To not want to eat food that my mother has cooked?

[Cheeseoncrumpets]

I probably am being a bit unreasonable a bit, but to put it bluntly she is shit at cooking. Everything is either frozen or out of a packet, either overcooked or undercooked, unseasoned and served on a freezing cold plate. Her roast dinners are the absolute worst though, unseasoned cremated meat, frozen Yorkshire puddings, burned roast potatoes and veg that's been stewed for about two hours smothered in thick gloopy bisto gravy. I feel sick just thinking about it.

So, she's currently in a huff with me because I don't want to go around there and eat one of her Sunday roasts. To put it into context, we usually all go out as a family together for Sunday dinner. But today she's decided she can't be bothered today's and so instead of asking us first has gone out this morning and bought a piece of beef, some veg and has announced she will be making us all lunch instead. My heart sunk as I was looking forward to a hearty Sunday meal, cooked properly in a nice pub. So I declined and said "no thanks, you know Im not a big lover of Sunday dinner" and then got in the ear because she's bought everything in for us, and she's also enquired as to why I will eat a roast in the pub but not one of hers...

So now I'm stuck. She's not good with crticism anyway so I can't really say "sorry mum but your a shit cook" without it provoking WW3.

I know it's trivial, but am I really unreasonable to not want to eat her slop cooking eveer again?

At least it won't be served on a slate OP.

YABU, I think you sound like an ungrateful little child
(I'd give anything to have my late mother back for one disgusting burnt/soggy/cremated Sunday lunch )

I also love frozen yorkshires

I'm a stickler for real roasties (the frozen ones just aren't worth doing imo) but frozen yorkies are fine.

My MIL is a terrible cook but when we are invited I suck it up and eat what I can, it may not taste great but it is served up with love!
She knows she's not a great cook and now when we go for Christmas lunch she is quite happy for me to take everything with me like meals on wheels, she will cook the meal and roast potatoes and I take the rest and reheat it in her kitchen. (they live 3 miles away but wont come to us on Christmas day as FIL likes to go to the pub before lunch)
Why can't you say you will come over but that you insist on sharing the cooking. Don't give advice or criticise just get on with it "I'll make the gravy etc"

Ah, I think you'll have to suck it up and go. I feel for you though.

YANBU, OP.

I'm appalled at the number of people pleasers on this thread.

Lol true Sparklingbrook

Maybe that's what made her offer OP, last weeks meal out.

Nowt wrong with frozen Yorkshire pudding.

The rest sounds dire though. Does she wolf down her own food? Maybe attempting a roast will remind her whybyou usually go out.

Take a nice pud.

My mother was a dreadful cook too so I completely understand where you are coming from. I was really skinny as a child as a result and when I was a teenager at home I volunteered to make the Sunday dinner every week, then became a vegetarian so I had to prepare my own food. As an adult I avoided eating with her as much as possible. Can you invite her to yours instead?

'People pleasers?'

there is PLENTY wrong with frozen yorshire puddings.

Op, YAB a bit U but id feel the same.

There's people pleasing and behaving with a modicum of kindness towards your mother.

By "people pleasers" I assume you mean people with basic manners?

No, I'll not apologise for that thanks.

Agree with ilovesooty
I'm wondering what our dc will post about us, hope it isn't shitty

I feel your pain (MIL is also a terrible cook) but I think you have to suck it up. I usually just smile, eat a small portion and thank profusely. SIL and I have become quite skilful at surreptitiously helping things along in the kitchen - MIL's main problem is that she has no sense of timing so just shoves things in the oven as it occurs to her. Veg could easily go on at the same time as a big joint of meat, for example There's also a real worry of food poisoning at times, so we do keep an eye.

There's a huge difference between a frozen Yorkshire and a home made one imo. The frozen ones are nowhere near as good derails thread

at the Yorkshire pudding snobs.

I hope OP's DM doesn't serve (gulp) instant coffee as well.

An ex-partners mum prided herself on her roast dinners. They were a prime example of "older person's" idea of Sunday dinner.

Meat - cooked to the texture of cork.
Veg - boiled with grim determination until all nutritional content (and most of the colour) had gone.
Along with
Yorkshires - admittedly impressively huge - but burnt.
Gravy - promisingly rich and dark looking. Sadly just tasted vaguely of burnt.
Roasties - burnt.

I used to eat it anyway, cooing about how delicious it was, just because I was sucking up to her. She could be a bit of a cow and apparently disliked most of XDPs girlfriends but for some reason she took to me.

Bless her she was that proud of her dinners. I used to assume at first that XDP and his dad were humouring her too but it turned out they loved her plates of black stuff.

I am no fan of roast dinner and my mum is no Nigella but I don't let her know that! Eat the food for one day. It won't kill you.

No, a people pleaser certainly isn't someone with basic manners Santas . People pleasers tend to be conditioned to put the needs of others before their own. Why does the mother's right to be praised for making a Sunday lunch (of sorts) trump the daughter's right to have an edible meal? It's the height of rudeness to sit and compliment someone on their cooking when in reality, everyone is trying not to gag. No wonder the woman thinks her cooking is good if people keep on going back for more!

trump the daughter's right to have an edible meal?

Blimey it's all about rights now.

It's the height of rudeness to sit and compliment someone on their cooking when in reality, everyone is trying not to gag.

No, it really truly is not!

Your post is as entirely selfish as the OP's. Are you saying you never put the "needs" of others before your own? That speaks volumes.

Yorkshire pudding snobbery is not something I've ever come across in RL.

I'm thankful for that TBH .