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So embarrassed

222 replies

Notwithoutareason · 23/12/2015 17:39

Got some vouchers for dsis and Bil for Xmas for a restaurant as they like eating out.

Gave them today and they look up the food rating and it was low. Dsis was disgusted and gave them back saying "we can't even re gift that"

I'm so embarrassed :(

Did not occur to me to check first as although we had not eaten there ourselves it had been recommended to us and was local so we thought it was a nice present
I feel mortified

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Notwithoutareason · 23/12/2015 19:29

I know that for the last few years dm has told dais what her 'budget' for her is, dsis then gets herself what she wants for that amount and dm wraps it as dsis can be difficult to buy for

I always like to keep things under the tree for Xmas but am tempted now to see what she got us. I usually easy to please though so whatever it is is probably fine for me, she's never got anything terrible before usually just things like chocolate/biscuits/bubble baths/dvd that kind of selection

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mayaknew · 23/12/2015 19:29

OP this has been asked a few times sorry to repeat but does she have form for this? Is she a bitch normally rude and ungrateful?

Also what was her initial relation? I need to know how this played out because I cannot get my head around such behaviour. Shocking Xmas Angry

Lauren15 · 23/12/2015 19:30

I'm totally speechless. It is one of rudest things I've read on MN.

ohlittlepea · 23/12/2015 19:31

Can't actually believe she said that! Please don't feel bad about it. You tried to do something nice. Don't buy them something else whatever happens xx

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Notwithoutareason · 23/12/2015 19:32

She can be snobby yes but this is the worst I've ever seen her

She just looked at it, read the restaurant name out looked puzzled, said 'where's that' and got her phone out to look it up

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Wagglebees · 23/12/2015 19:32

I'd open them now as I wouldn't want to give her a single thought on Christmas Day and have her negativity tainting things.

CoffeeCoffeeAndLotsOfIt · 23/12/2015 19:32

She sounds awful.

It was a lovely thought and a v generous gift.

I'd seriously consider not buying for her again EVER! ThanksCakeWine

Wagglebees · 23/12/2015 19:33

Christ what's wrong with "Thank you"? Who does that??

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 23/12/2015 19:34

Shock. I've met some rude and ungrateful people in my time, but your sister takes the top prize.

wannanewone · 23/12/2015 19:39

I am gobsmacked. What a rude ungrateful pair!

Has she ever heard of manners? and she left it on the table?

I know this isn´t what you should do, but I would be sooooo tempted to declare that you don`t like the particular biscuits and chocolate, that the bubble bath stinks, and that you have heard the DVD is crap.

Enjoy a nice meal out with someone who appreciates your generosity.

Travelledtheworld · 23/12/2015 19:41

Poor you.
Next year I would say something like "you don't really NEED" a present do you,so I will donate the money I would have spent to the local food bank, where it will be appreciated.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 23/12/2015 19:44

You've no need to feel mortified.

Next year go to pound shop for them and have done

OhBigHairyBollocks · 23/12/2015 19:51

That's fucking awful OP- your sister should be embarrassed for being such a rude, ungrateful cow Shock

Go out with DP and have a lovely time. And don't buy her anything again!

ShipwreckedAndComatose · 23/12/2015 19:52

What a rude thing to do!!

Sunnybitch · 23/12/2015 19:54

Tell you sister that you've had your money back for the voucher and you've now payed for her to go on a course to learn some manners!

Cheeky cow!

Ringadingdingdong · 23/12/2015 20:00

What a rude ungrateful bitch. Can't believe her first reaction was to look up the food rating in front of you. In no way should you be embarrassed. Next year do a charity donation as her present.

GabiSolis · 23/12/2015 20:01

Fuck me. Definitely leading the race for MN rudest relative of the year!

WoodHeaven · 23/12/2015 20:01

What I really can't get my head around is the fact she felt necessary to check the rating whilst at your house.
I mean, why??

And even then, it was such a rude thing to do.

At least, you got to keep the voucher. If they had checked it at home, they would have put it in the bin and these £100 would have been wasted.

Unreasonablebetty · 23/12/2015 20:05

The people who recommended the Indian to you, give them the gift card.
They will love it.
Give your sister fuck all in future.

ValancyJane · 23/12/2015 20:27

What a cow! Definitely go yourself and have a lovely meal :)

CheerfulYank · 23/12/2015 20:33

Is this a wind up? I hope so because I literally cannot believe someone could be so rude.

Pumpkinpositive · 23/12/2015 21:10

Make sure you take lots of selfies of yourself enjoying sumptious meal at restaurant and upload them to FB.

Id ask some friends to leave comments like, "OMG, that looks amazing! What restaurant is that???"

reallywittyname · 23/12/2015 22:36

Your sister is an arse. So just buy her bog roll from now on.

MrsH1989 · 23/12/2015 22:49

Indian restaurants often get bad ratings because they use tradition ways to prepare foods that don't always go with our western hygiene standards. It doesn't mean they are filthy and germ ridden!

SquareStarfish · 23/12/2015 23:02

For what it's worth on the rating front- my favourite Chinese restaurant went from 5 to 1 not long ago. I actually rang the council people to enquire as to why and should I avoid it and they told me it was down to their paperwork being done wrong. Not long after the rating was back up.

And no matter where the place if you can see someone has spent £100 on you you should act grateful to their face!