Why do some women have more children

[DizzyDancer]

Than others

Why in some families do women feel the need to have 4plus kids whereas others are happy with 1 or 2 or sometimes none at all?

I know everyone is different but I know there's a biological response to proceeate.

I feel a bit like one person is missing, and we should have another one, but boyfriend doesn't. So that's that. I'm also almost 42, and am absolutely knackered dealing with a 15 month old who has never really slept. I don't think I could do it again, even if I medically could.

Shakey, quick mobile labours, easy births, delivered all four standing up. Big babies 9lbs+ which I think actually makes labour easier plus luck of the draw really.

People with one are a bit selfish and want to maintain an element of the pre-family lifestyle

People with two are average

People with three particularly like being busy or want an excuse to buy a larger car

People with four or more are mad

HTH

Lots of factors re large families, more state money, want to keep the latest man, wanting a certain sex child, uneducated in contraception or simply dont use it or some just never seem to lose the urge to stop doing it.

We have one. No interest in having any more. Our life is great 😀

autumn that's a bit of an off comment and insulting to a lot of people.

WTF, Autumn?

Really Autumn?

We receive no state money at all, inc CB. DH and I met whilst at university so that's 20+years for us. Neither of us are uneducated about contraception or eneducated in general; both have Masters. Neither of us just 'can't stop the urge to have babies' either. It was a planned considered choice between a loving, financially solvent couple. We can support them and we love them and they're cared for.
Dysfunctional families and children starved of emotion and attention come in all sizes. Likewise, happy well adjusted ones.

uneducated

Oh sorry, missed off that I have 2 of each.

Oh fuck off Autumn what a twatty thing to say
DH and I chose to have four are both educated professionals one of us is an ex healthcare professional who understands contraception perfectly well ta muchly and the other is a higher rate tax payer
Is that ok with you twat

I puked until they put each of my two babies into my arms and swore never again!

So Autumn gets challenged for being insulting to large families but Penelope insults parents with one child and nobody says a word

Ch4 discussion was excellent and WEP have finally spoken.

I have 3. I would have another if I had more money, a bigger house, child care to look after my children while pregnant. I had servere hyperemesis gravidarum in all my pregnancies and was hospitalised regularly. My dp had to work and our parents are still working so couldn't always look after my older children so another pregnancy is impossible. Another child would also mean my children have less financialy. (less holidays, activities etc, Savings for their future)

And as a couple who receive nothing I am still more than happy that some of our taxes go to support others who need the financial support to give their children a decent and dignified level of care. 'Tis the mark of a decent society. And besides, it's an investment as those kids that my taxes have helped support will have a better chance of growing up into decent members of society. Some may even end up operating on me one day or saving my life or need to defend my liberty in a court of law! Or some might just grow up to be the nice guy who fixes my washing machine without ripping me off or helps me cross the road when I'm old and doddery!

penelope I have one child because I was too old to have another. Not 'selfish' at all. HTH?

We're all different. I have a couple of friends that have 4+ children. We have 2 and happily staying that way. I'm not particularly maternal compared to these friends who seem to take to it like a duck to water. I don't want to give up anymore of my life to pregnancy/labour, staying at home with children. Love my dc so much but I couldn't cope with anymore. Thankfully Dh agrees with me and had the snip when ds was 8 months old.

needs, I read penelopes as lighthearted with the added at the end.

I took Penelope's comment as tongue in cheek, Autumn just sounds rude.

Sorry, I thought Penelope's post was a joke. If not, then I think it's equally ridiculous. For a start, a great many parents of 1 didn't chose that scenario for a host of reasons including illness and spousal bereavement or divorce.