AIBU to think that my mum got her enough?

[LookingForwardto2016]

My mum came to visit today, and she brought the children's Christmas presents from her.

I have three children and my dp has one child plus the three we have together. For our three, my mum got them a toy, some pyjamas, some chocolates, some colouring things and £30 each. My mum got my dp's child "just" some colouring things and some chocolates.

Am I being unreasonable to think my mum got her enough? My dp agrees with me because my mum doesn't really know her but wanted to make sure she still had something to open. Plus my mum is aware that she has a whole other family on her mum's side that she will have got presents from. But she was looking around for "the rest" of hers and was really ungrateful about the ones she actually did get. DP had to explain to her that she can't always have everything the same when her siblings have different family to her especially when they don't know her very well.

I'm not saying that she doesn't like her, but she should be able to give her grandchildren a little bit more because they are her grandchildren surely. And my children should be able to benefit from their mum's side of the family in the same way their sister has with her mum's side of the family.

What do others think?

What's truly extraordinary? math

That we are no longer close to someone we don't see or hear from who moved away sometime ago and my children who struggle to know who she is?

Life moves on.

'No longer close' isn't quite the same thought as 'no longer a part of our lives'.

It's still really weird that the gulf has opened just because of geography.
Did you ever make an effort to keep up contact?

Yes we did keep more contact at first, but now I really just see her posts on FB.
I don't think my younger two recognise her readily. It was what one of my younger DD said "she's not in my life" when we were trying to explain who she was. We realised she couldn't remember seeing her. It was then I realised, yes DD was right, she wasn't to any meaningful extent part of our lives. We do a lot of shared experiences as family, to which she is never part of so our more recent memories - and all of DDs - do not include her.

We are highly highly unlikely to visit her, cost, time needed, inability to take time off outside school hols or often inside school hols. It is oddly like she has passed on.

That's an MN mantra alright but I don't agree it's impolite to talk to your mother! Esp about gifts she's giving to your children!!

Does depend on your relationship obviously.

And ime people generally try to give fairly equitably to children.