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Original poster

SAHM: What "me time" do you give yourself? What do you do during that time?

228 replies

SKLily · 09/01/2016 12:07

I know some mothers that have full time live in help and they seemingly have all the "me time" in the world! I know I have more than the average SAHM but I was wondering about other people?
My "me time" is 2 hours at the gym daily (sometimes that includes Pilates or Yoga, or I spend time in the lounge/steam room. While son is at nursery or with dad on weekends).
Then 2-4 hours alone with my husband in the evenings and my morning lay-ins on weekends.
Once a week we get a sitter and have date night. About once a week I go to Urban Retreat just down the road to get waxed/manicured/massaged.

Luckily my husband works from home so as long as he doesn't have conference calls he can watch the kids for a few hours while I gym.

I can be a bit judgemental of the SAHMs that don't work and have full time help, but then again I know I get more than the average mum as well. It seems like they never see their children though! AIBU about this? I know it doesn't affect me but when they complain over the littlest things or say they're exhausted from shopping it gets on my nerves.

What do you guys do during your me time?

OP posts:
ExasperatedAlmostAlways · 09/01/2016 12:51

Oh don't get a full time nanny. Get a full time cage.

BlueSmarties76 · 09/01/2016 12:52

Also, (if you are real?) please try to be aware of how troll like your posts sound! You'll get banned if you're not careful!

Shantotto · 09/01/2016 12:53

OP did you find a nanny to take your child to nursery in the mornings?

ExasperatedAlmostAlways · 09/01/2016 12:54

Oh how lovely. Which part of America's time zone is he currently living in?

Asskicker · 09/01/2016 12:55

Well the answer is to make him to it anyway and get him driving.

Or you take over caring for the 4 month old earlier in the night.

I am sure you can find a driving instructor that will teach imaginary dh to drive.

Original poster
SKLily · 09/01/2016 12:55

blue thanks for the concerns, I was previously reported but the moderater said she had no reason to think the posts were fake. I am happy to privately validate anything necessary to moderaters

OP posts:
Whataboutnodetox · 09/01/2016 12:55

I love how you drop in nipping to harrods for a quick tidy up.

I spend all my free time working out how to be more vacuous and shallow.

Asskicker · 09/01/2016 12:57

He doesn't live in an American time zone, unless you all do because you live in America.

It's know as working the late shift. Thousands of people work late shifts and manage to maintain the time zone they live in

FlatOnTheHill · 09/01/2016 12:57

Wineanyone?
Im here for the duration Grin

BathshebaDarkstone · 09/01/2016 13:00

My me time is 2 hours in the Sainsburys Cafe when the DC are at school. Smile

Floggingmolly · 09/01/2016 13:04

He lives in an American time zone? In Knightsbridge... Of course he does. and you live in Lala Land

Asskicker · 09/01/2016 13:04

flat I am good thanks, have a cup of tea and a tub of White Choc and berry peanut butter.

Dry January is just making me eat more Grin

tbtc20 · 09/01/2016 13:05

I'm having some me time reading MN in tesco car park.

Original poster
SKLily · 09/01/2016 13:06

He pretty much has to follow American time zones because his company is based in America, therefore colleagues and conferences happen all times of day as it suites in America. It's an easy way of saying he works and lives on a different schedule. He doesn't "work a late shift" he works a normal shift; in America. You can all gather yourselves now that I provided this ground breaking idea!!

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Asskicker · 09/01/2016 13:12

No he works 12.30-10pm.

That's a late shift. Many people in the UK work similar shifts. I have American clients. Sometimes I have to arrange meetings to their schedule.

I don't work in an American time zone. I work late

Asskicker · 09/01/2016 13:13

Op I think you are one of my favourite mners with your groundbreaking idea Grin

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 09/01/2016 13:15

Which american time zone? Arent there like 5 of them?

sellisx · 09/01/2016 13:15

I am a sahm, I work four hours from home. The only time I get to myself is an hour to clean the Windows! Looking forward to next weekend when I get a driving Lesson though

x2boys · 09/01/2016 13:15

i worked nights for three years i still lived in boltonHmm

peppielillyan · 09/01/2016 13:15

1.5 hrs a day in the library while my son is napping

Katedotness1963 · 09/01/2016 13:18

Well mine are teenagers now but when they were little, once a month my husband took them out for 4/5 hours and I used my "me time" to deep clean the house and have a soak in the bath before making the evening meal. About once a year we had a date night.

Badders123 · 09/01/2016 13:18

I think it would be more accurate to say he works a late shift.
You get a lot of me time.
You are very fortunate.
For those of you that work from home, may I ask doing what?

Vixxfacee · 09/01/2016 13:20

Love your threads. Just about to read this one. Hope it doesn't disappoint.

Asskicker · 09/01/2016 13:20

For those of you that work from home, may I ask doing what?

We run a food development company. Mainly for the fitness industry. Part of the house is converted into a working kitchen

KitKat1985 · 09/01/2016 13:22

Well I work full-time, have a 15 month old (who doesn't sleep through even now), have pretty much no support from family with looking after DD, and have to manage all the cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping etc. So I'd say my 'me time' in an average week is listening to the radio to and from work. HTH.

Trust me. You are doing MUCH better than the average mum in terms of having time to yourself.

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