SAHM: What "me time" do you give yourself? What do you do during that time?

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I know some mothers that have full time live in help and they seemingly have all the "me time" in the world! I know I have more than the average SAHM but I was wondering about other people?
My "me time" is 2 hours at the gym daily (sometimes that includes Pilates or Yoga, or I spend time in the lounge/steam room. While son is at nursery or with dad on weekends).
Then 2-4 hours alone with my husband in the evenings and my morning lay-ins on weekends.
Once a week we get a sitter and have date night. About once a week I go to Urban Retreat just down the road to get waxed/manicured/massaged.

Luckily my husband works from home so as long as he doesn't have conference calls he can watch the kids for a few hours while I gym.

I can be a bit judgemental of the SAHMs that don't work and have full time help, but then again I know I get more than the average mum as well. It seems like they never see their children though! AIBU about this? I know it doesn't affect me but when they complain over the littlest things or say they're exhausted from shopping it gets on my nerves.

What do you guys do during your me time?

wicca Roberts legal team are far more sensitive about this sort of thing than Toms.

Toms let it go on for ages.

Think Americans are far more touchy about it than the English.

Think me and dd will be watching avengers tonight now!

I think Tom actually quite likes it. And yes, those across the pond are a bit twitchy about that sort of thing. Avengers...what is not to love x

I have an offer for you op! I'm an intelligent professional middle class lady. I'm also a SAHM of two children.

I will swap my whole world for yours for a week! Bank accounts, kids, houses, dh the lot!

I'm serious btw. I will swap but I warn you now I fully expect YOU to get my DS to school for 8.45 each morning without fail! This is a none negotiable requirement regardless of vomiting bugs, illness or just plain bloody laziness!

I also require you to attend to my 2 year olds every need 24/7. She has food allergies so everything needs to be cooked from scratch. This is including all the housework, cooking, after school activities, running the house. I have no help op so you will have both dc at all events!

I don't get 'me time' I don't even get to poo or shower in peace. I'm up at 5.30 each morning and collapse in bed at 10pm each night.

Go on OP please please swap with me! I'm shattered and could really benefit from a rest

Oh and apparently I'm too rich and married to qualify for ANY financial or help with childcare. That's right op my 2 year old doesn't go to nursery! I am her everything.

Avengers...what is not to love x

I know....dd wants Age of Ultron....which is Hiddleston-less

I am arguing for Avengers Assemble or at least a Thor movie. But the I will be Downey Jr.-less

In response to this original SAHM question...I have another bit that baffles me; Your child is in nursery, so is 3ish? I always find it amazing how some women can divorce and remarry in the blink of an eye. With a new born baby in the picture too! I don't have a problem with it (none of my business, clearly) I just remember how I felt/looked for the first 18 months of motherhood and think - wow - how did you even begin that dating process, let alone organise a wedding, etc. Hats off to you (sort of).

bluebird was that directed at me? I'm confused. I've never been divorced?

I don't get the concept of 'me-time'.

Where does this entitlement come from and how go I claim it? Is there a form? Or is it just self-indulgent bollocks? Probably thought up by some copy-writer in a soho ad agency, or the editor of Prima.

I go to the gym, I go to the beautician, I go shopping. In amongst washing up, putting the laundry out, taking the kids to school, paying the bills, working, putting antifreeze in the car, power washing the decking, cooking tea and remembering to put the bins out.

It's just life. Get on with it and stop being annoying.

Ahem, I live in a terraced house in Wigan and it's lovely!

During my me time I drag my squeeze up to my room push him onto my bed and lock the door and then,.............and then,.......................breathlessly strip down to my pearl thong with my breasts let loose. My breasts quiver as he caresses them and twists my nips
As he pulls me down onto him I scream yes yes I want you. Obligingly he bucks his hips and thrust upwards until I gasp in ecstasy.

And that was wishful fuckin thinkin.
Did you find a Nanny to take your 2 year old to school OP hhow are your 17% shares in that hotel doing ?

I stay in bed until lunchtime and then I troll mumsnet.

Oh wait.....that's not me......

YouBastard And there was me thinkin you were out buying Birkin bags to keep nappies in.

I am actually crying laughing. Is this real? I don't think it is- the OP seems confused about whether her baby is a 'daughter' or a 'little man'. Still , it's very funny.
And in answer, my me time this month was the hair dresser this morning for an hour. About once a month we get a sitter and Dh and have dinner out locally

I am away next weekend for 4 days. I also incorporate me time in to being with the kids. I am getting my nails and hair done this week, and the kids just come with me. They don't have a choice in the matter!

Oh and researching the Paris Shangri-La's child policy.

Can't wait for the next one

The OP was looking for a Nanny to take her son to school the other day and it was her 23 rd birthday yesterday.

It's a 4 month old daughter and 2.5 year old son. She had the son at 17 and is 22 now (or 23 yesterday) but the years pass differently in American time zones.

Youbastard Haha.
Why is she pureeing veggies for her little man if he's 2.5? Or in fact 6 if she had him at 17 and is now 23.?!

Sometimes I watch a bit of porn and have a wank.

My lover comes to see me once a week.

Yeh, guess I do get a bit of 'me-time' after all. Frankly, I don't know how I do it all.

(I am not joking).

waiting it's alright, I'll let you correct yourself. My 2.5 yr old son and 4 month daughter but it's fine, not everyone can give an opinion backed with knowledge.

Apparently being ignorant is a total trend among mothers on mumsnet? Guess this isn't my sort of place. I'm hoping I can find some sensible women here eventually, though they seem few and far between

I think it's just that you may move in different circles to the majority of us. I don't know any SAHMs who have full time help, so you complaining about them comes across as a little privileged and unnecessary.

I'm hoping I can find some sensible women here eventually

Oh no, you're in the wrong place entirely I'm afraid.