DH friend wating to hijack christmas eve

[Sunbeam1112]

We have issues previously of DH friend coming over excessively on the evening.One year he was round christmas eve and christmas day night ( he has family of his own) Me and DH have young children and i told him a couple of days i didn't want his friend coming over late christmas eve as i want to set everything up and spend time together.

Tonight he texts making DH guilty he wants to come over and play fifa. His family were going out but he didn't want to go. He has a tendancy of sleeping over on the settee which i don't think is approiate on christmas day!

I said no so now its caused an arugement between me and DH. I just wanted to spent quality time together. Personally this time should be for family and boxing day/New year for friends. Aibu? Friend has on/off GF. If he comes round they go play fifa in the other room whilst i'l be sat on my own in the front room.

Your husband is the one in the wrong here.

YANBU. How old are they?!

No is a complete sentence.
Tho sometimes absolutely no fucking way can add a certain something.

The issue is not your dh's friend unfortunately, it's your DH.
Yanbu to want family time, but your DH needs to be on the same page as you in order to have that.
It sounds like the sort of argument my sister has with her 12 year old son...

OMG you are definitely NOT being unreasonable.

As long as he's NOT coming, the argument should die down. Just don't fuel it, you've won!

OMG how old is DH?

It's all pretty pathetic sounding.

Yanbu to want family time, but your DH needs to be on the same page as you in order to have that.

I was going to say this.

I would hate the fact that i'd had to 'say no' to my DH about this. ''it's caused an arugement between me and DH.'' Who wants to have to argue to get someone to spend time with them?

OP

29. I stood my ground hes not coming. Hes out of his huff now. I don't mind his friend coming over but i think sometimes theres a time and a place and christmas eve isn't it.x

Get rid of him.

Is he 12? When you say he has family, is he the type that is 40 but still an overgrown teenager living with mum and dad?

I could understand if he was wanting to come over for drinks and nibbles/socializing but to play FIFA? YANBU

Ask him why he doesn't want a family only evening.

It's bit extreme to say get rid of him. He doesn't constantly play his xbox. He only goes on occassion when kids are in bed. I think my marriage is worth more than a console lol.

Oh my god FIFA? Babyish.

He said he felt sorry for his friend as his not seeing his son tonight. But i also said he could of went out with his own family to the pub but chose not to.DH thought i was having an early night due to me 6months pregnant.

Playing Fifa. Jesus Christ. How old are these two?

Your DH and his mate sound like teenagers.

How convenient. The early night comment.

How worrisome that your husband would rather play a video game with a friend on Christmas eve than spend family time. What age is he? Why isn't he excited about preparing Christmas for his children??

The FiFA isn't really an issue to be honest. I know plenty of people in our age range with xbox's my 33 old DB has a playstation4 and my 36 DB has an xbox. So i don't think its odd. I wouldn't agree wih him having it if he was constantly on it day and night and didn't look after the kids but hes a great dad. But its a once the week thing.

Theres nothing to build toys wise just to put them out.

Grown men playing FIFA?

That's very tragic.

YANBU
Does the friend not have a console of his own to play on? If he doesn't then tell your DH if he's so bothered to lend him his. Christmas Eve when you have kids is about your kids and your DH is being a dick

Really im so suprised that FIFA is such an issue with mn users. Its not like his off out drinking, spending all the money or cheating. Just wanted to know if i was in the right but not to completely throw away 5 years over a game is extreme that some people have suggested. How many of us are guilty of owing tablets and vairous over devices and playing games and social media?

Lostmyxmasspirit i don't think he has an xbox but doubt DH would lend him ut he has a habit of breaking things

Gaming isn't the issue here, there's nothing wrong with adults playing games! It's OPs partner not knowing how to say no and doesn't seem to want to spend time with OP.. and then huffing about it when she makes the reasonable request of it just being them on Christmas eve.