SAHM: What "me time" do you give yourself? What do you do during that time?

[SKLily]

I know some mothers that have full time live in help and they seemingly have all the "me time" in the world! I know I have more than the average SAHM but I was wondering about other people?
My "me time" is 2 hours at the gym daily (sometimes that includes Pilates or Yoga, or I spend time in the lounge/steam room. While son is at nursery or with dad on weekends).
Then 2-4 hours alone with my husband in the evenings and my morning lay-ins on weekends.
Once a week we get a sitter and have date night. About once a week I go to Urban Retreat just down the road to get waxed/manicured/massaged.

Luckily my husband works from home so as long as he doesn't have conference calls he can watch the kids for a few hours while I gym.

I can be a bit judgemental of the SAHMs that don't work and have full time help, but then again I know I get more than the average mum as well. It seems like they never see their children though! AIBU about this? I know it doesn't affect me but when they complain over the littlest things or say they're exhausted from shopping it gets on my nerves.

What do you guys do during your me time?

Currently I get around 1 3/4 hours on a Friday afternoon. I make sure all the housework is done & hope that the 6 mo old is fed & napping by the time DD goes for her nap at 1pm. I then have lunch a chill until I get her back up at around 2:45 to get ready for the school run. The baby cluster feeds in the evenings where normally I'd have those free too. Because I get the majority of the housework done in the week my weekends are fairly chilled though. DH cooks on Saturday evenings & I do the roast on Sundays so we both get a bit of downtime

in your shoes I would definitely get a full time nanny - I mean really, just one beautician appointment per week? You're letting yourself go!

Well, fuck me, you have an easy life, OP. Pull yourself together and look at other people.

Thought I recognised the sn

I'm a SAHM and I volunteer for the foodbank and night shelter in my spare time. Maybe you could try something like that, it might give you a bit more purpose.

I have a just 3 year old, a 1 year old and a newborn. DH works 6 days a week

My "me" time is loading the dishwasher whilst DH gives the DC's a bath if he's home in time. I get that "me time" for approximately 10 minutes until the newborn needs fed or the 3 year old joins me after having his bath.

I get my hair done every 4 months but the newborn will be joining me/the boobs on the next visits for the foreseeable future.

That sounds very interesting asskicker!

Bernard I wish my DH would cook at least once! Last time he tried he managed to set spaghetti on fire! It was in water!!! I do all cooking (steamed and puréed veggies for the little man too) which is a few hours of meal prep a night. However I still don't have the skill to do a proper Sunday roast. Very envious that you seem so on top!

he spends nights looking after our 4 month girl and he lives in an American time zone due to work but works from home. He also doesn't drive. He works from 12:30 pm to 10:00 pm

Sorry to wade in but how does he look after the 4 month old at night and work til 10pm?

Buy a chicken in a bag.
Bung it in the oven for 1.5 hours.
Boom.
Done :)

Theres something missing in your life if you have to spout unnecessarly posts to get peoples backs up.

Your lazy get out of bed take your kid to school
Fed your child during the night you dont work your dh does.

If your that bothered by your lack of free time as a sahm and judge overs who have no time. Why not give your DC to a family who would care for them and make them a priority.

Stop trolling on MN. Grow up and get a job and be useful

Sorry, do you have a son or daughter?

He lives in an American timezone?

Pureed veggies for a 2-year old? Most of them have teeth.

I suppose another "me time" is getting the little one in the bath to watch some cartoons on the TV (which I don't mind since I read magazines). He picks the bath bubbles and what he wants to watch, I settle down with Harper's or Vogue and cry over model bodies! Post pregnancy weight isnt a joke.

Im at work 2.30-11pm today and wprk for an American company so maybe I should just pretend Im in LA?

Ffs OP you really are nonsensical.

Oh this is precious, truly precious! My DH also works from home, has clients all over the world and has to fit in around American, Australian and South African time zones. I work FT but very flexible (which basically means any bloody time a client needs me). So between us we basically work ALL THE TIME. Some judgy mums think I've got a right good life...but they don't see the juggling, months of planning and general chaos that is my life....but I love it, messy house and all!! OP, seriously get a life, and I mean a real one! Try filling your "me time" with some volunteering perhaps? You could always donate you weekly massage to that big issue seller down the road? Sure they would love it daaahhhhling.

Ull he isn't a fan of actual veggies so if I purée them we can say it's a sauce. I've been hiding carrots and broccoli in "tomato sauce" for a while now

Ha ha ha, you have a great imagination, OP!

My 'me time' is 9.5 hours per day of being massaged by a Thai ladyboy on a solid gold chaise longue. With a happy ending.

Also, I'm really really rich. And my dad's a policeman and bigger than yours.

The only time I get is the time after kids are gone to bed. The couple of hours I get is keeping me sane. I really could use a bit more buy DH is in a big transition at job and I promised I will give him full opportunity to focus and them once he is done, it will be my time to go back to work and he will watch the kids and do house chores.

sun I don't need or really want a job but thanks for the thought! I don't make these posts to wind anyone up so that says a lot about everyone else. Plus, if you don't like it, you don't need to comment. I think everyone is just letting themselves get wound up in all honesty... If you don't like a situation you can remove yourself from it instantly. Takes two to tango!

You have a TV in the bathroom?

Golly

OP, my dh works at home most of the time and I'm a semi retired sahm, as youngest boards now.
I have all the time in the world for me, and can come and go as I please, except school run on friday and sunday evening I'm free.
We spend a lot of time shagging and going for lunch, evenings out.
My dh has his own business and takes work when he wants to, a day off as he likes.

So guess we trump your measly 2 hours "me time" whatever the fuck that is.

'I can be a bit judgemental of the SAHMs that don't work and have full time help'

And they don't do that to wind anyone up, so.....

Also, I'm really really rich. And my dad's a policeman and bigger than yours.