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Sil and designer clothes obsession

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Jayep · 13/01/2016 22:53

Probably am being U. Dh accused me of being bitchy about it earlier.

My sil had her first baby (girl) 8 months ago. I don't think I've ever seen the poor little thing in anything high street. Designer stuff (think Dior, Chloe, Burberry). This isn't personal, my sil has always been v lovely to me. I just can't see the point. Even her changing bag is Gucci or something similar. The excuse that is constantly trotted out on her behalf is that it took her 3 years to have her and why not. I just find it a bit odd. I don't think it's that she buys labels for the sake of it because most of it isn't obviously branded if that makes sense. Dh thinks I'm being unreasonable, but am I?

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MiddleClassProblem · 14/01/2016 15:56

I'm still stuck on £180k but not loaded

LittleBearPad · 14/01/2016 15:59

It's certainly not an everyday dress. But it was worn as a bridesmaids dress at OPs wedding. But apparently SIL's stupid for making the effort.

MrsHathaway · 14/01/2016 16:02

I dressed DS in designer clothes to compensate for the fact I thought I was doing a rubbish job at being his mum.

This stuck out for me. The only people I know who spend huge amounts on all their children's clothes are deeply insecure. It is how they can "prove" they're good parents. Of course they're doing just fine, but it's part of a need to feel that "nobody can say we don't give her the best". Ribbing SIL won't exactly help with her self confidence.

I don't understand that level of spending on children's clothes because I don't think it represents quality. If I earned £90k I might just not know where the cheaper shops are. They tend to be in different arcades/shopping centres/streets from Gucci et al.

diddl · 14/01/2016 16:03

So you're also complaining about a bridesmaid dress at your wedding that she bought?

Katenka · 14/01/2016 16:20

It really sounds like you're annoyed that anyone has expressed a view that is different to yours.

Yeah ok Leelu

What is that you said to a pp?

with all due respect, you know nothing about me or my life, so what you think about me is irrelevant to me

I think that applies here too.

Leelu6 · 14/01/2016 16:43

Er, no, it doesn't...because I haven't said a single thing about your life. It's irrelevant to me and I'm not interested.

Whatdoidohelp · 14/01/2016 16:48

IMO if they own their home, have savings and have a reasonable income so that they can afford buying designer brands who cares?!

If it is getting paid for by credit cards and they rent etc I think it's absolutely ridiculous.

AppleSetsSail · 14/01/2016 16:56

The only people I know who spend huge amounts on all their children's clothes are deeply insecure. It is how they can "prove" they're good parents.

I'm just thinking out loud here - is it possible that this woman simply has a weakness for expensive baby clothes, and there is absolutely nothing deeper lurking beneath?

Having had 2 boys, and despaired over the relatively paltry offerings -I'd be in Bonpoint like a shot if I ever found myself with a daughter. And, I am very secure in my abilities as a mother.

thebestfurchinchilla · 14/01/2016 17:02

She must be loaded. or are they fakes?

justmyview · 14/01/2016 17:05

If SIL reads this thread, there's sufficient info for her to know it's about her. ......

Helipad · 14/01/2016 17:08

They might be earning 90k each but it doesn't automatically mean they have lots and lots of disposable income.

My husband is a high earner, in fact our family income is more than mentioned here and I still don't see the point buying designer clothes. I tend to get clothes from Asda and Next, both good value and it's not a biggie if they get messy. Sometimes I splash out on Mini-Boden as they do bright colours for boys. My real weakness is scandinavian brands and occasionally buy those too and can justify it to myself because I have two boys so they can be used for both.

I do get that it's a delight to buy nice things for a baby (and I did buy an odd expensive thing too) but spending money for Gucci, Burberry etc is just on another level of spending and frankly ridiculous.

MiddleClassProblem · 14/01/2016 17:15

Tbh I can't imagine what I could own that would mean my one kid family would not have much disposable income on £180K

Helipad · 14/01/2016 17:21

Large mortgage? Commuting cost from Surrey/Kent etc, need to dress appropriately for high flying job, dry cleaning cost to keep those suits pristine, more tax paid. It all adds up. Of course you're not hard up, I'm just trying to say that there might be large outgoings too.

Katenka · 14/01/2016 17:52

Yes if the SIl is getting into debt then I could understand the OP being worried.

But I don't think (think being the operative word) as the op never mentioned that.

She mentioned it's a family joke. Not that the family were worried Basie she is racking up debt.

I don't think they would joking about it if try knew she was in financial dire straights.

MrsHathaway · 14/01/2016 18:04

Apple I think most people splurge occasionally, however they define splurge.

It's when everything has to be designer that in my experience there's more going on than just a matter of taste.

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 14/01/2016 18:20

I agree that the dress (however expensive and pure-silk-dry-clean-only etc etc) is deeply chavvy-looking. It screams 'Accessorise me with a huge floral headband in case someone thinks I'm a BOY!'

Do you feel better now you've demonstrated your innate superiority?

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