SAHM: What "me time" do you give yourself? What do you do during that time?

[SKLily]

I know some mothers that have full time live in help and they seemingly have all the "me time" in the world! I know I have more than the average SAHM but I was wondering about other people?
My "me time" is 2 hours at the gym daily (sometimes that includes Pilates or Yoga, or I spend time in the lounge/steam room. While son is at nursery or with dad on weekends).
Then 2-4 hours alone with my husband in the evenings and my morning lay-ins on weekends.
Once a week we get a sitter and have date night. About once a week I go to Urban Retreat just down the road to get waxed/manicured/massaged.

Luckily my husband works from home so as long as he doesn't have conference calls he can watch the kids for a few hours while I gym.

I can be a bit judgemental of the SAHMs that don't work and have full time help, but then again I know I get more than the average mum as well. It seems like they never see their children though! AIBU about this? I know it doesn't affect me but when they complain over the littlest things or say they're exhausted from shopping it gets on my nerves.

What do you guys do during your me time?

Apologies OP, misunderstood the context of your comment.But I am still laughing so much that the beautician has smudged my nail polish....bugger, I think I left the iron on when I strode out of the house!

That has made me laugh so much! Thanks Julie

OP why are you judgmental of shams who have full time help?

Your dh does far more than his fair share of childcare, given that he works.

There is no difference. Life is much better if we don't judge other mothers.

Personally I would never dream of not working and expecting dh to do as much child care as yours does. I love doing the school run and wouldn't give it up for the world. My kids go to different Schools at different times so I take one and dh takes the other. That time on their own with us, is important before starting the day.

But I don't look down on you for not doing it. I do think if your low blood pressure is effecting your life to the extent it does, you really need further investigation. But that's up to you.

I am so glad you have your own income. That's fantastic.

So many women get trapped in a situation where they struggle if they have never worked. Especially if the marriage breaks down.

I'm a sahm....kids are at school.

I thought once they both started school I'd have lots of free time but I don't.

I do housework ALL DAY! Seriously...The day goes past so quickly. I struggle to get all the ironing, washing, cleaning, cooking etc done. I don't know what I'm doing wrong or if my standards are too high now?!

I eat

Wow, you have a lot of you-time. I get 2 hours in the daytime when little one is asleep (spend 45 mins doing housework). Then I get 2 hours in the evening with my other half, when we watch tv together or play games together. And that is it pretty much, I don't get to have any particular hobbies/gym/massage etc. Seems like you have a luxury life - wanna swap?

This thread has certainly brightened my day. Too funny for words.

I work FT but but other half babysits so I can go out with my friends or visit galleries and people watch in a cafe. I also get an hour on sat morning to have a bath while they go swimming.
Being at work is enough me- time though!

During my "me time" I bake bread, walk my dogs and stalk Tom Hiddleston...keeps me busy ;)

SKLily Please no cat pictures, I know I shouldn't say this on here, cos I will be roasted, but I can't stand cats.

I like pictures of desserts, shoes and handbags

formerbabe

Unless you have cleanliness obsession I think that when you are at home tasks just expand to fill the available time. When I went back to work I became more efficient. My standards did lower a bit too.

I do think, though, that some people feel they have to justify their SAHM status by being Super Housewife. Sometimes they have critical spouses, or just feel bit guilty about it and unable to take any time that's not to do with looking after the house or children.

If I were a SAHM now and either did nothing but 'me time' or nothing but housework I'd be bored and borderline depressed

and stalk Tom Hiddleston...keeps me busy ;)

that is an excellent use of free time!

Steamed and pureed veggies foe a 2.5 year old? Cause you did say your boys 2.5 and your daughters four months previously. HMMMM.

Which take a couple of hours prep per evening, Experated, don't forget. He must eat a right old mountain of them...

What is this so-called me time one speaks of that seems to have eluded me?

Grow up op and have a

My 'me time' is locking the door and sitting down for a nice long relaxing poo every morning.

You get to poo alone? When pregnant friends ask me what they should do before the baby arrives that they won't be able to do afterwards I always say - spend a lot of time in the loop alone. Toddlers are the worst

Loving your work though op. Keep it coming.

Op is the gift that keeps on giving.

IndustrialHelicopter
The trick is to plan the poo to coincide with a 10min TV episode of their favourite show. You've got to be careful though - after doing it for a while the sound of the theme tune played at any time of day will trigger the poo urge in a similar way to BFing mothers getting let down at the sound of their infant crying. Must remember to vary the TV show!

My me time is when ds1&2 both do nursery/preschool on a Tuesday and Wednesday for a full day. My day is usually like this: nursery drop off, walk dog, visit terminal I'll mum, home for a cuppa, ironing or some general house work. The oldest does preschool on Wednesday as well so if am lucky ds2 will do a 2 hour nap. I didn't have energy for gym ect as am 6 months pg, after this baby is born there will be zero me time for about 12 months (no grandparents ect to do day time baby sitting.) the boys go to bed about 6:30pm. After that I might get a full hour on the sofa before bed at 9/10pm. We have date night, by hiring a baby sitter, maybe twice a month. The only person a judge, is a sahm I know who puts the oldest in after school club avoid doing two pick ups, and even gets a nanny when the youngest is at home! Spending very little time with her own children, I feel sad for the children.

you can't stalk Tom Hiddleston

that's illegal actually

...I just follow him about telling him how much I admire his work and if he drops a pen or a pound coin by the parking meter I pick it up and say 'Tom is this yours' etc etc

see?

HELPFUL

You are so much classier than me Muddha! I like your approach. I had to switch to Tom when Robert Downey Jr got his legal team involved, but I think we can work it out. I'm just eating some freshly backed bread and thinking about the Avengers....warm, fuzzy feelings x

Anyone else thinking the OP is really sitting in a terraced house in Wigan, wearing a tracksuit, fake uggs and two inches of visible roots? Possibly with extremely hairy hands

It can't be just me

No disrespect to people living in Wigan, by the way

Baked, not backed...sorry, got distracted x