do think I am lucky. I guess I just want it all

Yes, for me some was like in the films. But it is only that exciting with someone I don't know very well and in an interesting or unexpected situation. It needs to be an adventure. It wouldn't be much of an adventure if I had to shave first. I put it about joyfully with a FULL BUSH.
Some one night stands are quite crap though.

Tinkly sorry seems OP has spoken to her DH about things. Bit of a drip feed Op...

Just to add I feel like you OP. Pretty much identical situation. Although I do get to benefit from oral occasionally!

Posters saying 'tell him what you want'... I don't know about you OP but I feel I am so inexperienced I don't actually know what I want. I just want more than what I've got now.

He sounds a bit lazy OP

No wonder you are frustrated. YANBU to wish that you had more experience (I did and I am glad) but I don't think you'd feel half as remorseful if you were enjoying a fulfilling sex life at home.

He really needs to understand that he is actually being a bit selfish by not even trying to do the things you want. I am not saying anyone should be made to do anything that makes them feel uncomfortable, but you have been very clear about your wishes and desires and he is refusing to leave his comfort zone even for a moment.

Wine and a chat I think.

YANBU, but I did put it about a fair bit in my teens and early twenties (low self-esteem issues, wanted people to like me and to think I was good fun, yada yada) and now wish I had kept it in my pants a bit more. I had a lot of sex, some of it toe-curlingly bad, some of it absolutely awesome! I guess it's about striking a balance.

To improve your current experience, could you try making suggestions to your DH? Sort of "can you try putting your hand there?", "please would you do....?", "I've read something in a magazine; can we try....?"

We have a young DS.
I have talked to him a lot about making sex better but I have never actually told him he is awful. I think that would be. But cruel

Lolly when I say tell him what you want - I mean during the throes of passion so if you feel like you want something tell him, I didn't mean to give him a list of things at the dinner table before you go upstairs

I guess i will just have to have the conversation again and actually direct him to places during sex.

Peg he needs to up his game because he seems a bit lazy and complacent more than anything.

Mind you I think a good looking man who is still a virgin at 24 has either big sexual hang ups, a very low sex drive or, quite frankly, he's not that into women.

Your DH sounds like he has a low sex drive. I think that is the problem rather than your lack of experience.

Sorry, didn't see OP's post about trying to broaden DH's horizons

In that case, you need to talk to him. Make it clear that this is an issue for you and you both need to take responsibility for spicing things up in the sex department.

What's stopping you saying "I need to fuck you now", and throwing him on the floor (well, ok, maybe something slightly more feminine ) and having your wicked way with him? Lead by example!

lol peggyundercrackers
I have tried both, well maybe not a list.

On the other hand, if you've put it about too much, it's hard to settle down, because you're always aware what else is available... (just putting another option out there)

If you want the bald look, how about trying depilatory cream? Not stubbly in the same way as shaving, and not painful like waxing. But if your DH is not into oral, and you would like to be, I blooming well hope it works the same in the opposite direction - fair enough if neither's interested, or only one is, but placing conditions like this when he knows you are is not on.

As for the rest - how about introducing some sex toys into your bedroom? It could be fun for both of you, and you might be able to explore new techniques that way.

It makes even more sense now OP. A lot of us wonder about different men and we're having satisfying sex with our partners! His refusal to do oral even when you've shaved isn't great.. and just wanting you to get on top.. He just sounds like he has very low desire and isn't making you feel wanted. Sometimes there's nothing better than your partner throwing you down and telling you how much he wants you! I wonder if he has low testosterone.

The Earth should be moving. Introduce some sex toys, magazines, underwear, just try something different.

It is not sexy to have to wheedle your man into being good in bed. Yuk.
Get some viagra.

Oh, sorry - somehow I missed your post that you'd tried toys: how about getting him to watch how you touch yourself, to give him more ideas? Or using a bullet on yourself whilst you're DTD, to make it more mind-blowing for you?

I think you need to be really honest and open, and tell him that it's not really doing it for you, and make some suggestions as to how it could be improved. Some men respond better to direct instructions than hints, even when the hints are bloody great big ones

I have tried the "I want to fuck you" and the "fuck me now" thing. He says its to intense and it puts him under pressure. He also says I get an intense look on my face leading up to sex which puts him off a bit!!! He does not like my pouncing on him it's more of a lets have a cuddle and see where it leads.
Oh god I have no chance do I. I may as well throw all my sexy underwear and sex toys out now.
Except for the vibrator- I may need that- a lot

YANBU

I was with my DH for 25 years and sex was always ok but nothing special.

Now however, I have discovered sex can be bloody amazing and I actually really like it although I think you have to have that connection with someone, have that all consuming passion for them.

Just tell him what you like OP, men love that :)

Can anything be done about a mans low sex drive!!! I feel like my body is starving if that makes sense