AIBU Re Christmas Money

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DSCs have £60 each for Xmas they are 8 & 10.

I have always tried to guide my DC into saving money gifted to them for something they really want.

OH takes his DCs to large toy store and lets them blow it on whatever they want (today 3 days after Xmas when they have been given loads of lovely gifts) - one has an armful of soft toys when she already has loads at home.

I suggested to him (out of earshot of the kids) that he should be guiding them a bit more in the value of money (as he constantly moans about how crap and frivolous with money their mum is) and into saving their money for something they really want. He has now relayed this to the DC who are upset and pissed off as they thought they could buy whatever they wanted like a trolley dash round the toy shop. I said it's none of my business at the end of the day I was just suggesting he should be encouraging them to be more sensible rather than blow it on a load of things they don't really want (or need).

AIBU and a grumpy controlling bitch?

What do others do?

Whenever my kids got money I paid it into a savings account and bought toys from car bots and charity shops. they were massively pleased to get a large sum of money at 18.

I always encouraged my DS to save a bit. However, I remember my normally very frugal mil giving my DS money on one birthday and loudly saying this is for you, to spend however you like.
It took me by surprise as it was clearly to let me know to butt out.
Since then, I really believe gifted money will be spent entirely differently to earned money and should be. Until your child earns you won't see what they have learned