This mum is totally unreasonable isn't she? Help me word a reply!

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My son went to his friends house for a play and tea yesterday. They are both 5. They went to a local soft play.

I went to pick my son up and the husband was there, all good. Had a great time.

I text the mum to say thank you etc and I had this reply...

'No problem! They had a great time at soft play and then they had some dinner there. It came to £10.00. You can give me the money at the gates tomorrow. Have a nice evening! X'

Erm what the fuck? Is that normal? What do I do?

Did she buy you cake and coffee with your £10 OP?

I'm guessing she conveniently cancelled

not conveniently placemarking, oh no not me

StillStaying - of course we are interested. Just wondering if the OP will return with an update is all........

Good for you op. I hope you had a nice coffee and a bloody huge slice of delicious cake!

What a nice ending. Well done diplomatic you!

Had a feeling there was something going on behind the text.

Sorry been really busy today!

It all went fine. When I got there she gave me a bunch of daffodils and a hug! I 'forgot' my purse this morning. I didn't let her know until I pretended to get it out of my bag...

I had an orange juice £2, deluxe hot chocolate £3.80 and carrot cake £5.50. She had a cappuccino £2 and carrot cake £5.50.

Mwahaha

You had to pretend you'd forgotten your purse?

Do you think she would have asked you for the money for your items then?? Cheeky lady

It was nice she got you some daffodils though I bet she nicked them out of someone's garden

I just wanted to get as much as I could from her to be honest!

Haha funny you should say that. On the way to this little coffee shop there is a green area with daffodils starting to come out..

Oh dear. I see an invoice for coffee and cake coming...

Yes i said that earlier shes invoicing you now as you speak

And have these i wont charge you much

Hahaha

Seriously though op, this is it. Once you start tallying up the accounts with a friend then I don't think you ever really stop again. Like the above, where you tried to get a decent-sized treat; I doubt it would have occurred to you before yesterday's events, am I right? Yet now it's almost natural, in the interests of fairness.

This friendship has evolved to a not-so-good place I think.....

Carrot cake for £5.50?! Is it laced with gold???!

I think we are pretty much done now, apart from saying the pleasantries at the school gate.
I won't be having her DS again or meeting up with her outside. I would always be worried about her motives from now on, shame!

It was fucking massive! Proper fresh home made in our little local coffee shop. totally overpriced

Bloody hell! £5.50 for a bit of cake! I could make loads of cakes for that.

She was buying with my tenner, so actually I would have still paid for it. That's why I got an extra big bit of cake and conveniently forgot my purse if she had asked for the extra money!

I still don't get why she took the tenner back in the first place after admitting herself that she was wrong to expect it. I just can't imagine how that would go:

Cheeky Woman - "I'm really sorry. After all you've done with my DS I was wrong to expect that money back"

OP: "here's that money back"

CW - "Thanks"

OP can you explain how that went?

It's a shame when the DC have to be the ones punished for adults acting like dicks.

What are you going to say to your DC when they ask if her DS can come round to play?

I'd imagine she'll say no!

£5.50 for a slab of carrot cake. I'd expect a share in the company for that.

It went just like that. By the end of it I was happy to give her the money to just keep the air clear.

For the next few months I will say not today or maybe next time. I'm sure he will be fine

Did you try to clear the air? It sounds like you have just decided that your association has to end. That seems like a shame to me. No offense intended.

Yank they went and had coffee and very expensive cake together!

That's expensive