To send him this text?

[CrazyTracey]

Long story short, met someone in summer 15 and we saw each other a few times in quick succession, as she was moving house a few days later. We made vague plans to meet up and messaged after but this came to nothing as we were living in different places and then she was moving to another country for 12 weeks! Didn't sleep together, but had a tipsy kiss or three

Im a tad paranoid that she thought I didn't like her romantically as I was a bit insular on our last meeting due to work worries? I asked her out for a drink shortly after but she couldn't make the dates I suggested

Anyway now I've actually moved to a big city fairly near her, literally today. I think she's back in the country too and has finished her secondment abroad.

Worth sending a text out of the blue d'you think? Timing is a lot more in our side now if we wanted to meet for a drink.

Oh SGB that's lovely!!

Well you could be dignified all alone. Or you could get some undignified chance of shagging. your choice.

But does she know you've moved nearer? She might just be thinking you're a lost cause cos you're so far away from each other.

You don't have to beg, just ask nicely. I think it will be fine (gut feeling) Nothing to lose anyway!

What if you don't text her and she gets swiped up by someone else . Go for it. Please keep us updated.

Go for it. If she's not interested she'll make an excuse and then you'll know. No harm done. But if she is interested...

Ok! I will send!

So you lot think a more general message as opposed to specific dates? Do I need to shoehorn the whole I-wasn't-rejecting-you-just-shy thing in or should I leave that out?

I'd personally just leave that bit out for now , Tracey .
Just something short and simple a long the lines of Hi....... It's Tracey here. Just wondered if you'd like to meet up sometime for a few drinks /meal. ...

How's this?

Hey, hope all's good and happy new year :) I've moved back to XYZ now so thought I'd see if you fancied a drink sometime soon? x

CrazyTracey Faint heart 'ner won fair lady didn't ya know?.

Give me her number and I'll chat her up for you;)

Text her text her text her! Along the lines of say 'hey I've just moved back to xxx place are you back from your overseas/whatever it was? Would love to take you out for a catchup and maybe more if you are back? Or even just to catchup with you if that's what you'd prefer ' something like that? I'd love to get a text like that sad tired single mum of three

I'd say

Hi X. I've been thinking about you lately and I'm now living in Y so was wondering if you would like to meet up. I'm free now all the next week or so except for - random date you're busy.

Don't say maybe more!! It's awful.

Oh dear, perhaps why I'm single I'm so out of date kids dad only person last 14 years

See if you can work in the phrase "I haven't stopped thinking about you" because

• you haven't
• it (indirectly) addresses the not-rejecting-you-just-shy issue
• it's very romantic. What a message to get on New Years Eve!

Argh I can't do the I haven't stopped thinking about you! How about "been thinking about you a lot lately"?

Ohh text text!
Yep throw in been thinking about you a lot.
And update us when she replies

Fucking hell I just had a flashback, I actually gritted my teeth when we held hands on our last meeting! Fuckfuckfuck whodoesthat

I was nervous and really stressed

Yes, that works but send the text before one if us comes round and does it for you

Ok ok I'll send

"Hi, X, it's Tracey. I'm now living in XXX. Been thinking about you lately and wondered if you'd like to meet up for a drink?"

Light and easy. I wouldn't say 'thinking about you a lot', just 'thinking about you'.

Good luck!

Christmascarcass that's fab, SENT

Thanks lovely MNers!!

Definitely go for it!