To wish my birthday was not today

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I'm in my late 30s and my birthday is today. I have a lifetime of having joint Christmas/birthday presents, having early or late 'treats' not on the actual day and presents which have obviously been picked up in a rush in the post Christmas sales.

I know it's the thought that counts but the thought seems lacking in care or any personal knowledge of things I like, eg products not tested on animals.
If I get one more set of toiletries from the Boots sale today I may scream.

So I have cancelled my birthday from now on, I am serious. Having lack of care reinforced each year, when I hope each time for the 6th of January to be different is now demoralising.
AIBU?

Mine is 24th January, supposedly the worst day of the year to be born as it's a month after last minute manic spending - and the credit card bills are due this day...

Totally get you OP, my birthday was the 3rd and I hate it with a vengeance....so much so that I end up feeling quite low on my birthday each year.
Immediate family/really close friends always remember and send a nice card/pressie actually wrapped in bday paper but there's always obvious christmas re-gifts/crappy sale items received too.
I'm not ungrateful as it is the thought that counts but sometimes it's obvious that no thought has been applied.
I feel you pain xx

I think that you have thoughtless friends & rellies!

Mine is just before Christmas & I love it!

We put the tree &decs up, go to a Christmas Market if there's one nearby.

Yes, that's Christmas stuff, but I love that I can do that on my birthday.

Sometimes it snows as well-fabulous!

Mind you, I've known snow in June in UK!!

What astounded me most was my a recent big milestone birthday my sister came round with a huge box wrapped in bday paper and when I unwrapped it it was full with 'smelly' sets so very obviously bought in the boots sale
Needless to say they were set aside for re-gifting lol

Mine and two of my dc are days apart in January.My dc often get told from close family they will have to wait until payday for their gift. I tell people not to bother getting me gifts due to dc birthdays.

Have some OP &

I have a January birthday too (next week) so I feel your pain. I've had years of 'joint' birthday and christmas presents and when I was little and dared ask if I could have something for my birthday, I'd be scolded and told I'd only just had presents for Christmas. Youngest child in the family so favoured eldest child (sister) always got two lots of presents and a party and a trip out. As mine was deep mid-winter there were no presents, party or day trip for me. I feel so sorry for the child that I used to be. It hurts to think that your birth date is an inconvenience to others and no effort is made to disguise this uncomfortable fact.

As others have said, after christmas and new year, people are generally tired, broke, on the waggon and don't want to go out.

If ever I were to have children I would actively avoid May shagging (or schedule a c-section for early December).

Good afternoon all. I'm surprised at the posters who use being an adult as a way of ignoring and minimising so many individual experiences and feelings posted on this thread. I refer you back to my previous post.

I think Gnome, you may be right there.

I'm still grumpy today but I suspect things will be different next year............see why do I live in hope?

💐💐 to all difficult birthday folk

I feel your pain. Mine is on the 28th December. One of the first things I said to DH when I met him (in September) was NEVER get me one present for Christmas and Birthday. Its SUCH a pain. And if you forget to put something on your list you have to wait a whole year for it. And nobody ever wants to go out as they're all either with family, or skint, or both. In my family, four of my five cousins have birthdays between 28/12 and 6/1 then my stepdad is on 10/1. Both my children have summer birthdays!

I agree, my dds bday is the second of January and is a nightmare. People have to be organised and get it on the thirty first or earlier as shops are shut. So she often gets sale stuff that's been grabbed compared to my other two who get asked if there's anything they'd like. Or just cash.

People forget about her bday alot and people have forgotten about her party. It is pretty rubbish.

My sisters the third and she's been the same her whole life. Nobody ever up for celebrating with her as they are skint even for big ones like her eighteenth and twenty first no one turned up after saying they would except me and my mum 😞

My sons the fourteenth the same day as ny sister in law. Who I use to struggle to choose something for as it was just passed Xmas etc so I know how it feels for the giver and the bday person.

People should abstain from The Sex in April and May.

We have 6 family birthdays in January. Very bad planning on my part as three are my children! One of the others is my husbands. I always do my very best to make them special but it is not a good time to have a birthday.
Happy birthday Op. You share it with one of my relatives:)

And March. ;)

Yes. No need to be at it like a March hare!

My parents' wedding anniversary is in March

My cousin has her birthday on Christmas eve I always wrap her two gifts, it's not hard. Yanbu

I must be the onoy person who always did well out of my Jan bithday.

I'd often get something big for chritmas as a 'joint' gift... then for my birthday i'd still get something else cos mum would feel bad if I didn't have anything to open!

I never felt like having a birthday party as an older teenager / uni as it was always exam time, then as an adult everyone is post-christmas party out. However I've been really surprised the last few years how big an effort people male to come out ofr a meal or something,

January birthdays are worse than pre-18th December bdays imo because Christmas has been. Everyone is fed up of celebrations. The weather is colder. Everyone is on a diet or not drinking.

My parents had two January children. Their wedding anniversary is in April. Be aware if planning children - do not bonk in March or April if you can manage that!

I do have a confession (dons tin hat) I have a February born DD who should have been a leap year baby but a C-section meant she was prior, on a date which happens every year- phew.

If my DD had been a leap year baby, she would have had significantly more to be unhappy about. 😮

Birthday just before Christmas here. DH jokes that he has to make up for years of joint gifts!

my mother's birthday is two weeks into April,

it adds up!!

Mitzy and others, YY to no The Sex in March, April and May. I mean really surely there is gardening, spring cleaning, walking, bird feeding, car maintence, decorating etc etc that could fill our time in order to avoid these difficult birthdays?

Although, I wonder what the world would look like without Capricorns. Stubborn, assertive, loyal and passionate. Imagine no Sir Isaac Newton, no Ben Kingsley, Joan Baez or Carol Ann Duffy.

Uuumm tough call.

Happy Birthday OP (and all other fellow January'ers)!!

My birthday is the 7th. I did go through a teenage stage of being far too cool for birthdays, but for the last 10 years have made a deliberate effort to enjoy it!

I think of the end of the year as a two week festival of fun! Christmas (my favourite time of the year!), NYE, then...my birthday! I force my friends to halt their dry Januarys or new diets (or at lest come out anyway!), and really look forward to the day!