AIBU to ask how you'd respond to this?

[HappyGirlNow]

Ok so if you and youe partner were going away with another couple and the other woman was main organiser. She had been trying to get reasonable flights etc but was proving tricky. She eventually found flights for a good price and checked with the you if ok to book and it was so she did.
She also checked it was ok to get certain tickets to an event that had already been agreed (including price), and booked these also. So the other woman had paid out almost £700 for you and your partner. She then texted you to say 'yay, all done, flights, event booked etc, looking forward to it etc etc'.

How would you respond?

Araiba - what??

Definitely a reverse

Send her your bank details... what's so hard about that?

She said... 'Sounds good' !!!

This was a week ago.

We also saw them at the weekend for about an hour, no mention at all.

I am not desperate for the money, it's the principle. I shouldn't have to ask. I don't want to embarrass her. If she's not offered in next couple of weeks I'll bring it up.

Just wanted to check that the response I would have given if the tables were turned 'fab, thanks for organising, how do I square you up?' is the standard response and you've (mostly) all confirmed this. Thank you

Her phone is maybe out of charge. How long have you waited for a reply?

Xpost. just text her exactly what she owes you. She may be under the impression that you haven't paid for them yet (like the hotel, pay on arrival).

how long til you go away - you might want to chase payment now!!

It's not a 'reverse'! I said 'here's a scenario' not claiming to be anyone in particular

It's not hard at all to send bank details I was just asking what the standard response to that text would be, no more no less.

Thanks lizzie but never heard of but now pay later flights (not package holiday) or sports events... Everyone knows you just pay them.

yup she should have been proactive about paying you. time for a text / email with amount due and bank details.

I bet she wakes up in the middle of the night and remembers, she'll go hot with shame then feel sick.
You'l get an embarrassed test at 6.15 one morning.
'Happy, i'm so sorry I forgot that I owe you oodles of money, how can I pay?'.

I think she just forgot as she was preoccupied when she got the text.

'I am not desperate for the money, it's the principle. I shouldn't have to ask. I don't want to embarrass her. If she's not offered in next couple of weeks I'll bring it up.'

Why not just do it now? Why would she be embarrassed? She knows they have to pay for it. She should be embarrassed for not offering to square up right away.

Just ring her or text her now. 'Hi, there! Thought I'd pass on my details to you so you can pay for your share of the tickets. The total comes to £X. Here's where you can transfer the funds . . . '

Is it possible you've both got wires crossed eg she thinks she's going to pay you later ?

If not then just ask her! I wouldn't hesitate in ringing up a mate and asking where the money is and vice versa

Don't be such a wet blanket. Just send a text with bank details in asking for payment.

Honestly. She hasn't avoided payment just not actively found out your details.

This is a reverse. Not a mean one,b but def a reverse :)

Ask her for the money! Send her bank details

Often friends will pay for things for me on a credit card, then bot ask for the money for several weeks. I would imagine many people would use a credit card for a trip, for the extra protection it may give. She us probably waiting for you to let her know what is owed and when. Just text her the amount and ask if she is giving you a cheque or wants your bank details. Nothing wrong with that and it will save you worrying and consulting random strangers.

Oh fgs.

What she said ^

Text her with the exact amount she owes and how to pay you. Simple.

Not sure why she would be embarrassed if this has all been agreed on? Are you saying you think she doesnt have the money to pay you?

No, I will ask, I just wondered what the 'normal' response would be that's all... I have no doubt they'll pay I just thought that response odd and not what I'd do.

It's been a week since text and we saw them for an hour at the weekend...

The normal thing to do would have been to let her know how much was owed in the text message, that's how me and my friends would normally do it.
But, with no mention of the money, then yes I'd have been asking "how much am I owe you?"
It's hardly a big deal though...

truly I'm not worrying, I don't need the money, I was asking what most folks epresomse would be out of curiosity and to see whether it tied in with mine. It's kind of what this board is for?

RANDOM STRANGERS? How very dare you 😃

epresomse = response

And I didn't say it was a big deal, just asked what other folk would do...