To not want to eat food that my mother has cooked?

[Cheeseoncrumpets]

I probably am being a bit unreasonable a bit, but to put it bluntly she is shit at cooking. Everything is either frozen or out of a packet, either overcooked or undercooked, unseasoned and served on a freezing cold plate. Her roast dinners are the absolute worst though, unseasoned cremated meat, frozen Yorkshire puddings, burned roast potatoes and veg that's been stewed for about two hours smothered in thick gloopy bisto gravy. I feel sick just thinking about it.

So, she's currently in a huff with me because I don't want to go around there and eat one of her Sunday roasts. To put it into context, we usually all go out as a family together for Sunday dinner. But today she's decided she can't be bothered today's and so instead of asking us first has gone out this morning and bought a piece of beef, some veg and has announced she will be making us all lunch instead. My heart sunk as I was looking forward to a hearty Sunday meal, cooked properly in a nice pub. So I declined and said "no thanks, you know Im not a big lover of Sunday dinner" and then got in the ear because she's bought everything in for us, and she's also enquired as to why I will eat a roast in the pub but not one of hers...

So now I'm stuck. She's not good with crticism anyway so I can't really say "sorry mum but your a shit cook" without it provoking WW3.

I know it's trivial, but am I really unreasonable to not want to eat her slop cooking eveer again?

I think that you are being a bit unfair here.

My DM is a terrible cook, but she cooks out of love and I like spending time with her, so I eat it. Like you there are a number of things which I thought I didn't like until I left home (I thought curry had marmalade and raisins in it).

FWIW, I think that home baked yorkshires are awful, roasties are bland and often half raw in pubs and restaurants. People just have different tastes, hers are obviously different from yours.

The bottom line is that unless she is trying to poison you, she is cooking food for you out of love, and she spent her money on a meal for everyone which you then turned around and said 'i'm not eating it'. If your priority is having a good meal over appreciating her and her efforts, in my opinion that is quite sad.

I do feel where your coming from OP, but in my case it's my PIL.

I adore them, but even they admit that there are some failings when it comes to Sunday lunch occasionally. It's not just occasionally though.

The meat is 99% of the time cooked beautifully, even if the beef is cooked a wee bit more than I prefer but that's personal taste.

I don't even care that they use frozen roasties and Aunt Bessie's yorkshires, or even that mostly the veg is frozen.

What I have major issues with is that they use a pressure cooker to cook said veg.
I used to like cauliflower- even the thought of it now turns my stomach because it melts the second a fork gets near it, and the worst combo of veg I had was cauliflower, carrots, broad beans and peas. Covered in lumpy but thin granule gravy.
That was the day we got home and I looked my husband in the eye and said that I was going to ask to work every Sunday from now on, half jokingly.

Glad you made it through though.

I think your dm's biggest failing isn't her cooking but her raising a dd as "entitled" as you.

Home made Yorkshires are so much better than frozen. They are big and crunchy and delicious. Everything tates better home made, yes I cheat ocassionally (smash anyone?), but you cant beat a bit of tender meat,proper home made gravy, huge yorkshire and crunchy vegetables IMO.

bastard love child of a Yorkshire pudding and a fairy cake

Arf!

Anyway, roast potatoes must be salted.

Forgot whatever else the thread was about. Just remember, salt. the. potatoes!

I genuinely dont like home made yorkshires, they are too big, too doughy and crispy at the same time. Completely overpower and IMO spoil a roast dinner.

Isn't that what the salt and pepper on the table is for? So that people can season to their own tastes?

Smash? You cook smash, and you want us to sympathise about frozen yorkshires? I know which I'd rather have!

My MIL does boil her veg within an inch of their lives. She's probably got her sprouts for next Christmas on at a rolling boil already, to make sure they're done properly.

My mother, OTOH undercooks things. I mean there's al dente and then there's broccoli so undercooked it breaks your teeth.

Well I'm with the OP, mainly because she says roast potatoes, vegetables and yorkshires.

I love aunt Bessie's Yorkshires, I don't like the huge crunchy ones, yorkies should be soft.

But I love my roast and it does sound awful tbh. I like my veg crunchy (DH will occasionally moan it's not cooked enough so I try to leave it a bit longer) but MIL's is like mush. I remember eating broccoli at hers and it literally took no chewing, it just melted.

I don't season anything tbh but I have to say my potatoes are the best I've had. I never used to keen on roast potatoes until I started doing my own, now I have loads.

Oh I sympathise op I really do.

somethings my parents make are lovely. others are awful and I have to just be polite and choke it down.

meat is always overcooked and everything is under seasoned and it always takes sooooo long.

doesn't help that they buy really poor quality stuff to cook with in the first place.

of course I'm. polite however sometimes I do inwardly cringe. good job I love them hey

I like fairly overcooked veg and can't be doing with this al dente malarkey, would never contemplate anything other than a cooked from scratch roast potato, and am neutral on the issue of frozen Yorkshires provided enough gravy is on them.

(misses point of thread)

Yorskhires shouldn't be soft

Salt on potatoes before they're cooked is different to adding seasoning after they've been cooked, I think. The salt does something to the potato during the process that just doesn't match up if adding salt after. Although I may be talking bollocks on that point.

I do think roast dinners are funny things though - everyone has very very set ideas about how it should be done and gets very precious about it (me included!). I have an unhealthy interest in how people do roast dinners.

Some people have cauliflour cheese (sp?) with it...now that is wrong!

No, some people think their homemade Yorshires and roast pots taste better.
We nod politely.
My group of (lazy, age 35-65) friends all serve M&S / Waitrose / Aunt Bessy etc and we much prefer it to homemade.

Some people try to avoid added salt on medical advice, or just like v little.

I totally agree agree veg, pasta, rice should not be over-cooked

Meat rare / medium / well-done is personal preference, or even what you digestion handles best:
I can't eat meat with any pink, because it makes my tum queasy - some on both sides of the family can really suffer with pink meat.

We love cauli cheese with roast !

But....but...cheese......with gravy ?!

Dh can't eat pink meat either. We usually get a cheaper cut and slow cook it. Or just have chicken.

Yum < peasant >

Carrots, that have been left in the plastic to sweat, 2 weeks over best before, not peeled, so dirty and covered in pesticides, boiled for half an hour.
Week in, week out. With beef so overcooked it crumbles when carved.
Fucking torture.
I don't know how much longer I can face being polite and forcing that shit down...

My mum wasn't much of a cook. We used to joke about her modelling herself on Ria from Butterflies.

It was all cheerful banter. There's no way we would ever have said anything if it might have hurt her feelings. Her yorkshires were a running joke. However, she made amazing gravy and taught me how. Her mash was never lumpy and she could always get a decent amount of crackling on a joint of pork.

I was just putting a bit of perspective on the situation. Mums aren't around forever and if it's a one-off meal, surely the OP can put up with it and eat the bare minimum without creating too much of a fuss. It's just my opinion but I really would give anything to have an over cooked soggy meal made by my late DM. However, I have a hangover from hell today so maybe being a touch too emotional and sentimental.

Ham that's what the op did.

I was just explaining my previous post and mental state Krampus as it seemed to annoy a few people. I'll get my coat ,,,

Ahh, I didn't connect your post to a previous one

Find a local evening cookery course, and persuade her to sign up with you, under the illusion that you want to go and need her support, and want some mother daughter time.

You can't avoid her food forever, so you have to fix the problem, and everyone gets decent food.