To not want to eat food that my mother has cooked?

[Cheeseoncrumpets]

I probably am being a bit unreasonable a bit, but to put it bluntly she is shit at cooking. Everything is either frozen or out of a packet, either overcooked or undercooked, unseasoned and served on a freezing cold plate. Her roast dinners are the absolute worst though, unseasoned cremated meat, frozen Yorkshire puddings, burned roast potatoes and veg that's been stewed for about two hours smothered in thick gloopy bisto gravy. I feel sick just thinking about it.

So, she's currently in a huff with me because I don't want to go around there and eat one of her Sunday roasts. To put it into context, we usually all go out as a family together for Sunday dinner. But today she's decided she can't be bothered today's and so instead of asking us first has gone out this morning and bought a piece of beef, some veg and has announced she will be making us all lunch instead. My heart sunk as I was looking forward to a hearty Sunday meal, cooked properly in a nice pub. So I declined and said "no thanks, you know Im not a big lover of Sunday dinner" and then got in the ear because she's bought everything in for us, and she's also enquired as to why I will eat a roast in the pub but not one of hers...

So now I'm stuck. She's not good with crticism anyway so I can't really say "sorry mum but your a shit cook" without it provoking WW3.

I know it's trivial, but am I really unreasonable to not want to eat her slop cooking eveer again?

I think some of our mothers come from a generation where instant food was the next big thing and they might have been rebelling against the expectation that women "should" cook well.

I would say that I/we just fancied getting out in the fresh air, and apologise and say we would see her as usual the next week.

I can't cook either. I don't expect other people to eat what I cook though if it's dreadful.

My mother can cook alright but she has some other issues. One time she came round with a box of cakes she had made for the elderly ladies' group at church. She said would we like them, because while making them she had accientally grated a bit of her thumb into it.

I was like and declined, probably not very gracefully but when I wasn't looking she fed them to my children instead

Nothing says 'I love you' like a bit of fungal dead skin cake.

Sorry, another YABU from me. One non-tasty meal a week isn't going to kill you. If it's really a problem just eat a big breakfast, as others have said. Family dinners are about sharing time together, not cordon bleu cookery.

Frozen yorkies are the worst. My mums similar in that she uses aunt Bessie's to cook her roasts. Fortunately we don't often go there for dinner.

Unprepared - similar here! I remember when I started cooking my own roast dinners, being surprised at how quick it was, Mum's always took a minimum of 3 hours!

YABU, she's you mum and she's trying to do a nice thing for you all. If she was an excellent cook you would probably not mind half as much that you're not going to the pub anymore. Offer to give her a hand if she'll let you. It's only one meal and as long as you don't get food poisoning it's really not a bit deal.

ExSIL and MIL are truly dreadful cooks. SIL's children (late teens) now post pictures of some of her more spectacular disasters on social media. TBF SIL takes criticism with good humour and now she has more money buys a lot of pre prepared stuff from M&S - some of her special occasion meals
disasters are now part of family legend.

It is one meal - I think you need to go and eat it with good grace.

I wont eat at my mothers - between the orange cigarette covered fingers, scratching herself and touching food, coughing everywhere because of cigarettes and the dog hair everywhere, I cannot stomach it.

I have to wash all of us when I leave the house.

That doesnt make me a horrible person. Im never rude to her face and always make excuses.

Yabu. Smile and go along with it, or offer to cook. "It is too much to expect you to do it all as well as paying for it mum, let me do it."

Doesn't everyone use frozen yorkies? Blimey we have some precious types on here. And I am someone who cooks from scratch a lot.

Nothing wrong with frozen yorkies at all tobys. I feel a bit sorry for the OP's Mum TBH.

My Yorkshire puddings are awful. Aunt Bessie would laugh at them.

How old are you? If you don't like it then cook your meals yourself. I was cooking for the family at 12 as a young carer.

Are we sisters? Because she sounds just like mine! I have such a limited amount of food i like because I was brought up on the worst food and just thought I didn't like things. It's only since leaving home I have realised there are so many different foods. I remember making a dinner for my dh when we were going out, the veg was like mush, I genuinely didn't know that wasn't how you cooked it as it was what I always had growing up. My dm is an awful cook, every single piece of meat could crack a plate. What's worse is she always wants us down but will never admit she can't cook. Ever. We always have to feed the kids before or after. She insists on doing Christmas dinner and every year it is just awful. My dh and ds and her dh have put their foot down and are insisting we do it or go out from now on. Those saying yabu obviously never grew up with awful food. I never really enjoy food it's more just eat because I'm hungry and that's because you only ever ate her food if you were starving growing up. I can't cook and I know it but if people insisted on telling me my food was lovely when clearly it wasn't, I would be really annoyed. Surly you can be honest with your family? It doesn't mean you have to be rude.

Hello
I feel your pain, sounds like my Mum and she loves full control of cooking so no one can help. ( New Year's Day , she served 2 year old smoked salmon which she dug out from her bottomless pi of a chest freezer😮😮! Best before 24.01.16!!

Luckily, I checked the packet in the bin, however my 4 year old daughter had just eaten some( I had tasted it before giving it to her and it was fine, and thought to double check the packet in the bin when my mums back was turned....I am an expert at this!

So my expert advice is....with the dried food, two pieces of kitchen roll up your sleeve and when everyone is distracted put the non gravely covered items up your sleeve( note , wear baggy jumper)

My husband mastered it for the first time on New Years Day, although was a bit confused when I started shoving kitchen roll up his sleeve, pre the meal 😉

YABU

If you normally go out for Sunday lunch, one week of eating at your mum's won't hurt. Are you really that precious that you can't just put up with it for one week? Your first preference was to hurt your mother's feelings & not turn up?

And I really sincerely hope people are not "critiquing" meals cooked for them as guests in other people's homes! What a disgracefully rude thing to do!

I don't mind an Auntie Bessie frozen Yorkshire pudding.

ExSIL and MIL are truly dreadful cooks. SIL's children (late teens) now post pictures of some of her more spectacular disasters on social media. TBF SIL takes criticism with good humour

Sure she does. What nasty behaviour from your SIL's children.

My mum is a terrible cook - the usual cremated meat and mushy veg, but it's not because she can't make food properly, but because that's how she likes it! I will eat her food (it's not nice but I'm not fussy so can eat it with a smile) but she won't eat mine as the veg is 'too hard' and meat 'undercooked.'

Well that's a cherry post.

What an awful post.

RE 'But today she's decided she can't be bothered today's and so instead of asking us first has gone out this morning and bought a piece of beef, some veg and has announced she will be making us all lunch instead'

I smell a trap

No-one I know, in their right mind, would make out it's Less effort to cook at home. then to go out. She already spent time out shopping for it. She could have used that same time to 'Freshen up' and meet you at the Pub.

((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))) OP

Ahhh yes the "undercooked" meat bollocks. Neither my parents will eat meat if it's even a tiny bit pink. I personally think anything other than medium rare is ruined.

My parents always wince when they watch my brother eat a rare steak with blood flowing out, but that's how a steak should be cooked!

Yes, I too eat the rare done steak. As long as it's stopped mooing