To complain about this TA?

[angryschoolmum]

I have name changed for this post due to ranting at a few people who I think are on here already.
My DD is 5, she left school today weeping due to the comments of a TA. She said that the TA had told the group 2 minutes left and so she rushed the last of her work. Then the TA said "this is awful" about her work.

I know sometimes 5 year olds tell few lies/fibs re school and what happens. When DD does this and I say I'll ask a teacher she will always backtrack and end up confessing she exaggerated/made it up. When I said I'd call school tonight she said "please do, I don't want to see Mrs XXX again".

WIBU to complain to the head as I don't think awful is a word to tell a five year old about their work? If she'd said something like "it's not your best", "we'll redo it tomorrow" or "I don't think you tried hard with this", surely that would be better at this age.

OP I'm so glad the TA apologised and it is all sorted out. She was probably mortified at what she had done. She probably just used the wrong word when tired. If she is a TA that changes classes that can be difficult as what you would say to a Year 6 is completely different to a Reception child although I wouldn't say " awful" to either. Untidy to a Year 5/6. Reception I would be glad they had put pen to paper!
I suggest you do something special with your daughter this weekend and have a relaxing time. If weather is dreadful, bowl of water, towels and some foot and hand cream. My little girl used to love this we would put towel down and soak,first hands then feet in front of telly and then cream afterwards. It is a great way to relax and a good sharing ,girly time. Her brothers thought we were mad!

Name change fail there OP.

I'm a TA. There have been so many TA bashing threads it's made me realise that so many parents thinks were a bunch of useless arseholes. I work with older children with special educational needs and I absolutely love my job. It's stressful at times and the pay is crap but these kids mean the world to me and I do my absolute best every single day to make their school life a bit more enjoyable for them. My school does expect their pound of flesh for not much money but I wouldn't want to work anywhere else.

I don't think OP's sensitive flower is up for regular reading with yr5s.
I reckon in DC's school, the yr5s would be pretty unpleasant about it, actually, DD got plenty grief in yr1 for regular reading with the yr3s (grief from the yr3s).

I was a high ability 5yo reader (& writer) with photographic memory at a school in deprived area, working 4 yrs ahead of age... my mother would have said "Oh dear" given me a hug & bustled me back to school if all this happened. End of.

What annoyed me most about the initial post was the bit about "I don't want to see Mrs x again" like a disgruntled 5 year old can cost someone their job.

The school I work in has a current very difficult cohort of parents who complain about the slightest thing and seem determined to undermine teaching staff (including the head teacher). It's exhausting having to analyse and remember the minute details of every single exchange with a child who has gone home and basically been encouraged to lie about you.

Fair play to you OP, it sounds like you have taken the suggestions on board. Its easy to get emosh about things when you're not well.

gah! OP you're not being over-emotional-: it's never ok to call a 5yr old's work "awful"... you're not overreacting and it hardly makes your daughter a "sensitive flower" as lljkk ("I'm tough, me") would have it.

op hasnt taken anything on board!

she went into school and complained anyway!!!!