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To not move on the train?

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TheCatsMeow · 12/01/2016 12:30

I was on a very busy packed train with my friend and DS. DS was in a sling, we had the buggy and I was feeding him. We were standing by the doors (no one offered us seats!) trying to feed a screaming baby, penned in by others standing. There was no where we could go.

People tried to push past us to get out the doors and nearly sent DS flying. I firmly asked if they could use one of the other doors and I literally couldn't go anywhere. Cue mutterings and dirty looks!

We couldn't collapse the pram there wasn't room to do and as no one had offered a seat we couldn't move anywhere! WIBU to ask them to use another door?

OP posts:
shoeaddict83 · 12/01/2016 20:47

Just got back from gym and caught up in this extremely entertaining thread!!! Still in utter disbelief the OP is not accepting she's done anything wrong here?? Clearly 30 pages of posters are utter London non-parent commuter twats??!
council your song was inspired, still humming it now with Dh looking at me like Hmm

Oh-and another Non-L here.....!!

Cheby · 12/01/2016 20:49

Oh and they disable the buggy folding mechanisms once you get outside the M25, didn't everyone know that? 😂

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TheCatsMeow · 12/01/2016 20:50

t's just physically impossible. A public transport system that relies on strangers being good-natured enough to help you in a society where we're all trained to be individualistic self-obsessed bastards, is not fit for purpose.

Exactly. Thanks to you and the other poster. Nice to know not everyone thinks their commuter rights come before a bit of decency Smile

OP posts:
SuburbanRhonda · 12/01/2016 20:53

So you went away to get some friends to join MN and post in support of you, OP?

Nice one Hmm

donadumaurier · 12/01/2016 20:54

It has nothing to do with commuter rights. Have you not listened to anything anyone's said? People have a right to get off a train and not end up somewhere else because morons like you think you can block the exits just because you've got a bloody baby Angry

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 12/01/2016 20:54

You think that refusing to let people off the train, and suggesting it would be OK for people to climb over your buggy if you left it in the lobby, blocking people's way deminstrates decency? Seriously?? Confused

CouncilOfLadies · 12/01/2016 20:55

I'm a not-Londoner in London. Please, somebody, tell me what to dooooo....so far I've had the OK from OP to climb over her buggy but I'm worried it'll be seen as tacky by all the Londoners. AIBU?

Kanga59 · 12/01/2016 20:55

I've just read back through this thread and it has to be my favourite aibu of all time. The more OP posted, the bigger the hole she dug. what a tool.

RonniePickering · 12/01/2016 20:56

Wow, TheCats.
Yeah, just ignore the other 500+ posters. Ever considered a career in politics?

goodnightdarthvader1 · 12/01/2016 20:56

OP, I'll ask again: how old are you? Have you ever commuted by train?

BramblePie · 12/01/2016 20:57

I'm in a wee town in Scotland. OP YWBU!!!

Leelu6 · 12/01/2016 20:57

I've never seen anyone fold a buggy except me on a train. I have folded it on busy trains but it's difficult to do and I don't see why I should, particularly when no one else does either'

OP, do you realise how contradictory the above is?

You've never seen anyone fold a buggy except you
It's difficult to do so you don't see why you should

I'd have more respect for you if you hadn't lied to say that you tried to fold the buggy before got on the train.

Not expecting a response btw, as you have clearly put your fingers in your ears singing 'tra la la la la la' to ignore anyone not agreeing with you (which is mostly everyone)

DotForShort · 12/01/2016 20:57

It's physically impossible to fold a buggy? Er, no it isn't. Even if you have bags of shopping with you.

Perhaps that means some of us are endowed with superpowers.

LilacSpunkMonkey · 12/01/2016 20:58

I can't drive. I've never learned. I have 3 dc and I used to work a bus journey away with a nursery on site.

I've done plenty of buses (old, double decker where I had no choice other than to fold my pushchair), local trains and long-distance train journeys with my children, including when they were babies, toddlers, school age.

It can be done, easily enough, with some common sense and without a massive sense of entitlement.

ihaterain · 12/01/2016 20:59

Im not in london or the SE either

lorelei9 · 12/01/2016 20:59

Council, love your song too!

but you get into trouble here:

"I'm a not-Londoner in London"

Who let you in??!! this is an OUTRAGE. You want to travel round this town, you sit in the luggage racks. Amirite, fellow Londoners?!

JassyRadlett · 12/01/2016 21:00

Exactly. Thanks to you and the other poster. Nice to know not everyone thinks their commuter rights come before a bit of decency

Er, no, sweetie. It's just that we think showing a bit of decency works in both directions. That's the but you're struggling with.

LilacSpunkMonkey · 12/01/2016 21:00

So in effect I WAS A commuter, on public transport, with my children.

I never behaved the way you have, OP, never.

bessiebumptious2 · 12/01/2016 21:00

Course, you could always sue the OP if you fall head first onto the platform because you tripped over the buggy ! Not an advocate of suing a la USA but sometimes it could be appropriate in light of someone's deliberate awkwardness. If someone like this idiot refused to be reasonable then I'd happily sue!

Secondtimeround75 · 12/01/2016 21:02

I would have done that for anyone who had cases/a buggy/children/elderly with sticks etc

Would you really!
Or would you have played your hyper mobility card. You seem to have a full deck of excuses to suit yourself.

MySordidCakeSecret · 12/01/2016 21:02

You're all being a bit damned harsh. Even if she did make an error or could have done it better, like non of us have screwed up in the heat of a moment with kids in a stressful situation.

goodnightdarthvader1 · 12/01/2016 21:03

Sordid, difference is, most of us would admit it afterwards.

Original poster
TheCatsMeow · 12/01/2016 21:03

leelu I do try and fold it if it's really busy however I'm not going to put myself out by missing a train because I can't fold it. I have never seen others do this.

OP posts:
donadumaurier · 12/01/2016 21:03

I'm going to hide this thread now as it's making me angry, but I just want to say OP, idiots like you who think having a baby makes you special on public transport are the reason when I tried to get home to my mums after being sexually harassed at university I couldn't get off the train, ended up in London and didn't make it back to my home station until after my mum had left for work. I had a panic attack because I was trapped on the train to London and if it hadn't been for the lovely guard who found me I don't know what I would have done. All because mothers with their pushchairs thought they were too special to let me off the train. Please try and see the other side of the argument here. One of the people you sent down to the other end of the carriage could have been me.

JassyRadlett · 12/01/2016 21:03

Hang on. How did a non-Londoner get to London?

EVERYONE KNOWS that there is a giant walk around the M25. L trains are not allowed outside the wall, and non-L trains can't get it. That's the only way to maintain the purity of the London/non-London system.

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