AIBU unreasonable to just want a simple and inexpensive engagement ring

[OnADarkDesertHighway]

DP and I have just got engaged. I'm beyond thrilled and we are going to choose my engagement ring tomorrow.

I do not wear rings and like subtle rather than bling jewellery. I just want a simple ring with a small stone that does not cost a fucking fortune.

When I have said this I have had a couple of comments from work colleagues and others insinuating I should expect a great big rock costing thousands. One suggested if I get a simple inexpensive ring it sends out a statement and I should want some flash rock I can show off.

Why? I do not get it. My ring, my choice. I would not fucking dream of telling anyone the sort of ring they should have. Is this normal?

I chose a 9ct white gold trilogy ring which is pretty, sparkly and practical and I think it is gorgeous. It was considerably less than £200 but it is a style I like and I did not want my fiance spending a fortune.

Unfortunately the jeweller did not have my size in stock and it will be about a month before I get my ring. Disappointed as I thought we would come home with it.

So I currently have an engagement necklace as my fiance wanted to get me something on the day.

Congratulations

Thank you One

Congratulations :)

Thank you Owl

Some people are arses.
My engagement ring has 3 small diamonds in a rub over setting as I didn't want something that gets snagged on things (I'm left handed). My DH said I could have whatever I wanted, but I didn't want a big rock. I have very square mannish hands and a big ring would look odd.

A friend showed off her ring at work and someone sneered about diamond "chips" being so charming. Her ring was lovely (much nicer than her husband)

Another tiny ring here. Tiny hands! Antique ring so we weren't buying into any unethical mining and got better value, too. Wedding ring was found by my dad in a box in the garage - we think it was a family ring, we had it resized and polished for 30 quid. It fits the other ring perfectly and they are my most prized possessions. People who think the size / cost of rings equate to the size of someone's love are well, just daft. (And very materialistic)

Lovely.

Yes very daft and materialistic. The ring being my engagement ring and the meaning to me is the reason it is special.