Can't wait to give away my presents

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Is this terrible? As I get older I just find I'm way more particular about the stuff I like. Also I HATE clutter and I've been trying to only keep things that I love or that are useful in the house.

I rarely keep any presents I get, around 90% get re gifted or sent to charity shop. It means I really treasure the lovely stuff (this year: posh towels from dsis; organic face cream MIL; diamond necklace DP; Molton brown bits from BIL and new books and wine from DM. And it doesn't get missed in the sea of Bayliss & Harding-esque gift sets (label snob ), festive socks/hats/scarves, photo frames and ornaments that I shall be dispensing of on Monday.

Well l think you changed your tone. You sounded it bit like Hyacinth to start with, and ended up like Uriah Heep!
Read your opening post, then your subsequent ones...

Fuck my life.

OP, you sound ridiculous.

Next year, someone please remind me to log off MN on Christmas Eve and not log back on until all this shit has blown over and everyone has returned to 'normal'. Cheers.

This thread is awful and not at all in the spirit of Christmas. Everyone receives gifts they are not fond of. As other posters have said take a trip to a charity shop or store them for regifting. It's not difficult.

This makes me sad. Once I spent hours making something for someone (something which sells for £30 in a shop, not like a badly made mug!) they opened it and just put it to the side, it really hurt me.

I get far too much at Xmas too. A fair bit of it gets re gifted or donated.

I too like naice things so I'd keep those. I got Baylis and Harding this year which I will probably keep but I don't put it in the same pile as molten brown (which to be fair I really like regardless of price )

I'm seriously thinking of asking people not to buy me so much next year - spend it on the younger kids or donate.

I don't want to be ungrateful but I really did get a lot and while I will use the soaps and most of the toiletries I certainly don't "need" them.

A lot of it is "oh god I need to hey a present for not" rather than something especially thoughtful IYSWIM - I can tell because a fair few of is you her cousins all get similar sets.

While I appreciate the effort I also wouldn't mind just getting a card !

I obviously have never said to the gift giver any of this but I might tactfully suggest next year I'd appreciate a donation to x charity or a card is all i need.

OP, you have no class.

" 90% get re gifted or sent to charity shop. It means I really treasure the lovely stuff (this year: posh towels from dsis; organic face cream MIL; diamond necklace DP; Molton brown bits from BIL and new books and wine from DM."
The 10% of lovely stuff seems like a lot of stuff...do you really get another 54 presents for xmas (I.e. the other 90%) OP?

My mother used to say every year, like a broken record, 'don't buy me anything', 'I hate clutter', 'I'm too old, and it's time to be getting rid of stuff not accumulating more stuff' etc etc. Very wearing. Why can't people just play the game and be grateful that someone has gone to the effort of thinking of them. Frankly if you secretly get rid of it, well who cares.

In the end, I took her at her word and bought her nothing at all, year after year after year.

Yes fig, no-one gives a fig really. Why do people have to be so precious about it all? Someone complained once about the Secret Santa pressie I got them. I didn't know them from Adam. I only gave them something in the first place because it was more or less compulsory. Bah humbug!

I have no problem with your original post, OP, and don't understand the flak you're taking here. You take stuff you don't want and you give it away, to others or to charity.

It's not like you're letting the gift givers know.

A gift is a a gift. Once it's given, you can do what you want with it.