To complain about this TA?

[angryschoolmum]

I have name changed for this post due to ranting at a few people who I think are on here already.
My DD is 5, she left school today weeping due to the comments of a TA. She said that the TA had told the group 2 minutes left and so she rushed the last of her work. Then the TA said "this is awful" about her work.

I know sometimes 5 year olds tell few lies/fibs re school and what happens. When DD does this and I say I'll ask a teacher she will always backtrack and end up confessing she exaggerated/made it up. When I said I'd call school tonight she said "please do, I don't want to see Mrs XXX again".

WIBU to complain to the head as I don't think awful is a word to tell a five year old about their work? If she'd said something like "it's not your best", "we'll redo it tomorrow" or "I don't think you tried hard with this", surely that would be better at this age.

Not many TAs I know do that amount of overtime to still be around when you call this late

...and agree, most TA's (or LA's or PSA's_) leave when the final bell goes at around 3.30pm in most primary schools.

Sorry OP but there is no way that a yr1 and yr5 pupils would be working together on class work. They might be doing SEAL or PSHE activities in a group task but I would expect the yr5s to be doing the writing, not the 5 year old.

Sounds like TA could do with rethinking her approach. Do you know what the work was OP? If so, maybe DD could do something related to it with you, and take it to show her teacher and TA tomorrow. Strong opening from you along the lines of " we thought you'd like to see the lovely story/picture/number work DD did at home - she said you'd been working on xxx in class" Hopefully teacher and TA will take the opportunity to encourage and praise your DD to redress the balance!

If it's relevant she was doing her work with the year 5 pupils as she is a bit ahead for a year 1

Yeah right. We often have year one children working with ten year olds...

But..... Why would someone make this up? I don't get it.

It's possible part of it's true and the OP just wants an excuse to have a go at the TA so has chosen to make her DD sound like a prodigy picked on by the awful Mrs X to back up her stance.

Because they can Summer

Because they have the luxury of name changing on this forum

Because HQ probably can't prove it either way.

Its another bash TAs thread-there's been loads of them over the years about the way they talk to precious darlings, how they dare to write in reading records/listen to children read/stop parents seeing teachers by heading them off at the door etc etc

Like Bamboo said, she's four years ahead?
The TA might have chosen her words better, but you do risk raising a special snowflake to be put out to the extent you seem to be...
Maybe you should tell the school she's not ready to be included with children so much older than her. Even if she is academically capable, she'll be missing out, to some extent, on interacting socially with her own age group/ developing friendships etc

Well, it's possible that exaggeration is a family trait.

My five year old is in sixth form, OP, and they tell her that her work is crap. I'm going to complain now.

I wonder if OP means they have Year 5 children to help the younger children with reading or something? That does happen in some schools.

Yes, I've noticed a lot of TA bashing threads on here.

It's like every job, you get good ones and bad ones, same as teachers and every other walk of life.

The posts that really irritate me are if someone has mentioned they work in a school and then say something entirely unrelated that's a bit contentious there are loads of people desperate to jump in with "I'm glad my DC don't go to YOUR school!!" and shite like that.

Maybe the work was actually awful?

I guess so but its just so..... Mundane.. And specific... There are some impressive skills in detection here though.

If a Y1 is working with Y5 it would generally be because their behaviour has been so awful their teacher has sent them to a different class before she locks them in a cupboard (I'm a teacher) 😆

Only working with Y5?

My seven year old regularly teaches quantum physics at the local Uni.

He's shockingly behind, I know.

She's a bit ahead so they put her with children five years older than her....

Really

If it is a ta bashing thread I can only say that ours are brilliant.

lilac

When I was in primary (20 years ago), they paired older and younger kids to read together. But I find it hard to believe a year 1 would be with year 5 for anything else.

The word choice wasn't the best, but its not worth getting in a tizz over, you or your daughter. Your job as parent is to calm her down and make her get on with things.