SAHM: What "me time" do you give yourself? What do you do during that time?

[SKLily]

I know some mothers that have full time live in help and they seemingly have all the "me time" in the world! I know I have more than the average SAHM but I was wondering about other people?
My "me time" is 2 hours at the gym daily (sometimes that includes Pilates or Yoga, or I spend time in the lounge/steam room. While son is at nursery or with dad on weekends).
Then 2-4 hours alone with my husband in the evenings and my morning lay-ins on weekends.
Once a week we get a sitter and have date night. About once a week I go to Urban Retreat just down the road to get waxed/manicured/massaged.

Luckily my husband works from home so as long as he doesn't have conference calls he can watch the kids for a few hours while I gym.

I can be a bit judgemental of the SAHMs that don't work and have full time help, but then again I know I get more than the average mum as well. It seems like they never see their children though! AIBU about this? I know it doesn't affect me but when they complain over the littlest things or say they're exhausted from shopping it gets on my nerves.

What do you guys do during your me time?

Looks like a battlefield here. Rofl

weeing myself OP you have it very hard!!! seconding being able to have a shite with the door shut in my free time

Being a lady of leisure is great in theory but the reality must be boring.
I suggest finding a meaningful / interesting hobby . Your life & probably relationship would benefit from it.

Oh it gets better! "If you don't like a situation you can remove yourself instantly"!!!!! Are you for real!? So, if I've got two kids, a mortgage and all the general baggage of life then I can just drop all that can I? Really? Can I, just like that? Well bugger me sideways, I'm off to get my toenails painted, f**k it.

I have a 1 year old and a 7 year old with SN who I home educate. I get to go off and have a bath and unwind a bit when DP gets home, and I get to have a lie in on his day off. Sometimes he'll take both DC out but I'll use that time to catch up on housework.

I haven't had much 'me' time recently as I had to sack the chef for burning a soufflé, so have been interviewing for a new one plus I've been keeping an eye on the housekeeper who keeps stealing my creme de la mer cream and my mulberry bag broke so I had to get a new one.

Usually though I just have a ride around in the Rolls, go to a spa several days a week or go horse riding on one of my thoroughbreds.

It really is a hard life and yours sounds particularly tough OP.

I'm reading this at work, this is my "me time"

This thread is fantastic, its just gonna keep on giving.

OP If you are genuine, you sound so fabulously unaware of what life is like outside of your own little bubble its actually really, honestly funny, and I don't mean that in sarky way.

Do tell us some more, I'm sitting here at my desk at work, in our little grey northern town and you have made me actually laugh out loud.

It really is the thread that keeps on giving!

Love this

Clearly op wasn't ready for kids but having kids gives her excuse not to work but then complains about doing school runs. What a horrible life you have op must be extremely hard. I think your DC would be better off with a full time nanny or send them to boarding school when they come of age. Plenty of free time for you then

wicca must I so carefully explain everything? I meant online if you kept what I said in context. It's a computer, close the tab, block someone, turn off the wifi if you really must!

one for the classics methinks!

To Be Fair, I think the 'situation' the OP was referring to was the situation of being on this thread i.e. - you can stop reading if you want to

X post.

I think it is bad to be so harsh to OP. Even if she lives in a bubble, why be so harsh on her? We could all use gentle words or just ignore the thread altogether. What's the fuss. Why is it necessary o reduce people to tears to have fun or mock them to make them realise something ?

The first meal he cooked me was sausage & mash only problem was he couldn't find the masher so he used the kenwood instead...he's been on a mission ever since to prove that he didn't just print his level 3 catering certificate off the Internet

Honestly though I'm just organised as I put on a thread earlier I use lists a lot for bloody everything it's the only way I can make life with 4 plus dog & DH work.

I go to work full time then look after my children.

memyself I actually loved your reply and I'm happy to entertain a boring day. We can do a little Q&A for entertainment value! Or just email each other funny cat pictures? Those help me get a little giggle into my day :)

SKZR

I agree.

OP do you realise that you do live what is to many many people a very privileged life?

Well it brightens up a dull weather Saturday. Having read the other thread where the child is 2 yet attends schools and the OP was 21, then 22 and the. 23 in the same thread I'm guessing someone is very bored and in need of something to do.

skzr thanks a bunch and I totally agree! Plus I just joined mumsnet and I'm beginning to realise what a bubble I live in... Even if I'm being mocked it's giving me a privilege check and reality check as well. Im also beginning to realise how crazy some things my husband and I say actually sound!

OP - why don't you work?

autumn I clarified he is 2.5 and goes to nursery which follow terms and I mistyped 22 the first time but yesterday was my 23rd! (Yaaaay)

Parker because I have a steady life and income from inheritance, and don't need to. Plus my husband is happy if I don't or if I do. Makes no difference to him

It sounds like you need a job to gain some reality of life - could you not at least do some volunteering? Why should your DH work and you do nothing!