Ghosty I can see you are quite determined to make the thread about you personally rather than discuss the issue in general.
Countering facts with your own experience is fine. However, when talking about such big an issue as immigration it's impossible to talk about one person and to base opinions, facts and possibilities on that one.
To put it another way, if I terminated a pregnancy which I was to subsequently regret, mentioning this in threads about termination would be totally appropriate. Insisting termination was wrong, repeatedly, in all circumstances, because of my personal experiences would be closing down the discussion.
Anyway, I genuinely apologise for offending you and I was sharp, but I was rather enjoying reading the intelligent and well thought out responses and it is frustrating when they turn into a discussion of one woman's mighty struggle, when that was not the original topic of the thread! I think saying that's a personal attack is over the top myself, but I apologise if you interpreted my post in this way.