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AIBU?

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To be a bit jealous of other people's Christmas days?!

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Zola1980 · 26/12/2015 17:49

Ours was just a bit dull. Nice lunch round parents and a game of monopoly, but judging by everyone else on FB they all seem to have a riot!

We've only got immediate family (me, DH, DPs and nan) and had a few glasses of wine but no one is the 'get pissed' sort so feel a bit of a lush by keeping drinking. It was just a bit dull and was glad when it was late enough to take myself off to bed!

Anyone else have a slightly dull day?! Definitely considering going away next year!

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formerbabe · 26/12/2015 17:52

but judging by everyone else on FB they all seem to have a riot

Yep...They are so busy having such a fantastic, amazing, blessed vomit time that they stop to post all about it on social media!

HicDraconis · 26/12/2015 17:57

I'm always a bit wary of judging how much fun someone is having when my only view of it is what they choose to post on social media.

Enjoy doing whatever you want to do. Stay home, go away, throw a party, spend the day reading and eating chips & chocolate - comparison is the thief of joy. Stop comparing yourself by how much fun you perceive others to be having, you'll be much happier.

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Zola1980 · 26/12/2015 17:58

I know what you mean but the photos all look like everyone is having a laugh, while we just seem a bit dull!

We get on well and I see my parents for s meal once a week and feel like we have more of a laugh then! Maybe it's because I feel cooped up after a few hours and just need my own space. Or Maybe i am just a real life Scrooge!

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ffs78 · 26/12/2015 18:00

We were entertaining a largeish group of family members including children with lots of games etc. I was run ragged serving and clearing up and had a raging headache by the end of the day. I was so relieved when they all went home and I fell into bed. Sil posted her photos of the day on Facebook today and it looks like a fab day. I'm not saying it wasn't but I found it hard work entertaining all those people. All I'm saying is don't read too much into photos on Facebook. They don't tell you how people really feel! Yours sounds like a nice chilled out day. There's a lot of pressure to live up to this "amazing day" but all anyone really wants to do is eat their dinner and watch a bit of telly!

Genvonklinkerhoffen · 26/12/2015 18:02

I was trying to give my DF who has Parkinson's disease a day away from the farm whilst looking after my alcoholic mother who has just had a hip replacement. Whilst doing lunch and maintaining the house to my mother's high standards and look after the farm.

Mrsmorton · 26/12/2015 18:02

So yes, a spot of monopoly wood have been fucking excellent. YABU.

CwtchMeQuick · 26/12/2015 18:02

My Facebook looks like I had a fun filled day. In reality I sat at my nans with DS feeling progressively more shit and it was just like a normal Sunday.
It wasn't a bad day. But not as good as it may appear.
Don't compare your day to other people's facebooks

Mrsmorton · 26/12/2015 18:03

Would. FFS

Sallystyle · 26/12/2015 18:05

MN seems to have much better Xmases than I do.

Mine was nice enough, but it was stressful, and the mess is horrible and it takes ages to cook the dinner but others state that it took them no time at all.

Everyone seems to eat loads, whereas my family gets full quickly and my lovely Xmas dinner that took so long to cook was finished within 15 minutes and I wondered why we went to the bother. They were very grateful but still, all that time cooking and it was done and dusted so quickly, then we are left with a butt loads of dishes to wash (no dishwasher) people offer to do the dishes for us but I can't really say yes.

Next year I'm getting a take away for sure, so me and DH can relax as well. I am doing it differently from now on. 5 children later and I am going to shake things up so no one is in the kitchen.

UninventiveUsername · 26/12/2015 18:05

This is one of the reasons I rarely go on Facebook - I always come away feeling inadequate. I know I could post photos and stuff to make my life seem just as exciting, but I prefer to stay away.

DeltaZeta · 26/12/2015 18:08

My day consisted of my extended family sniping at each other. My brother got hammered as usual. The DC were overexcited and manic.

I'd love a mythical MN Christmas.

Janeymoo50 · 26/12/2015 18:10

Facebook can be very misleading. Example: my DN posting endless pictures of the kids, pressies etc but the reality is she is now skint, had an argument with her mum, husband went to the pub and left her with three wains and she was wiping up sick at 11pm and was in tears on the phone to me this morning as she is wacked. I sometimes think those who don't post on FB every second of their day, their dinner plate (??!!), etc etc could possibly be having just a nice a time (if not better). FB is a self boasting tool for a whole generation these days.

tywinlannister · 26/12/2015 18:11

YABU. My Christmas Day looked great in the photos - which I took and posted before having an epileptic seizure, my first in a year and a half. Obvs I don't post about that because who wants to read such a downer on Xmas day. Never judge by what's on FB.

thebestfurchinchilla · 26/12/2015 18:15

This is exactly why I deactivated my Facebook account. Apart from being a huge time waster, I always felt bad after looking at what everyone else was doing, even If I was perfectly happy with what I was doing. I remind myself that whenever a camera is pointed at you, you smile regardless. So try to imagine the scene 1 moment before the camera went click and after.

We were out for a meal recently with our DC and I noticed a family of 4 on another table, all had phones out, there was barely any conversation and they left quite soon after eating. I bet their Facebook accounts showed them checking in at that restaurant with quotes " having a lovely meal with fam" Yeah right!

lorelei9 · 26/12/2015 18:15

If it makes you feel better, I'm bored silly and can't wait to go home to my own bed tomorrow. Then again, I've no idea why Chrisymas is meant to be fun.

Quite like NYE though.

CherryPits · 26/12/2015 18:20

Christmas day is boring, for everyone across the world.. Those who say otherwise are either demented or drunk (or a little of both).

GloriaHotcakes · 26/12/2015 18:23

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thebestfurchinchilla · 26/12/2015 18:23

Fakebook! Excellent Gloria

rosewithoutthorns · 26/12/2015 18:24

I actually think boxing day is the boring one. Or the phew its over now but feeling kind of deflated. Its a thrown on us Sunday :) but its saturday!

MrsJayy · 26/12/2015 18:26

Id love a MN/facebook christmas its magicalin reality it was ok dinner at my mums me and dh help plate up dad wolfing down his dinner like he hasnt seen food sisters boyfriend shouting not talking bollocks as usual then the dishes soo many dishes.

Heatherbell1978 · 26/12/2015 18:27

I know what you mean. I'm not hugely close to my family but we spend Xmas/Boxing Day together. We had a good time and it was a nice day although DH got blind drunk and vomited all last night so it's been up to me to supervise crazy toddler since 6am this morning. I've just been on FB thinking the same thing (I didn't even take any piccies of DS with his pressies...) but I was also thinking that every year it's becoming more and more fashionable to post the family pictures and 'Xmas albums'. I'm on FB a lot but I've always hated cheesey 'look at me' posts. I'm positive a lot of it is a facade. Think I should spend less time on FB next year as I always do the whole comparing thing too.

kittypaws · 26/12/2015 18:28

Op me and you both, my xmas was really boring, the neighbor across the road was having a party, i kept looking thinking i wish i was there lol

Perfectlypurple · 26/12/2015 18:31

They say 'don't compare your behind the scenes with everyone else's highlight reel'

Christmas is what you make it. For me, I spent a few hours with dh in the morning, then he went to work and I spent the rest of the day/evening on my own. It was fine.

WitchWay · 26/12/2015 18:34

My Christmases have mostly been less than I'd like. Occasionally we've been away skiing in a big chalet with loads of other folk which is fantastic.

After "the great storming out of 1999" when my DM played "who's the favourite grandparent" with DS (nearly 2) leading to PILs leaving early on Boxing Day (DM merely sliced the pork joint for that evening in half & carried on as if nothing had happened) we have had mostly just DH DS & me, apart from when late DF was ill, dying & newly deceased when we stayed at DP/DM's.

As the "token girl" it has always fallen to me to do all the shopping, prep, cooking & washing up & it's pretty dull from my perspective.

DS is nearly 18 now & is a typical "antisocial" teenager, compounded by the fact that he & DH each think the other is an arse. DH is the arse, as it happens. DS mostly avoids him to try to prevent a row.

Destinysdaughter · 26/12/2015 18:37

I spent it completely alone. Count your blessings OP.

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