Why do some women have more children

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Than others

Why in some families do women feel the need to have 4plus kids whereas others are happy with 1 or 2 or sometimes none at all?

I know everyone is different but I know there's a biological response to proceeate.

Some people enjoy the baby bit or parenting generally more than others.

Some want to concentrate on one or two children, some prefer a big busy household.

Religious and environmental reasons too.

I have 1. I wish I could have more. I can't.

HTH.

Why do some women have very short hair, some chin/shoulder length and some long?
Women, usually in conjunction with their partner, make the decision that suits their family taking into account, but not limited to: desire, finances, space, career impact, and support.

I have 4 but it wasn't a biological urge, more a want for them to have a big family as dh and I are in our own without living parents or siblings. We have the space and finances allowed so we went with what seemed right to us.

I could never imagine having more than 2, I am crap at being pregnant, had traumatic deliveries with both so we stopped at 2. If dd had been first we'd have stopped at 1 (bit of a handful compared to ds). I've never been broody though so I can't comment on the biological need to have children.

I would have been happy with 4, number five was a contraception failure and termination isn't for me.As it stands I'm very happy to have five.I'm one of six, I wanted the big brood I had grown up in I suppose.
I've found it pretty easy tbh, I could easily manage 4 under seven single handed as dh works/worked long hours, they were easy teens and now the first four are lovely adults (including the one with ASD). Number five is almost a teen and expect she will be easy too.
I have the patience of a saint and brilliant organisational skills and need very little sleep which probably helps enormously.
As for why my parents wanted six children, I'd guess it's because they both lost their only sibling as teens.

I wanted 4 or 5. I have no idea why. Possibly because I was one of 4. Dh was set on only having 2. We compromised on 3, with me praying pregnancy number 3 was twins. He wasn't .

It's a strange question OP.

Id imagine there are people who only wanted 1 and had a few mishaps and ended up with a few dc. I'd imagine there are people who wanted 6 but could only achieve 1. A lot of decisions are taken out of our hands.

Because I almost died the first time and was told a further pregnancy would likely likely kill me. I'd have loved four.

I don't understand why people have babies at all. I am 45 and never felt the slightest wish to do so, so it's clearly not a universal biological urge!

For me it's about quality of life. With unlimited funds and if there were no need for DH or me to work I would have had five or six children. With limited funds and time we chose to have two children that we could afford to raise the way we wanted to.

Since you ask such a nosey question ill give it to you straigsht. I only have one because I was married to the wrong man from age 24 til 40, met the right Man, had three miscarriages in a year at 41/2 and had my daughter at 43 . I had retained placenta and a hideous tear and post natal depression. . There is always a reason or reasons. Each couple makes their own decision.

Circumstances, preference, lifestyle choice, finances, social norm for their upbringing/surroundings,religion, fertility etc there are too many factors to give a generic answer!

For us personally we'll be having just the two, it's taken us 4 years to fall pregnant with our second after a very intensive and stressful time of treatments and surgery. I don't want to go through that again. Financially it makes sense for us to have just two, we can afford to buy a 3 bed just about but no bigger and we can still afford to give our children a reasonable lifestyle, anymore and it would put a strain on things.

Before I had DD I was desperate for a baby and a big family. It was definitely a biological/hormonal thing, like being tired or hungry. DH was less convinced. That feeling totally disappeared when she was born, and being a parent has been a lot harder and less rewarding that I imagined. DH is having to work quite hard to persuade me to have even one more, and if I agree it will be out of a wish foe DD to not be an only child and to comprimise with DH. I don't feel the drive for another one St all.

I wanted at least 3 children. I have one, and lucky to have her. Them's the breaks.

Even though I have 4 there was no biological urge here either. I've never felt broody nor am I keen on babies. We just wanted 4 children.

Firstly large families are usually wanted by both parents. Large families aren't there just because the women want them.

Personally I find it hard to get my head around why people would want more than 2 or 3 at most. I find it hard to empathise with people desperate to have dc5/6

But I don't need to get my head around it. They are different to me. I am happy with 2, can comfortably afford 2 and still have luxuries, can cope with two.

Everyone is different. I don't expect everyone to be like me or do the same as me

We have 3. I feel as though we have someone missing. But dp doesn't want another and its killing me :( I think some people are just more into children. I dreamed of becoming a mother since I was about 12. I'd babysit next doors kids all the time (including taking their 3yo dd away for a week abroad when I was 16 (with my mam)) When kids at secondary school would say ooo I want a Ford Puma or a Porche 911 when I'm older, I'd say I want a Zafira lol.

We have 4. We liked having lots of kids around, though DH was keener on having number 4 than me so there is a bit of a gap.

Three teenagers was a nightmare though. Thankfully they are quite nica again now they are older.

I really want about 10 grandchildren.

Well for me it's a bit like kittens. They are so sweet when they are tiny and then you realise you have to keep looking after them as they turn into grumpy, messy, vicious, food stealing creatures that society won't let you palm off

I now realise the error of my ways but sadly it is too late. One was probably enough, three is just ridiculous

I wish I could cope with more but honestly, I couldn't.

Fertility problems chose for me. I'm lucky to have my two.

I always wanted a few kids, dh and I agreed on four, then after four we chose to have one more. Our youngest is now five and I am 28wks with no 6, we had talked about having another and uhmmed and ahhed and in the process of that weren't as careful as we needed to be.

I have been exceptionally lucky to get preg first month each time we tried, easy pregnancies, easy labour's etc. Had I not had such an easy time we may well have had less. But we love our gang of madthings, it's hectic at times but we wouldn't change it. This baby will be our last though!

They just want a big family. If they can cope and have the money then fine.

Not sure why you're getting grumpy responses

I would have liked 4 but stopped at 2 as I didn't think I could cope financially or emotionally with more. I had very bad pnd with both.

If money was no object and we could afford a massive downton style house with staff and rooms for everyone then I probably would have just popped out one a year till i couldn't have anymore (a bit like queen Vic - but unlike her i wouldn't have seen them as an inconvenient side effect to my passionate love for their father ).

But as it is age is not on my side and altho we are comfortably off we can't afford staff or enough bedrooms. We have 2. Will try for a third this year but if it doesn't happen i wont feel hard done by. (dh will want to adopt/foster in the future if we can too). I do wish i'd started earlier tho.

I know exactly why I had the number of children I have. My DH would give a different reason. I'm not sure it is relevant to anyone else.

I can tell you why DH and I had 2, but I can't tell you why anyone else had/has to number of children they do. There must be thousands of combinations of reasons.