So embarrassed

[Notwithoutareason]

Got some vouchers for dsis and Bil for Xmas for a restaurant as they like eating out.

Gave them today and they look up the food rating and it was low. Dsis was disgusted and gave them back saying "we can't even re gift that"

I'm so embarrassed :(

Did not occur to me to check first as although we had not eaten there ourselves it had been recommended to us and was local so we thought it was a nice present
I feel mortified

Poor you.

It is a slightly unusual gift. I can imagine giving (and have given ) vouchers for a special restaurant but a local Indian restaurant is not one I'd pick unless it was one like Amaya in Belgravia.

But it was a very, very generous gift. I'd never spend that amount on my brother and sister in law (and they are lovely ). Your sister is jaw droppingly rude.

You should feel very cross, not embarrassed. Their behaviour was disgusting.
Enjoy a meal out with some nice people and rave about how great the food is afterwards (even if it's not!)

Please never get her another Christmas gift - I'd sure as hell tell her why too.

Poor OP, your sister just treated you terribly - unimaginable really! Her partner should have been crawling under the table with embarrassment....perhaps they deserve each other.

Next year get them a framed photo of you and your husband eating like kings at the restaurant. Give it to them without comment.

Lass why is it a strange gift, when we still did presents for grown ups I've done restaurant vouchers plus babysitting for my SIL it was gratefully received.

Boomboom, are you serious?

Lazy and thoughtless to give a £100 voucher for a restaurant meal!!!!

Bollocks! What a horrible comment. Are you the OP's sister perhaps?

I'd say unusual and imaginative.

I have given reasturant vouchers to my parents for the place they like to go its really not unusual . I would love that as a gift.

I won't eat any were with a low hygiene rating.

She should have put it more nicely, but surely it's better to give it back rather than put it in the bin?

I think that you should be able to be honest with your Sister, the "manners" thing doesn't quite stand in the same way as non close family.

However I would have taken it and contacted you in the next few days, unless I lived miles away.

Your sister is very very very rude. Certainly dont give her anythng else. Use the vouchers yourself. You have nothing to be embarrassd about. I do check food hygiene ratings myself but how your sister dealt with it is awful. Cant believe the regifting comment. Have a lovely xmas op and enjoy your indian meal in the new year x

BoomBoom - I'm just aghast at your comment. And jolly glad you're not someone I'm obliged to buy a present for.

OP a voucher for a meal out is a cracking gift. Your sister is bloody rude.

How rude of her!!!!

If that was my sister she would never get another present from me. I wouldnt say anything nasty to her now though but on next Christmas just tell her you are not doing presents for her because she is ungrateful self centered bitch.

Op go and enjoy the meal with your friends.

Nevertheless it doesn't sound like a great gift. Why would you give vouchers to a particular restaurant without checking if it's any good unless you either know they love it or have tried it yourself and think it's wonderful? It seems kind of lazy and thoughtless.

it was recommended to her i would take the personal recommendation from someone rather than an online rating which could be written by anyone be inaccurate out of date etc etc

I think it's a great gift. Local to them and they love eating out. Thats not thoughtless.

I don't think it was the trip advisor rating, abbs, rather the "scores on the doors" rating from the council.

I do sympathise, reason. My PIL (well MIL, really, but FIL Goes along with it) are always rude about what we give them. Thoughtful, practical, expensive presents. If it were me, I wouldn't bother, but it's DH's call, as they are his family.

In future, either get her nothing, or if that will cause a problem in the wider family, something like bubble bath, that she can regift, if she doesn't like it. (If you do that, be prepared for the rude comments, though.)

Lass why is it a strange gift, when we still did presents for grown ups I've done restaurant vouchers plus babysitting for my SIL it was gratefully received

Did you read my post ? As I said, so have I but I wouldn't have picked an Indian restaurant. I live in a city which has 1000s of restaurants including many Indian restaurants. If I were giving restaurant vouchers I'd pick a special, destination restaurant. My 2 local Indian restaurants are not that ; they are "perfectly fine, can't be arsed cooking tonight and there's no food in the house " places.

But , the sister's reaction is unacceptable.

Agree with ouvyre - why splash out a hundred quid on her when she gives token gifts like bubble bath.
Am also a bit gobsmacked at the poster who said give the voucher to the friends who recommended the restaurant! Maybe I'm tight but I'm not in the habit of turning over £100 to my friends at the drop of a hat.

Keep the voucher, use it for you and your family and buy her a tin of Quality Street next year.

fucking hell!

YANBU. Ungrateful bitch. I'd like to give BIL some credence as he didn't say anything so hopefully he bollocked her when they left but fuck me. My sister is in ungrateful cow but serious that is a shit reaction from your sister.

Next year, buy her a charity present, building sanitary conditions in places of need.

I know it's already been said, but do NOT buy them any presents ever again.

We spent more and got the voucher as they've had a bit of a bad time lately with dsis mil getting divorced (she has latched onto them as is desperately lonely)
We got £100 voucher as knew if they went out that mil would want to go too so thought it would enable them to include her and not leave them out of pocket

Kind of backfired a bit though

We hadn't been there personally as it's not that local to us but friends who live in the area recommended it highly hence us getting the voucher

I think it sounds a lovely idea and am so sorry you're feeling so bad about it.
Sounds as if it was totally wasted on such a rude and undeserving recipient.

Rude fucking bitch. Don't you dare feel embarrassed. Book a table in the New Year, you and friends.

She is extremely rude. My favourite Chinese has a food rating of 1, I tried a local one which got a 4 and it was no where near as nice. We also have a local Indian restaurant which gets a 4 and people are always complaining about food poisoning so I wouldn't go off a rating alone, normally I choose places that are recommended by people I know. There's so many reasons why restaurants get poor ratings it's usually paperwork or management and not hygiene.

Wow thats rude. Yes you enjoy it. You gave a lovely thoughtful gift, not your fault she didnt like it.

i thought my sister was bad but your sister sounds like a fucking rude bitch. do yourself a favour and tell her that. ridiculous for YOU to feel rude....