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This mum is totally unreasonable isn't she? Help me word a reply!

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WaitrosePigeon · 21/01/2016 10:32

My son went to his friends house for a play and tea yesterday. They are both 5. They went to a local soft play.

I went to pick my son up and the husband was there, all good. Had a great time.

I text the mum to say thank you etc and I had this reply...

'No problem! They had a great time at soft play and then they had some dinner there. It came to £10.00. You can give me the money at the gates tomorrow. Have a nice evening! X'

Erm what the fuck? Is that normal? What do I do?

OP posts:
Goingtobeawesome · 21/01/2016 20:08

You wanted to keep the peace = you gave her the money.

She wanted to keep the peace = she let you and offered cake. OP you sound lovely. Don't let her take advantage of you again tomorrow.

Waltermittythesequel · 21/01/2016 20:10

She doesn't know why she asked for it...but she took it! Hmm

I think it's sensible to let it go without a drama but there is no way I'd be taking her kid anywhere in the future.

Original poster
WaitrosePigeon · 21/01/2016 20:13

I swear I am a nice person! Remember I was the one who rescued that baby pigeon Martin Grin

OP posts:
pictish · 21/01/2016 20:14

You're quite right of course OP. Keep things sweet, best way.

Leelu6 · 21/01/2016 20:17

What baby pigeon, OP? Link to thread please? :)

HixieRice · 21/01/2016 20:31

Is waterrat the OW?

Theimpossiblegirl · 21/01/2016 20:32

You are a very nice person but not a walkover. That's the best way to be.

LavenderLedge · 21/01/2016 20:35

I also would like a link to the baby pigeon thread; I ADORE pidgies!

PaulAnkaTheDog · 21/01/2016 20:42

I've never seen a baby pigeon... Blush

Original poster
WaitrosePigeon · 21/01/2016 20:52

I will try and find it, hold on

OP posts:
Original poster
WaitrosePigeon · 21/01/2016 20:53

Try this www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/2498673-Advice-please-on-an-injured-baby-pigeon-Ive-found

OP posts:
Sparklycat · 21/01/2016 20:55

Awful! If I take a friends kid out I'll pay for them, if she didn't want to pay money then they could have just stayed at home. Having said this I have a friend who's do something g like that, although she doesn't have kids, when we were living together she went shopping and brought back a mug she'd seen that she thought I'd like and then said 'it cost a fiver you can pay me tomorrow'.....some people have no social etiquette!

CantWaitForWarmWeather · 21/01/2016 21:04

What if you didn't have the money to give to her tomorrow? She should have asked if it's ok for you to give the money tomorrow rather than saying casually you can give it to her tomorrow. That's really cheeky.

Fwiw If the trip to soft play wasn't planned in advance, then it was her decision alone to take them and you don't owe her the money.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 21/01/2016 21:27

Do all baby pigeons have such humongous beaks?! Shock

ThatsNotMyRabbit · 21/01/2016 21:59

But...but she still took the money? That's bizarre.

"You're right - I was wrong to ask for the money after all you've spent on my DS. Yeah two fivers are fine. Ta" 🤔

WonderingAspie · 21/01/2016 22:30

She definitely shouldn't have taken the money and if I were you OP, I'd never pay for her child to have an expensive day out again!

rainbowstardrops · 21/01/2016 22:56

She admitted she was a bit batshit for asking for the money but then still willingly took it?
Bizarre.
I'd keep future play dates to your house with fish fingers and chips for tea if I were you OP.
Weird.

RainOhJoyus · 21/01/2016 23:03

The only explanation OP is she clearly saw the thread! As she obviously thought letting you pay for legoland, and meals out etc was perfectly fine, but marks up your costs to a tenner.
OPs "friend" really bad form, and to still have taken the tenner and play the nice guy in buying the OP a coffee with her money, wtaf? Give her the legoland cost and meal costs then buy her a coffee

Leelu6 · 22/01/2016 07:48

I don't think the friend saw the thread, I think she backed down when challenged, she probably wasn't expecting it.

dustarr73 · 22/01/2016 07:56

I wouldnt be letting that "friend" buy the coffee,otherwise you will get the bill at the schoolgates.

FrankSpencer · 22/01/2016 08:01

Some people have some brass. I hate people like this.
It's that expression, you give an inch - they take a mile.

Writerwannabe83 · 22/01/2016 08:10

leelund - she didn't back down too much as she still got the money out of the OP Grin

I can't wait to hear the update from the coffee date. I hope the OP asks to go somewhere expensive and orders £10's worth of drink and cake so she can a least get her money back that way Smile

scarednoob · 22/01/2016 08:21

I've been feeding a hungry baby for what feels like all night. Man I could eat £10 of cake right now. Lemon drizzle, caramel and one of those shop bought birthday sponges with jam and roll-on icing please.

I think OP handled this really well and the kids' friendship won't suffer. one of two things should happen now: either the mother will click over coffee and realise that her DS got treated and will be mortified - or she won't and she will be paying for any future outings herself!

Oliversmumsarmy · 22/01/2016 12:11

Am aghast she took the money and then said in effect to make up for everything you are going to buy her cake and coffee. If there is change will you be getting it.

Be careful about her because she now knows she can spin any a line and you will pay. i always think it is a bit like when someone clones your card, they start off with a small amount and if that goes through then they go after bigger and bigger amounts. Seen it happen to more than one friend.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 22/01/2016 13:03

Anyone else wondering how the coffee went this morning? Smile