To wonder if Gofundme is the new thing after a death?

[yankeecandle4]

Serious question.

Due to FB I have seen lots of Gofundme pages set up after the death of a loved one. Mostly (but not always) it has been after the death of a child and is in aid of funeral/headstone or fundraising for the condition that they person died from eg Children's Cancer Fund etc. Completely understandable.

However of late I have seen them with no apparent cause/purpose. This morning there was one "Please keep donations coming in because she doesn't have X in her life anymore" X was not in any way responsible for her upkeep (he was a teen), so I am a bit perplexed at how/why monetary donations are necessary or even desirable.

This is not a thread about grief, but more an etiquette question. Is this now a "thing" to give money to a person when they have lost a loved one, for no apparent reason?

I agree that cremation shouldn't be a lesser choice, but i don't think this thread was saying that, just one poster.
I want to be cremated.
I do not see the point of being buried. (For me)If it's cheaper to then even better, i'll be dead.
I think it's unfair though at how much funerals are.

*Can you really not see why people may wish to give money to recently bereaved people

Or why recently bereaved people may need money?

Are you really silly? It's something that people in comunities have been doing since the year dot.

The Internet makes our comunities bigger.*

I hope I'm not silly needs, but if I am it is not intentionally. I am aware that people have been doing whip rounds for years in the case of close family members to contribute towards funerals etc. I think i made that clear in my OP? That was never in question. For me though, I can't really see why I'd offer someone who is not a direct relative (such as a cousin, who is not paying for the funeral) money, for no specified reason (and reasons are usually stated on crowdfunding?)

This was an etiquette/norm question. It seems that this is very normal now so I will take that on board for future.

I agree it's just a modern version of a whip round, I contributed to a fund for a headstone for a baby boy who died of SIDS.

When my daughter died my house was literally filled with flowers, expensive delivered florist bunches. I think my friends and extended family just wanted to do something. I wasn't in the stage of mind to look after the flowers and gave a lot away. Given the choice the money, even donations to charity in my daughters name, would have been so much more useful.

DDs funeral was free but as expat says I paid a lot of the lair, headstone, also the casket (because I wanted white) and flowers.

I understand in these situations people just want to do something to let them know you are thinking of them so I have no problem with crowd funding, for any reason, after a death.