DH friend wating to hijack christmas eve

[Sunbeam1112]

We have issues previously of DH friend coming over excessively on the evening.One year he was round christmas eve and christmas day night ( he has family of his own) Me and DH have young children and i told him a couple of days i didn't want his friend coming over late christmas eve as i want to set everything up and spend time together.

Tonight he texts making DH guilty he wants to come over and play fifa. His family were going out but he didn't want to go. He has a tendancy of sleeping over on the settee which i don't think is approiate on christmas day!

I said no so now its caused an arugement between me and DH. I just wanted to spent quality time together. Personally this time should be for family and boxing day/New year for friends. Aibu? Friend has on/off GF. If he comes round they go play fifa in the other room whilst i'l be sat on my own in the front room.

Another gaming lover here, 36 and love FIFA, adults make up the bigger percentage of the gaming market according to some study I read sometime, something to do with disposable income that children don't have, lots of games are 18 and over because they are for adults.

Gaming can be for everyone not just teenage boys, it's as valid a hobby as watching TV, listening to music,reading or even MNetting. Doing any of these with your mates on Christmas Eve when your spouse is rightfully wanting to spend quality time with you is what's the problem. Not the hobby itself. Plenty of time for FIFA the rest of the year. I love kicking my 34 year old brothers arse at street fighter, but not on Christmas Eve.

I love gaming. I'm 46.

Your dh and, especially, his mate are bloody odd to think Christmas eve is a good time to visit and play Fifa though.

I'm shocked how people jumped on the FIFA issue so quickly as I lay in bed while DH is on his PS4 playing FIFA.

A lot of posters here are weird about gaming and see it as childish. I don't it pays the bills in this house, each to their own!

I don't why people find gaming or Fifa is such an issue. I love my Xbox, not Fifa but it's a game. Same as any game. Lots of adults like gaming.

I am glad its sorted OP , I wouldn't say it's worth kicking him out. But it doesn't need a conversation, when you aren't wound up about why this isn't ok.

I went out with someone whose friend was always there. Even if the boyfriend was out with me, we would get back and he would be there. I was about 18, and we went out on Valentine's and got back to boyfriends house, after a meal out and friend was saying waiting for us he said that I had, had all evening with my boyfriend so should go home and let them spend time together.

I did dump him because it, but we didn't have kids etc. I wasn't invested in the relationship and could see what would happen.

That boyfriend is now married with kids. His wife said that she did sump him at one point over it and he spoke to the friend about boundaries. The friend didn't take it well and hasn't spoken to him since.